Not everyone learn their mistakes
By dd1203
@dd1203 (34)
Malaysia
July 6, 2010 5:21am CST
some people yes, some people don't... so should we forgive them... repeating forgive and forget? Or we have to look at different angle... it's not a mistake..It's a sign, telling you indirectly that something wrong somewhere....like if your girlfriend flirting around... there are 2 possibility.... 1. You do not take care of her carefully or 2. She is like that... If no. 1, it's not her mistake.... you can't blame him....
12 responses
@webzap (884)
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
Sometimes people easily forgets the lessons learned from the previous mistakes they made thus the repeat of the situation. But when it comes to love, or taking advantage of love, that is another thing. And it is not a mistake anymore - it is already a weakness.
@webzap (884)
• Philippines
8 Jul 10
No matter who the guy is if she really love him, she will stick to him, whatever happens. But if the girl is a flirt, she is a flirt forever and that is what I mean of weakness on her part. I think there is no mistake there because she is doing that intentionally.
@Albert1989 (372)
• Malaysia
22 Jul 10
Well, nobody is perfect at everything. Some people have, through making mistakes and learning from them, perfected specific skills. Still, those people have imperfections in many other areas. Some learn more than others from their mistakes. The willingness to examine ourselves and tell ourselves the truth about our failings is key to learning and improving.
Well, WE are all human,
Yet, Everybody is Nuts,
Everyone lies,
Everybody has habits.
And yes, everyone makes mistakes.
So, it's all a matter of degree.
@creative_genius (992)
•
7 Jul 10
Most people should be given a second chance. But I've seen several people who repeatedly do the wrong thing again and again. Trust is important in a relationship, and perhaps flirting etc needs to be discussed with the partner. If they continue flirting with no regard fr your feelings then perhaps you shouldn't be with them.
@perumahan (72)
• Indonesia
7 Jul 10
Something happens there must be the cause. in this world there is a causal law. if someone made a mistake against us, we better look at first, why the man did to us. Maybe someone was doing because of our mistakes. The most important thing for us is how do we preserve and understand each other. Do not ever hurt if you do not want to get hurt.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
6 Jul 10
Peoplewill never learn from their mistakes as long as there are other people prepared to forgive them. It becomes even worse when they receive forgiveness even after the umpteenth time.
My approach is to allow to consecutive incidents of the same mistake. After the third time the person would be given an explanation of whatever would be done to the relationship.
The person may say that I am being selfish, not accepting him/her for what he/she is. The argument is one-sided, because the person has been given a chance, an explanation has been given, and he/she should also consider my feelings and does not accept me for what I am.
Any relationship is two-way, and there should be some give and make on both sides. Repeating the same mistake over and over again is one way f saying you are insignificant in his/her life.
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
It really depends on the person. There are some who has been hurt before and thus will not let that happen to them again. But then again who are we to judge other people, right? But the truth remains that we should do to others what we want them to do unto you. So for me if the person is dear to you and you love them then go and forgive them. But then again there is always an end to it so people should not even take the risk because you will never know.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
6 Jul 10
I try to learn from my mistakes and sometimes from others mistake as well however that is not the case every time. I have seen peoples who were not good on certain things and now too good on same thing just because they have learnt lessons from their mistakes.
If some people around me do not wish to learn from their mistakes, I do not want to help them again and again, may be initially I would be the first to help them and show the way to move forward but if they keep repeating same mistake, meaning they are lacking somewhere.
@lantisred (77)
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
Mistakes are stepping stones and not stumbling blocks. But it depends on a person. If she sees her mistakes and accepts that she made that mistake, then she will learn from it. If she don't accept it as something wrong, why will she change it?
Honestly, we don't control other persons mind and attitude. We cannot teach those who are not open to learn. Bur it is our decision and responsibility to forgive. To forgive those that err, will not guarantee that they will learn, but it ease up your heart and mind. If you have forgiven them for so many times then decide. Will I give her another one....am i making a fool of myself....will she learn. Forgive and forget, but in this instance, forgive her wrongdoings and learn to forget her then. This way, you have a clean slate and can start all over.
@edwardjoy2000 (2387)
• United Arab Emirates
6 Jul 10
we are no one to decide what any one should think or not. if someone has done something against us...our duty is to forgive them irreelevant of they mend their ways or not. if you find your girlfriend flirting with someone then there definately some problem. It could either be that she lacks your attention or she does not love you. there cant be a third possibility
@dreamtrue2010 (12)
• China
6 Jul 10
Yeah,what you said is right. Some people can learn from their mistakes, while some don't, who make the same mistakes even time and time again. How to say, it is the nature, character, and so on. I hope more and more people can know what you mean, the the life will be more meanningful.