how to recover from a break up?

This forum...MyLot, is not a forum type site, although, it is similar in many ways. But, I digress, you are wondering how others handle the big break ups...I would like to know what you mean by recover? The world keeps on turning, no matter what kind of pain or adversities we find ourselves in, if we stop moving with it, our problems just get bigger, I always tried to get ahead, by over working myself, and by the time I got burnt out from all the extra work, the majority of the emotional pain was gone, but even know 10 years later, I still think of her from time to time. I just try to focus on the good times, and not worry about what caused the bad, and just accept it as the way it is. Sincerely and With Appreciation.

Unfortunetly the first thing is give it time. Many people don't say this but in my opinion the first thing to do now is cry a little everyday. If you don't mourn the pain it just doesn't go away, and you take the chance to never forget the guy. But it isn't crying all day, you have to try to sing, see funny stuffs like cheezburger.com or cute stuff like cuteoverload.com, calm the spirit with animals with obcessedwithanimals.blogspot.com, see funny videos on YouTube, do some online course of something you like. And most important, throw phone number, e-mail, hide pictures and decide to not look at those for six months to more. You can't have contact with him. Well, that's how I got over from someone I wouldn't marry, so I break up but it was hard cause there was feelings still. Six months later I got up again. One of the hardest thing to do in my life. Hope you or the person for whon you asked this question gets better!!

Let God pick you up. Let Him heal the broken heart. Let the healing power of His hand touch your heart. Renew relationship with God, be more active in church activities so the mind will drift away from the painful memories, until you learn how to "forgive and forget". Let the praise music soothe your soul and comfort you. Join church-sponsored youth activities. Who knows, from there you will find/meet a new love of your life.. a God-send love that will heal your heart and will never break your heart again.

hi I am anuska. I am a girl. as a girl I can understand love and its importance . so its not easy to recover from deepest break ups. One can listen music ,watch movies , play indoor games for busy him or her. Besides this he or she can go for outing for refresh him or her mind. she have to be very honest to not to think about his/her ex a bit of second. this will help him or her recover from break ups. thanks.

Everyone will feel so sad if their lovers break up with them . I suggest that recently you should do other things to keep your mind from thinking the relationship . And staying with your friends if they are free . They also can help you to forgive bad things . Last , the time will recover your sadness .

I had a bad time when i broke up. but I had a female friend who took care of me. If she wasnt there i would have given up my life. I started concentratiing on my work and then i met another girl who is currently my wife for the past 2 years. Its a difficult thing, but you need to divert you mind. Unless you divert its difficult to come out of it.

Breaking up is one of the most difficult part of a certain relationship. It hurts to be apart with someone you love especially if you've been together for already how many years. Some people tend to be depressed because they cannot bear so much pain inside their hearts. But just like any other problems, pain passes by. It might be uneasy at first but I think you'll get used to it. I have been through this kind of struggle in the past; though I admit it really didn't end up breaking up. We broke up for a month and I was thinking it couldn't be real. It was too painful for me that I had to find another man to replace him. I had another boyfriend and honestly, he helped me a lot in coping up with my heartache. But believe me, it didn't really help me in moving on. Though the pain was minimized, the love for my ex-boyfriend was still their so it still ended up me and him together again. What I just want to share with you is that, you have to stand up for yourself because there is nobody else who can help you face a break up but you. I know it really be tough but that's life. Just go with the flow and let time heal all the wounds. Try to get out of the pond. There are a lot more fishes in the ocean. Do not detain yourself into a place where you shouldn't belong. Explore and enjoy life.