Are you the bully or the bullied?
By redphile
@redphile (2264)
Philippines
July 5, 2010 10:46pm CST
In high school or in college, there are stereotypes that some kids are bullying and some are being bullied. When you were a kid, which one are you? Well, as for me, I am neither. I'm just a low profile student. Few friends and silent life. How are you as a student and what are the consequences that you had to take when you bully or when you are bullied?
5 responses
@titaniumpen (676)
• Hong Kong
6 Jul 10
Well, you can fight back. But you must fight back really hard. If you fight back and lose eventually, you'll be picked on by bullies even more often. Hard to explain, but you know, bullies are a bit mental.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
11 Jul 10
mental you say eh? LOL. Yeah its sad to be the one being bullied. But I agree that you can always fight back, either intellectually or physically. Or make it a sneaky one. We learn things when we fight back, we become strong. But then again, its not always the case. Its not bad even if we dont fight back.
@Albert1989 (372)
• Malaysia
22 Jul 10
Usually i am the one who being bullied. Why those bullier did not think of the effects of being bullied?
Some people think bullying is just part of growing up and a way for young people to learn to stick up for themselves. But bullying can make young people feel lonely, unhappy and frightened. It makes them feel unsafe and think there must be something wrong with them. They lost confidence and may not want to go to school anymore. It may make them sick.
That's why i don't like to be a bullier.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
22 Jul 10
n0 one wants to be bullied but s0me people still wants to bully other people. Which is really sad. I mean what do they get from hurting other people? Being bullied has ill effects on a person especially children. It attacks their confidence and self esteem. They grow up helpless and is brought into their adult lives which in effect will make them scared of some people. But come to think of it, the bulliees must have learned bullying from somewhere, could be depending on how their parents brought them up. Or maybe sometime in their lives they were also bullied.
@kukaisiton (702)
• Philippines
6 Jul 10
i never want to bully anyone. but my closest friends say that i am a bully. i think maybe in the smallest ways, i press people to do the things i want. i heard some people (who didnt know each other) tell me that im a bully. ive been rethinking myself lately and trying to discover what i do for me to be considered as one. but i think that my type of bullying is the funny type, nothing hurtful.
anyway, ive also experienced being bullied.. a group of girls suddenly fancied choosing me to piss me off and started talking behind my back and bullying me. it made me feel so bad during all those months that we were working together.
so i really dont want to be considered a bully because someone might be hurting just like i felt before.
@titaniumpen (676)
• Hong Kong
6 Jul 10
Same as you. I stay low and I don't like to show off like some classmates do. I hate to bully people, because the real coward is the bully himself. Why would you pick on somebody weaker than you?
I guess everybody has been bullied at least once though.
Bullies sometimes get punished, but these cases are rare. That's because bullies usually have an entourage of "powerful" friends.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
11 Jul 10
Right, they usually have the connections of the higher ups so some get away with what they do and dont get punished. Some were punished. And I agree that one way or another we are bullied by someone else, physically or mentally. But we should learn that no one can do that to anyone.
@sweethums (80)
• Philippines
6 Jul 10
When I was in elementary, I experienced being the bully because of my friends. I feel sad about it and guilty too because the girl we bullied was younger than us. I remember this girl we bullied. She was often called the penguin but after seeing her again. I was surprised because she looks very pretty now and hot too. It's not good to bully at all. It could hurt their feelings.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
11 Jul 10
I agree that its not right to bully and it will definitely hurt anybodys feelings. We would not know like that in the future they might be professionals and successful in life and we just turn out to be nothing. So I think, it should be prevented at school, and teachers and parents should monitor their children so as to avoid being bullied or learning to bully.
