Don't ask me if...

I've never really had such situation, but next time, if there's anyone asks me what is wrong, then I will ask them first whether they're going to listen to my answer haha! Oh no, hold on! My ex-boss did that to me. If she sees me in pain, she would quickly asks me what is wrong? but if my answer is more that 1 word, she will ignores and talks to someone else as if she never asked me any question!! Did she expect me to say "nothing" since that is only one word? I'm confused with some people :-(

i do keep it to myself.. and i only ask when i'm really concerned and really want to know what happened to my friend

I guess not all people do that.... They seem not listening but they did listen by heart.... and now they are plotting out good ways to help and comfort....

Who dared to annoy you so much that you ended up with a discussion to let your anger out

I have never had a situation like this.. May be because I never share my pains and feelings with anyone..lol..

If you remember (I remember) for a discussion here on mylot subject: "I do not have money, want help, give me some sites, I am a mother of two children ...bla,bla,bla" You and I and some friends still have jumped into help. I asked "how many hours you spend on the computer?" for me because to know which sites to send the person with subject. The answer came ...in a couple days "two hours" For you did not even said "thank you" Good job

Hi Sap! What an interesting post! What you say have some truth in it that many of the people after asking 'how are you?' do not care to listen to our stories/pain/agony and they just complete the formality of asking us how are we. But, we as human being need to tell to other (whether they are paying attention to us or not, it is another matter) about our stories, else, we will go into depression that no one listens to us.............lol! I have few close friends, who listen to me (when I have some problem) and vice versa.

Telling right is an art of flattery and much of the people like this art of flattery. No one like wrong, because wrong is wrong and wrong is nothing than wrong. Thus we should forget to tell wrong in reply of every right or wrong. One could not bear to listen the word wrong even in reply of wrong. So practice to say every thing is okay every thing is right. this is rule of living with peace.

Dear saphrina...this is a very common occurrence some people are very superficial and they really are not interested in how you are or how you feel...I just wonder sometimes why do they bother to ask how one feels if they are not ready to listen...that is why when someone ask me how I Am? I say...Im fine thank you...and then they proceed to tell me how difficult their lives is or something like that...at the end they seem to be amazed at how easy my life is...but hey! I could not fit a word in because this people have too much to say about themselves...that my life to them is not important anyway...so Im just fine thank you!

Saphy darling how many friends do you really need? Just a couple. :) May be they did ask, and after you started telling them, they pretended to listen but were not really listening, so what - you just gave a test, and they failed, look for another friend. What would you have - a friend who acts as your friend and is not really your friend? Trust me you will find the right lot - keep on trying and testing. You might just get lucky and have few more.

People ask things like "how are you today?" and don't really expect any other response than "fine". They don't really care how you are, it is just an accepted way to greet someone. My mother asks questions and then doesn't listen to the response. Then a few days later, she will ask the same question and if I remark on it, she says she doesn't really listen to the answer. I said "Then why am I talking to you, if you don't listen anyway?" I think she just forgets and doesn't want to admit it, so she says she doesn't listen. It can get to be annoying either way.

I am in the habit of calling up people just to keep in touch and when I do who do you think will dominate the conversation - you guessed it - the friend who I had called. There are a couple like that who will never take the trouble to call but when I do I never get a chance to say what I want to say as they will take over, worse than the situation you are in saphrina!!

Before I thought the same way bur I came to realized I was wrong. It depends on to whom did we ask for comfort and support? Many people will reject us simply because they don't love us or care about us, but when we ask that to the people who love us for sure 100% they will listen and care. It is just the matter to whom we go when we are hurt, and sometimes we find that to the people we hate but truly love us. But you know what I've discover? When the people who loves me goes somewhere I could not find, there is always a God who are willing to listen 24/7 of my life and same as yours. He love us so much that whatever we need that will make us great he will give it to me and to you. God Bless!

Very familiar with this one. Someone asks how you are, and if they do not like the answer they switch off! Rhetorical question then- and not worth asking. I have to say, that I trust you are well! If I don't like the reply I promise that I will respond.

those are the kinds of people who think they are helping by asking. they want to feel like a good person by asking you what's wrong but they don't really care to hear your asnwer. i don't get mad i just know now who has my back and who does't. that's enough for me

there is nothing wrong with sharing your problems it help you to feel better....you should tell you problem first then they listen to you afterward they ask..it will help you to solve your problem coz sometimes others opinion can help but still its you who will decide....

My toe hurts...

Please, don't be so mad about it... Maybe it's a bad day for the other person too, have you think about it?

There are people who actually ask you "how are you?" or "are you okay?" for the sake of just asking the question. Sometimes its really better to keep things for ourselves rather than bother those people who cared to ask but never cared to listen. I had encounter some people like that and somehow I learned to keep things from them whenever I feel something weird or anything whenever I'm with them. My thought, why would I waste my time telling him/her what I've gone through if in the first place she wouldn't even listen to what I have to say

I had the same experience before, like you . But it is seldom happened to me . Because I will judge if they really care about me . If they really care about me , I will tell they what is my problems . Then listening their good suggestions for me . That is good for myself , I think .