Is having fantasies cheating?

Absolutely!

lols. you should have seen the movie that is doing rounds and rounds online and offline too. The much hyped and talked about video. THE SECRET.. which tells us how the THOUGHT manifests into action. and, you said, thoughts are not actions? .. I still want to grow out of this fantasy world.. and try to make my real world --- to such a place that I would love fantasizing about.

you made my day .. friend The Metallion.. The thought my open the door, but you have to choose to walk through it. ... is this yours? .. and, may I quote this freely?

You do know that thought lead to actions, lets look at your dreams. I dreamed that I would one day be able to be a parent, I found a good husband and gave birth to my children. So my thought process opened the door for my dream to become my reality. The same with cheating, if your girlfriend was to see some guy she thinks is hot, and she dreamed about being with him, of holding him, eventually you will no longer be good enough because you dont live up to her expectations, like her dream guy, then she will move on to the guy who meets her fantasy.

Thank you

I think there is something wrong to the interpretation of the word THOUGHT. I think THOUGHT here should differentiate the actual THOUGHT when one is awake and the THOUGHT when one is dreaming. I mean, if I were to dream about killing someone, does that make me a bad person? Couldn't it be just a pigment of the circuits of my brain? Perhaps due to the nature of the movie I saw prior to sleeping? Now another, let's just say my religion doesn't allow me to eat types of meat, let's say we feel that eating cow's meat is bad. Then, in my dream, I ate cow's meat, does it mean that I have committed a grave sin against my beliefs??? I think it's only when one acts on the dream that makes the action a sin. Further, if one keeps on thinking about it even when already awake, that tantamounts to sin because you are no longer interested of keeping your vow to your partner, but rather you are wondering how life would feel like with another - which is the very act of cheating. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!

Well that is not good, loving someone is so important and you have to stop and think what you want from her. Again men think it is okay until their girl is the one doing it.

Don't get me up in arms, my dear, I am a woman and a Pastor I take that stuff far to seriously. LOL

i'm kidding my dear pastorkayte...kidding!lol

Absolutely Katie, I agree

I agree with half of this statement, I think daydreaming is just a stepping stone to your hearts desires, if you daydream about it you are more likely to actually want to do it. So if the opportunity is presented you will take it because you have already wished for it and now you can have it.

Thank you for your response

I have more guilt when I cannot sleep at night and I have these weird fantasies about the characters in one of my fan fictions I want to write, but do not want to do that way because it is too wild, then I have of a dream where this handsome guy like Prince Charming comes in. And in the first case, I am writing a story and have no intention of cheating. So think what would happen if I really intended to but did not get the chance.

Absolutely I agree with you.

No if we are talking about sin, the bible says that: Matthew 5:28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. So it tells you that fantasizing about a woman is the sin. However for the sake of this dreaming is an act we don't control, we do however control what we think about in our conscious mind.

Very interesting take on the subject and great quote.

Not in a regular dream where she is truly asleep, because she could be in the mood for intimacy and watched a movie and seen a guy on it, the dream would capture that into her mind and cause her to dream about it even if she does not actually that way about it in her waking moments. But if she is sitting next to the guy who she loves daydreaming about some guy she knows then she is consciously deciding that he is more sexy and more interesting than the one she (supposedly) loves.

Right! What if your girlfriend was having a fantasy about the guy you play a sport with or your best friend, would that still be alright.

Thank you for your response.

Why if you think it is not cheating then they dont have to tell you the truth because they dont have to feel sorry for your feelings, and if it is your friend that your mate is dreaming about, you still dont think that when they have the opportunity they wont act on it.

Again a patented male response, but if you met this beautiful woman and fell deeply in love with her, you would no longer be amused or think it was not cheating if she had fantasies about one of your friends.

Why would dreaming about someone else enrich the relationship you have with your loved one. I would truly not want a man to love me and use having intimate relationships with other women as a way to enhance our love life. I would want him to want me so much that he only needs me to make him happy in an intimate way.

If you were not having those thoughts then it would not manifest into flirting or phone calls, so the act of daydreaming is the doorway to the act of cheating which means that it is the act that led up to the crime, it is like in law, when you go to court for a crime, the jury tries to figure out what you were thinking before you actually committed the crime, if you planned it out (day dreamed) about it then it was premeditated and that makes the crime more serious than if you just did it.

You make an interesting point, thank you.

Applause, you have hit the nail on the head.

It is that bad because your loved one would be just as hurt to find out as if you had actually did it.