Keeping My Promise

I never promise. Not for something like that. I always am sure to say I will if I can. It helps to keep you from breaking a promise because we never know what will come up to change everything. If she asks you why you won't promise just explain that a promise is something that must never be broken and sometimes we can't control what happens and if something changes..you don't want to break the promise.

I would talk with your daughter and explain to her there is nothing you would rather do then to pick her up on Friday, but some time we have thing we have to do and can not do the things we want to do. Kids are not dumb and if you tell them why and don't lie to them they will get over it. Maybe on days when you have meetings you two can go out and do something after the meeting or have an extra book at story time, if you do that. But find something that is just for you two something special and still explain that you may not always be able to do that either but you want to and you love her and your time with her is your favorite.

hi dorisday I am sure your daughter is smart enough to know her mom cannot skip meeting as she has a boss she must please. So do not feel bad as its not as though you just deliberately broke you promise to her, you could not avoid the meetings after all. So if she is not upset with you you should be kinder to yourself., We all have times when no matter how much we tried to keep a promise something intervened that forced us to do something else. I know it makes you feel bad but it was not at all your fault.

Face this with your daughter, tell her, yes I promised but I now have to take that promise back, because it is beyond my ability to keep it always. Children need to learn that things change and that a person is not always able to do what they want. It's a good lesson for her and also for you. Both of you know it's best not to make such wide open promises. But don't feel guilty, the only fault was that you assumed more control over your time then you really had.

To become parents is a difficult time but in the process for the kids.This does not mean that parents must be with their children every minute everyday,but it doesn't mean that children need fairly constant supervision.But if you say you promise something on her or him let her and make her understand that there is a very bad situation at work in a kindly manner that she'll understand and if that promises devastate her then keep on trying to make her feel good or do something that you can make it up.just talk to her.

We should should not keep promise to any one. Better just tell your daughter that if i am free i will come to pick you up.The promises of yesterday are the taxes of today.

Hi Doris, Those kind of things happen. Explain to your daughter that it couldn't be helped. I learned when my kids were small to not make any promises that there was any chance that something might come about to change up that promise. Of course that meant that my promises were few and far between. When I did promise, I always chose my words very carefully. Most times there was the IF clause added to it. In your case, I would have promised my daughter that I would pick her up each week as long as I didn't have to go into work and the car was running properly etc. Don't feel guilty. Kids are very understanding and forgiving. Just talk to your daughter and I'm sure she will understand.

i understand your feeling and i know also how it feels. iam a mother also and my son's will remind me of what are the promises that i promised to them. because there are really promises that i cannot make and those promises has a reasons also why i didnt do. i just explained to them very carefully and my son's will just understand me. am so thankful that im having a kids who are very understanding and loving. im so proud of them honestly.

you should not make promises..instead when you tell your daughter that you will fetch her from school, tell her that you will try so that she will not expect and get hurt if you didn't make it.