Lie and make others happy ????

Well thats what wee call white lies. Many people really cant handle the truth. If you tell the truth always you might hurt someone so bad that you cant do anything else but get away or you might die. Hehehe Anyways, the fact that we cannot just spill out the truth everytime. We need to know the situation.

If it's harmless and if telling the truth could be hurtful, such as: Does this dress make me look fat? Never, never, never say yes to that one. :D

If lying is not telling the truth, I guess I always lie when I make a joke about things. I often joke around, whenever I try to be funny. My colleagues laugh at them most of the time and I feel good about it. Most of them understand that I am only joking and not really serious about what I am trying to make them laugh. Then, there are just those chances wherein you get asked and you know, one way or another, that the truth would just hurt if not bruise their pride and expectation so, we often just lie or try not to be direct with whatever opinion that we have. I always try to be honest and add something of uncertainty with such inquiries. Then if another person is around to share their opinion, I'd ask him or her about the same thing.

I don't think it is ever a good idea to lie for any reason. I used to but I did learn my lesson. People sometimes know when you are lying and it isn't a good idea to instill this into any relationship you have with another. Whether the other person is in a jolly mood or not. It isn't a good idea to start this.

I understand what you are saying; sometimes it is less hurtful and more tactful to tell a small white lie. I don’t like to hurt others either if I can help it and, if a little untruth will save someone pain I will make that choice. I agree that any lie should not have long term repercussions. It shows kindness not to want to spoil another’s happiness.

i guess your right krajibg. but in my experience when i started 'white lies', that i think is what they call the harmless lie, i noticed that the longer i use it the 'whiteness' of the lies are turning dark. I mean i sometimes tend to believe my lies and get in trouble in the long run and sometimes hurt the person i was trying not to hurt... hmmn do i make sense?!

i think that sometimes maybe is better to say a lie so as to make somebody happy. But these times are only exeptions. Because some people are used to telling lies for a lot of things and then say this excution for themselves.

No, definitely its not a sin… I have no particular story to relate but I too have lied many a times to get out of a sticky situation (self defense LOL) or to put up an excuse for somebody else. As long as its not very serious and makes other happy, its OK with me. BTW, I think you're here after a long time!

As a Zen practitioner, the discipline I have taken on board is to always tell the truth. It is not an easy discipline to follow and sometimes, to avoid hurting another there is an automatic tendency to tell the lie. It is important in this situation to let it go and forgive yourself, as what is done is done. Then you can only say to yourself that the truth is that a lie was told.. Sooner or later the mind will let go of it.. It is better sooner though! I think sometimes we really need to lighten up and not take things too seriously, because nothing is permanent in this life and one day it will all be gone! _Derek

I have lies for the purpose of my satisfaction. Anyway, it is a lie and it contributes to losing trust in the person who lies to you. My ex boyfriend lied me a lot and now I am very sensitive to lies, I do not find any excuses for lies, maybe it helps sometimes but when discovered, it hurts. Of course, it depends what kind of lie it is, if a serious one, forget the lier and go away :)

You are cent percent right. I agree with you on this. Once a good friend had told me that if you want to keep your wife happy never say the truth. Well he had a very valid reason for that piece of advice. After all we need peace and happiness.

What you said is true... We can tell lie and make others happy only if the lie doesn't hurt their feelings...Me and my friends use to say some lie just for kidding within ourselves..It will not affect anyone for sure...Just for fun we used to do..and then we will forget.. But sometimes we can't understand other's feelings..so if we thought that it will not hurt for what we going to lie and then if it hurts means , it will be bad too...so it all depends... Anyway lie safely and make others happy... happy mylotting too...

hmmmm I think we all lie sometimes,like u sed,its bad if we keep lieng to a person till we make him or her feel bad or mad. I lied to my parents many times,they allways think at me and wish me all the good thinkgs in life,but they think and concern about others to,so i tell them little lies to make them think all its good even if is not,they have to live their lifes to,enough with little baby,im a woman who can take care of her now. Even if they find out i lied them ,they will understand and they will try to forget and encourage me.

OK...Lying is bad... but telling white lies .its not that bad.....or not bad at all... we have no other opt in certain situations..but tell a lie to hide something which if told can cause serious repercussions... ..but never tell a white lie without thinking thrice ..because it can make or spoil a life... thanks for the topic..... have a great day/night..........

Sometimes I do that, cause i don't want a friend to shift her mood. Like when she ask if her dress look good, I will say oustanding. If her make up looks cute or pretty I will say ,its perfect! I want to make their day. Anyway, when I already say that lines to them, they become happy and their dress will look oustanding and their make up become pretty and cute. So what's the difference. All the people I love are pretty and handsome. That is not really a lie, it is called appreciation. I appreciate the people and I love them that is why all the words the coming out of my mouth is beautiful. Anyway, the words will change if the problem is the topic. If they have somethings that needs to change with their life to be a better people and to avoid making mistake, I can honestly tell it to them.

Well, sometimes it works way better than saying the truth.. bourne

I don't want to bring anyone down...but I don't want to lie to them either. I can see what your saying about a little lie that doesn't hurt them. I just try not to say anything.

I agree with you. To help somebody or to get some good things done, lies cannot be considered as a sin. On the contrary, its a good deed. But if you are going to lie for your own welfare, then things flip up. Then its a big sin. I too many times lie for the sake of other people. In some cases, a truth can be like a bomb and when said can blast of many people's mind. In this case also, even if you won't be speaking lies, but to suppress the truth is wise.

I also lie every now and then to satisfy a friend who is down in the dumps. I believe that lying is wrong but in certain situations it is necessary. I think that when you do lie though it always comes back to haunt you at some point in time!

lie to make someone feel happy? like if a friend ask you "do i look ugly? the you look at him/her.. the you said no ur beutiful.. but having a cross finger ang grinning would he/she feel happy? lol!!