Trash Talking your Sibling/s to your Friends
By carlynganda
@carlynganda (749)
Philippines
July 3, 2010 4:46pm CST
Everytime that I'm reminding my sister that she is playing too much online game or chatting too much or she's not doing anything around the house, I'm often seeing her telling her friends a little something like this:
"oh crap..my bratty sister is here again..she's disturbing our conversation..talk to you later"
or something like:
"gotta go now, my evil sister is here."
I know she's only doing that to sound cool to her friends. But somehow it's hurtful.
I'm guilty too because I'm sometimes doing that if I'm talking about her to my friends, like: "Why can't she made a good decision. She's an idiot for getting into that mess."
But those are just to share to my friends what's happening to our family and I'm not doing it on a daily basis unlike her.
How about you, do you share the same sentiment as mine? Share your story..
7 responses
@med889 (5941)
•
2 Aug 10
I know this is hurting as even me I have experience this situation before where my brother would say things about me to his friends, though I am smaller than him, I like to see that everything is in order and once I heard him say that " the small brat is here again to lecture me" I do not like his attitudes and I even told him that I overheard him and I do not like this and from that day I prefer to do not tell him anything about cleanliness or similar things.
@perrywinkleb (53)
• United States
23 Jul 10
I have a sister too and I know that when I was little all I did was call her mean and wierd to my friends so they wouldn't like her when they came over too our house. Since we were so close in age sometimes my friends wanted to play with her too, and I always got jealous. But if your sister does it on a daily basis, that's just stupid. I'm sorry I don't have anyway too help the situation. Good luck!
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
4 Jul 10
I also ask the same thing. Why cant she make a good decision or even just be decent about the things that she say. Not that I am saying that I am bratty but there was just one incident that made me disappointed and it has something to do with what she said. She already know that that person was already saying bad things about me but she never did anything and just allowed that person to say those things and even agreed to her. How am I suppose to trust her now knowing that we are sisters?
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
4 Jul 10
that's rude but somehow we just can't control ourselves from talking something like that.it is not that "because you did that to me so i will take revenge and do the same thing to you".but in relationships things like this always happened and it is normal for me even if it's so hurtful but they are some one who have a closed relationship to us.usually i will told them to say it directly to my face.
@blarehead (38)
• Philippines
4 Jul 10
for me, i cant do that to my sisters or my brother. and in turn they cant do that to me too..
just like the saying:
"don't do unto others what you don't want others do unto you."
well, you just said back there that you also trash talk your sister to your friends but your sister do it more often.
so, why don't the two of you go out together, go and invite her out. have some little chit-chat or like a sister talk whatever you call it.. or if she refuses, just do a little kindness to her, and later she will also do that in return. and if neither of you will do it first, then who should?.
@zonkuya (12)
• Philippines
4 Jul 10
Why don't you prove that you're not as "evil" as she says? Do little things for her that will put you in a positive light. Minimize negative reinforcement like yelling and just coax her out of online games, why too much of a good thing is bad.
Or just give her the silent treatment when she needs something from you. When she asks you a favor, say "Evil people don't do things for other people."
@redmaryjane (891)
• United States
3 Jul 10
I love my brother and my sister and like me, they're not perfect. I don't trash talk them, or talk about them with other people just so other people can see how horrible they are. That isn't the reason I complain.
That's what I mainly do, complain. But sometimes, I do that because I happen to be close with them.
Like, when I'm hanging out with a group of friends and we're sharing weird sibling stories, we'll all have something to put in the pot, so to speak. But this isn't out of spite for our siblings.
I think that how we talk about our siblings, or about anyone, for that matter, depends on our attitude.
