I don't understand people! I am married and not an unfit mother!

People do this? or one or two insensitive clods? I can hardly believe it is something a lot of people do! For all anyone knows, if having 3 kids is a big deal, you could be providing daycare! I know, when my two were little, I had two others in tow. Of course, it was obvious they weren't mine, but still. I guess three is considered a "big" family these days. Phew! I escaped censure by only having 2!

I don't understand what business is it of others when you seem to be a good mom in a good marriage. Maybe you look very young for your age and they don't realize that you are grown and in your thirtys. I remember when I thought I was in labor with my first born I was going to be 22 years old. I had to be rushed to the hospital and the doctor had the nerve to say to me you shouldn't be in this condition at your age. He thought I was 16 or 17. Well the nurse ripped into him to be talking to me like that and told him that I was almost 22 years old. Of course he did not apologize because he was so ignorant. This is probably the problem with these people and I would just ignore them all and live your life as you wish.

I do not know why people hassle you personally. it really is none of their business but maybe they are making comments are population. If everyone has 3 or more children then the world population will grow too big for the planet to handle. It is the only reason I can think of. I do not think they are making any comments about you as a mother. That does not seem possible since they cannot know what you are like as a mother.

Do you mean,people were asking why you only had 3 kids,is it? They mean that,they were asking you to have more kids? Well,why bothered with what other people say? I also married at the age of 22 and have my first baby when i am 23,i got 3 kids aged 16,14 and 11. And what's the big fuss in there? If only i have to choose,i want 2 kids only,but my ob-gyne told me to have one more. And since i delivered all my kids via C/S operation,so,i go with having 3 kids,and i'm done. Here in my country,couples nowadays prefer to have lesser kids, one or two is enough. And ,yes,many young girls get pregnant as early as 14,and have more kids from different father's(no offense meant) In your case,just ignore people who asks you such questions,don't let them spoil your day. It's none of their business.

Hell cream97, NAAHHHHHLet them be, of course, THEY DON'T KNOW you and it's None of their Business at all. i believe they're nothing more than insecure people who wants to talk about people but couldn't talk about themselves because they don't any good things to talked about. let them be, just call the cops if they become violent.these people have NO right to treat you that way.

Yet another classic case of people not having enough to do. People approach you because they see that you are a happy mother with three beautiful kids, and they want to sniff around to see if there is anything bad in your life going on in order to make themselves feel better. People are such idiots. There is only 2 reasons for people saying things like that to you. 1) There idiots; literally 2) They are tying to hurt your feelings You don't need to justify yourself or your actions to anyone; especially when your life is completely nice and your only doing things that you choose to do. Don't waste your time worrying about there crap. Also, if these people making those comments are close to you I would say something. After you say something if they do it again I would suggest considering distancing, or ending those relationships.

I think you should start telling people you plan on having 12 kids, and 3 is only the beginning. And that you also plan on doing this until your at least 55 years old because that's the new thing now. And you also would like to adopt a few, maybe another 3 or 4 to round things off, and how much fun you think this will be to have such a large family. Think that will shut them up, or will it make them talk more? I say, make them talk more and see who has the last laugh. Anybody who talks to you the way you're mentioning doesn't even deserve a minute of your time. It's NOBODY'S business how many children you and your husband wish to have, NOBODY'S People just don't know when to shut up today...or they have too much time on their hands and need to gossip or complain. So, give them something to talk about, might as well make it interesting.

hi cream you know theres nothing at all wrong with having three kids and p people who talk to like that are really being very rude ,or else they have a very limited repitorie of things to talk about. It seems to me that too many people now days can be complete strangers yet ask some to me really rude questions of me. Just because I am an elderly woman does not for one minute say I am senile or that I have Alzheimer disease. Yet I have had people say you cannot be 83 as you are not senile or you dont sound like you have Alzheimer disease.And I have learned to say why are you saying that,dont you know now days many people in their 80's are just as sound of mind as y ou are. These things to me are just too personal for someone that just knows you casually to even bring up. My only caution to you is if you do have more children be sure now you are starting your thirties to be sure you are super healthy as the probability of having children with birth defects increases dramatically after thirty.I had my first child at age 30 my second at 31, and she was born with brain damage but that was because the doctor should have done a caesarean section before she started having trouble breathing so she was born as a black baby meaning she was not breathing and it took forty minutes to get her to really breathe again, and that was when her brain was damaged. If he had cut me op;en and got her out before she had trouble she would have been a normal baby. as it was she was so pretty and so sweet but she only lived to age 8. hard to handle losing a child very hard.

For me they want that you have a husband and married in a good way because if they are your friend the proud of.

People can be so complex creatures. Very few can actually tell the good from the bad anymore. The same rings true when it comes to parenting. Very few are actually fallowing the princeples that were once treasured not that long ago. Only in the last fifty years, have values really decressed. And, that's streaching it a bit. Ok a lot, but if you stop and think about it... Several years ago, what you saw on t.v. was pretty much how the world worked. But the world has expanded a lot since then. What you see on t.v. is a far cry for how the world works. Good honest people, are blamed for mistakes made by others, because you as the ideal mother, has everything most can't have, because they aren't willing to work for it. Many struggle just to make ends meat. They would rather not admit they are enveus of those who don't have to work four jobs and raise a family. Frowning upon the success of others is the "easy way out" for many. I'm sorry that you get so much dumped on you, but at least you have support ive friends who don't think you're a bad mother. Try not to take it too personally, and ensure this value in your children. Because there are a lot of unkind people in the world. Being the best you can be, is all anyone can ask of you.

Well, you probably look physically young and so people are telling you you're too young to have kids. That's a compliment, right? Some people do have fixed ideas about when one should marry and how many children is the best, etc. We live our own separate lives, right? We are entitled to our own decisions and preferences. These people should have more respect and understanding about other people's lives.

Maybe they are just concerned. Having more than 2 kids are already hard to handle, especially when they are close to age. But that doesnt mean that you must stop having children. Its for your to decide how many you want. Let just say they were giving you advice!

Hi Cream97. Well, just don't mind them. Yeah, maybe you look young compare to other mom at your age. Just don't mind them.. My mom got married when she was 21 and got pregnant at the age of 22 and she has 7 kids.. so there is nothing wrong with you choosing not to have a baby anymore. It is still your life and its you who make decision about how you want your life to be. Just don't mind those people. Have a great day and keep smiling.