When kids go bad...

I am a parent and a mother. No parent who's in sane will ever wish to have their kids grow as bad person. No matter how the parents will ever discipline their kids,how much they guide and take care of them. We cannot tell that,every kid will ever grow as a good person as what the parents expect them to be. There is always an instant that,one of the kids will go the wrong way. We cannot blame the parents for this,the society and group gives a great contribution or influenced with the kids growth and behavior. Every parents wants their child to become a successful person that they can be proud of.

I think you can grow up with the best influences from your parents and end up being bad due to society and your environment. Falling into the wrong crowd will definitely bring you down. Then you can grow up with the worse parents but decide you want better for yourself and end up being a law abiding productive individual in your community. I think it all depends on the individual and their desire to succeed or not.

This has bothered me before. When people blame the parents for how their child turned out. Now, yes, there are a lot of times that the child has turned into a product of how they were raised. But then there are many children who have had the same problems, but yet they grow up to be wonderful, bad behavior free people (to put it poorly -sorry for the phrasing). Right now I'm thinking about a wonderful couple who did the best they could for their children. They brought up their children in church, and they didn't juse talk the Christian life, they lived it. One child grew up to be a citizen of great character. They haven't done anything to change the world noticeably, but they are a great addition to any community. They add to the world, they don't take. The other child got involved in things that were harmful - to themselves and their family. So while I think the environment one is reared is greatly affects each child, ultimately we make a personal choice of which path to walk. And if we turn to the wrong one, the blame in the end, will lie with us as individuals. I hope no one misunderstands what I'm saying. Too many people are born into families that immediately put strikes against them succeeding. But we can all overcome.

Sometimes it's the parents, but sometimes parents do the very best that they can with their children, and the children go wrong anyway. could be due to the friends they keep or other reasons.

Proverbs 22:15 says "Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child, but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him." It means, it is already in the heart of a child to do foolish things, but as parents it is our responsibility to correct them and to discipline them. For me I always discipline my child every time she could make mistake and let her understand after I perform a rod of correction to her. Then as a Christian I always teach her the Biblical principles. The Bible says that in Proverbs 22:6 says "Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it." The child during his or her birth is like a blank white paper and it is up to you what you are going to put to that blank white paper, it is up to you if you will allow other people to put on that blank white paper, but remember if you allow other people you can not control them if they put good or bad things to that blank white paper. So parent it is us who has the main responsibility of training a child. Sometimes you are more focus with your work and sometimes we forget that we have a responsibility of watching our child as they grow.

well! i think that as a child grows up, s/he wants to have his/her own identity ,space, friends to hang out with and that its around the adolescence period that kids start experiencing stuff which are forbidden by elders. its normal to have kids act as if they hate there parents at this period , its normal to think about stuff like s.., love and stuff. but a parent should not always be there to impose orders, instead it is good if the parent has a more gentle approach. of course kids are influenced by friends and the problems surrounding them such as if you have a kid with divorced parents, the only thing that comes to that kids mind is ok am friom a broken home , so i can do whateveer i want or even impose their rules upon their parents saying that you did a mistake and so can i. other kids think why me, why everyone has got a mum and dad and why not me! these things bother kids. as a kid i was always having my parents fighting for stuff like money, abot silly things also such as your mom! your dad! my mom ! my dad! they still do it now! you cant expect people to change for you be it your kids or anyone else