Couple outings: what should I do?
@okuribidreams (195)
Italy
July 5, 2010 9:01pm CST
The situation is this one, shortly:
A week ago, I went out with a dear friend of mine. I told her to call me if she wanted to go out and drink something on her birthday, which will be on the 17th of this month. She told me she'd call me for sure, even if she's full of exams to do and wanted something normal and not a crazy evening getting drunk and such. I said it was okay, of course, it's her birthday after all.
But today I received a message saying: "I want to go to eat at a Indian restaurant with my boyfriend, three of my classmates and their three boyfriends. Will you join us?"
I'm totally tired of being the third wheel. I don't have a boyfriend because I'm still recovering from my latest one and I don't feel the need to have another one yet. But she keeps on inviting to these kind of events in which I basically will be the only one alone staring at my own feet and wondering why I am even there.
I totally don't know what to do. D:
2 responses
@CrimsonRain (336)
• United States
6 Jul 10
I think you should just buy your friend a nice gift or give her a treat somewhere else or go watch a movie together and you pay for her ticket. :)
@okuribidreams (195)
• Italy
7 Jul 10
Thank you for the advice dear, I will think about it. A treat in a pretty restaurant and a nice gift (or maybe both) and I hope to make it up with her. She won't be pleased when I won't show up at her birthday dinner...
@cartrightGIS (243)
• Philippines
6 Jul 10
Well, it'll make your friend lonely if you don't participate in her birthday, but you'll make yourself lonely as well. I know this might sound selfish, but i think you should not join, and i think she would consider your feelings as well. I hope this helps.
@okuribidreams (195)
• Italy
7 Jul 10
I tried to tell her I wouldn't feel comfortable being the only one not in a "couple", but she just said I shouldn't. Not a very clever answer, to be honest, since I know them and I know they will be kissing and saying romantic things for all the evening. Depressing, indeed.
