Do guys give up easily or do girls do?
@santosmarichris (1849)
Philippines
July 4, 2010 10:29am CST
When in a relationship and there are problems arising who gives up easily is it the guys or the girls? I'm not bias here but I think the guys are the ones who gives up easily. When things get rough, you guys ought to be tough. Lol. What do you all think?
14 responses
@mercedlegurpa (955)
• Philippines
5 Jul 10
I think guys are the ones that give up easily; for me girls are tough, flexible and always give a second chance. Girls are resilient and in a relationship they are always the martyrs.
@santosmarichris (1849)
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
Yup. When problem arises, we are always there to deal with it. Guys on the other hand goes to the opposite direction. haha... I thought they should be the one to be tough.
@crackx (628)
• Belgium
7 Jul 10
Lol merced I'm glad you said "I think" cause you would have been stereotypical towards us, men. As for the giving the second chance, tough, flexible,... It's all in the personality of the person, doesn't matter if it's man or woman.
Not trying to be offensive, but somewhat it seems like you are pointing out that we are of less worth. Lol.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
5 Jul 10
Yes I agree with you most men can't deal with problems and give up faster. When it all gets to difficult they start running in the other direction to avoid conflict or trying to fix the problem. The female is usually the one who wants to talk things out and get to the bottom of the problem so it can be fixed.
@santosmarichris (1849)
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
When a situation gets difficult they do run in the other direction and when things are calmed down they want to return and say sorry. I mean, what is that??? lol...
@crackx (628)
• Belgium
4 Jul 10
I think it differs from person to person really. I'm not really into giving up in most things, as where I know others would. Eventually also the subject would matter... If you would look back to the period of school for example, my girlfriend has a lot to learn and yet does not give up, if I see her amount of work... I don't really think I'd try learning it all.
@santosmarichris (1849)
• Philippines
4 Jul 10
Hi! I think she does work hard in school. Thanks for sharing.
@chiplex916 (140)
• India
2 Aug 10
There is no doubt that in a relationship there comes a lot of misunderstandings. When it comes regarding giving up things, I feel that its vice-versa.But most probably girls give up things.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
7 Jul 10
In general when people are in a relationship and there is conflict within that relationship, I tend to think that it is the males that are willing to give up on the relationship and I think that it is the females that are willing to put a lot of work into that same relationship in hopes that they will be able to work out the problems that have been had within that relationship. I know there were a couple of times that my husband was ready to give up, but I've worked to improve our relationship and make it stronger.
@butterline33 (184)
• Philippines
5 Jul 10
hi there, i think it really depends on the situation. I had some male friends who gave up easily on their relationships, on the other hand i know some girls also who were the weak one. If a person really felt love for really i mean is very serious, he or she wont give up easily on their relationship..and vise versa if a person is not that serious.... But some people says that girls are more emotional, they decide right then when the situation is still hot not even thinking.. girls are known to be always changing minds, they give up today but tomorrow tries to win back the guy. On the other hand guys fights for their love but once they decide the decision is final...Like i daid it really depends on the situation which person is weak
@catycat1985 (188)
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
Its actually a case to case basis, but in my personal experience its like my partner do give up most of the time, i dont know im juts the type of person who really understands and stick with someone coz i don't want to start all over again but it also depends on some cases like when the problem is already that worst and i felt there no way he will change, then its time to say its over.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
11 Jul 10
i think that it depends of how much the guy or the girl loves the person. if we really love we must never give up of the person. me i loved this guy.even it was by internet i really loved him. we met in a site and we chat there many times. i thought he kinda liked me too. we were best friends always sharing things and i really loved him. he waited me or i waited him.then he started to meet more people and was like he didnt care as much as before. i never gave up on him on try he loved me. just i gave up after a long time after many humiliations. first a girl he loved said to me he loved me bcs she knew everyone in that site knew i loved him bcs i really did and didnt hide it. and she said he loved me and he said: ohh why you tell everything? it was a secret and i said to the girl no he doesnt love me he loves you and he said he loves her. and then they said it all was a joke. i said to him i hate him and the girl said for me dont be mad at him that it was her fault bcs she started it. for some days i didnt talk with him. but then one day he was talking nice with me and i wasnt being nice sure and then he asked if i was mad at him and i said why and he said sorry that all was her idea and i forgave him bcs he said that nothing never changed to him that i was still his best friend. then we talked but whenever i saw him there was like he talked with me but didnt care much you know. he almost just talk more with other people more. then i was sad bcs he was not caring much and he said so sweet things to me and that he liked that girl and i even said i will help him with her and will ask her if she loves him too even she had a bf i would ask her if she loved my friend. and i talked with her.and i gave up bcs one day that girl that he was in love with said that i talked with her bf and said that she liked someone else and i never did that. i never told her bf nothing. i barely knew her bf i just said hi to him and how are you but we never talked deeper things. i talked with her bf and he said that a girl called catarina came to talk with him and said that his gf liked someone else. i never do that. i even told this to my sister and she said that maybe that girl created a profile with my name. i thought about that too bcs who would win something with this? she said im a liar she even said i said to my friend i didnt like her that wasnt him using his email that day i said it to him and she read what i said about her. i just said to my friend i didnt like her attitude when she said that he loved me and wasnt true that i didnt know why she act to be mean to me and he said ohh she said sorry she is not mean. anyway when she humiliated me that day saying im a liar and that i talked with her bf and that they almost broke up bcs of me my friend didnt even say nothing to defend me. she hurt me so much i even asked a friend of mine to go to that room too so i could feel support. that girl even was saying to my friend i love you do you love me too? like teasing me you know bcs she knew i would be hurt if i read that he loves her. but he didnt say he love her. anyway when she left that room he left after a bit too. i left the room and joined the room he was in and there was her in that room. so i guess he went after her. just then he moved to other room. after this we talked in yahoo when i saw him online and he asked me if i talked with her bf or not and i said i didnt and he asked my phone number. what i thought was strange bcs while we were best friends he never had asked me that. i said why? and he said he wanted call me i said i cant talk now bcs is late and was late and my parents and my sisters were in bed already and i asked him why he wanted and he said that it was to see something. then i said when i have time i call him and he gave me his number. anyway i never called his number. what he did to me was very unfair after i care so much for him :( i was humiliated and always was sweet to him :( he even said that to me that he was bad to me but me i always was sweet :( so why he acted like that with me? also i saw his profile and he still has an image of that girl in background and other new pic of them :( makes me so sad that how can you do such a thing to someone that cared so much for you :( even today i cried a bit:( just in these situations we must give up but in other ones we must never^^ we must always fight^^ or guys or girls^^
@abbsrhmn (1)
• Malaysia
6 Jul 10
As a guy if the argument is not that big and it is not worth arguing so definitely i'll just give up easily. But throughout my relationsip, the mistake that i made was eventhough i was giving up, it was just to stop from getting into an argument so the real feelings are kept within me.
So what i learned from my mistakes, is just try to be honest as you can be in any particular conversation because that's what a partner should do, listen,support and then love.
Faking a relationship is not a real relationship so why waste tears and brokenhearted feelings over something that is not real.
Peace -aB's
@thunder915 (180)
• India
28 Jul 10
Yes I do agree with you because two weeks had been passed , my friend and her boyfriend used to love each other, they have same feelings for one another, but the problems arised her boyfriend left her alone and went to his relative's house. He just ignored because of small reason between them.
@phoenix867 (182)
• India
27 Jul 10
It deffer from person to person because some guys they continue their relationship and thy never want to give up their relation.Some it happens the female who gives up the relation.I think it depends up on the faith.