Inhibiting something to your PARTNER. Do you usually do this?

Actually its your choice to actually tell your secrets to your partner. Its you yourself who knows whether its a good or bad thing to tell. Once iv maken my choice of telling my secrets, i make sure i dont regret it, so i choose the secrets i wish to tell. Me, i dont tell all my secrets to her, i keep the ones i shouldnt tell anyone else to myself. It was worked great that way thought.

i still believe that we have to put an end to some of the darkest secrets from our partner. even how much we love a person, i still have a place in my mind and in my heart, that this and that should be remained unknown to him/her. and it is really better to keep it that way as we may never know, it will only make the relationship break once he/she knows about it. personally, i believe that my wife will still let me spare some of my darkest secret and i respect hers if she won't tell hers.

well, i think a lot of relationship hides one secret or two. and i think that is but normal. we are still human individually though joined together by matrimony or so much love for each other, one person will always have some secret for her own.maybe to protect herself or maybe just to keep it private. i know my husband has a secret. maybe not even one, and those things i wouldnt go further to know especially if it doesn't concern my relationship to him or wouldn't ruin our relationship simply because it is his privacy. though for me, i dont hide anything except for 1 secret, that i believe is not worth telling anymore since its way over the past.

Hi simone, If it's about boyfriend,I think,things may be kept secret,but if it's husband,you'd share everything and that'll minimize the chances of any future misunderstanding if someone from past comes back to your life all on a sudden.And he'd also handle that with all your support even if you break loose.That makes a true relationship. Happy MyLotting!!

I don't say all my secrets because I feel there really isn't a need. Besides they never ask so I never had any reason to really hide my secrets. If they ask, I would tell them, but that has never happen before so I don't really mind.

Hi Simonelee, That's a great question. It really depends on what secret you want to tell your partner and his/her reaction to it. In my case, I prefer to keep some secrets for maintaining long and happy relationship with my husband. Many times, I wanted to tell my secret to my husband, but the fear of loosing him stopped me revealing the secret. I heard people saying, nothing should be secret in between husband and wife. But, that happens only in movies. Though your spouse tells you, I am not interested in your past or any secrets, still it will hurt you in the future. In my opinion, there should be some secrets which you should not share with anybody.

It’s interesting you should ask this question because just this morning I was watching a television program where people would write in to a woman with their problems and she would do her best to help them. A lady sent a letter to the show in regards to her husband; in it she said that she is hurt, perplexed and worried because her hubby refuses to divulge to her his email password! The woman who analysed her problem told her not to worry and that it is perfectly normal to have little secrets from each other and that his email is his little ‘space’ and that it doesn’t mean he is keeping secrets from her. I felt inclined to agree because I believe that if one is in a partnership does not mean that one is half of a couple, one should still be oneself and be entitled to one’s space and time and it is healthy and normal to keep some things to oneself as long as one is loyal to one’s partner and give him or her that reassurance.

I wonder what inhibiting means here because inhibiting means to control something or limit the range. I am not sure but I guess I dont understand it that much. Sorry! Anyway, I am also married but I dont inhibit my secrets to my husband anymore because he's mu husband and he always told me we're as one. I think I can say anything to my husband.