in case of emergency
By jesgil
@jesgil (95)
Philippines
July 3, 2010 11:49am CST
i saw my husband's id and i saw that it wasn't my name written on who to contact in case of emergency. i asked him why? he answered me that the one who made the id made a mistake. but i was skeptic on his answer so i asked another question just to found out if he is telling me the truth. he rose into anger and told me that i am getting in his nerves. i did not know why he acted that way because i was asking him politely. i gave him a moment to relax and i went to him so that i can say sorry but he told me he doesn't want to talk to me anymore.we had a big fight because of what happen and now we are separated just like that.in a snap we separated because of some silly things. is it really my fault? what's wrong? please help :(
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5 responses
@lacieice (2060)
• United States
3 Jul 10
Hello jesgil
I really have no idea why he would get so angry about something so insignificant unless he has something to hide. Who was the person whose name was there? Was it someone you know...his parents, perhaps? Maybe he thought you were accusing him of something.
If he is going to get angry and leave over something so small, maybe it's better that you did separate.
And no, I don't think you were wrong. Couples shound not have secrets from each other.
@jesgil (95)
• Philippines
4 Jul 10
the name in his id is JENNEL BACQUIANO. I dont know that name. he said it is his co-member in a motorcycle club. so i did not mind it instead i said sorry but he doesn't want me to. i left him because this is not the first time he treated me so bad. he always hurt me emotionally and sometimes physically. i cant take it anymore. yesterday, he sent me a text message that says i should not come back and he doesnt want me anymore. i felt so hurt because i never made something wrong ever. i was so loyal and honest to him but he just wasted it all. i loved him with all my heart and i gave him everything that i can give but all he did was hurt me.
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
3 Jul 10
i think him getting angry is like his defense mechanism working. i don't know why, but i have a feeling he's not being very honest with you. and he's using anger to make you feel guilty about something you that wasn't your fault. of course you're the wife, you have every right to ask him such questions. sorry, just my opinion, but i think he's the one who's guilty of something he's not telling you about.that's why he made such a big deal out of it.
@jesgil (95)
• Philippines
4 Jul 10
yah i think your right that he is maybe hiding something from me.i already asked him that why he always so angry with me but he said he is not in the mood to talk to me.i also said to him that i have every right to asked him but he said not all things should be asked. i hate him so much right now.
@anne25penn (3305)
• Philippines
4 Jul 10
Men get defensive when they are guilty of something and they cannot tell it to you straight. Try to talk it out again, but if as you said you asked politely, then he is the one who has a problem.
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
4 Jul 10
hi jesgil,
if he is not treating you right, i guess it was so brave of you to do just that- leave. he is obviously hiding something. do you think your marriage is legal? did it ever occur to you after what happened?
ann
