Try Try Again
By elfbwillow
@elfbwillow (307)
July 6, 2010 4:11pm CST
After reading mrscallands22 discussion on whether you wanted a boy or a girl it reminded me of an artical I read a while ago about a woman who was trying for her 8th baby. The reason? because she had 7 boys and wanted a girl.
What are your thoughts on this?
Personally if a person wants a lot of children and can support them with love and financially then I feel that it is their right and good for them though for a person just to keep trying for a baby just because they want another gender baby to what they have - especially when they already have seven healthy children, is a little selfish. Perhaps selfish is not the right word for it though I dont understand why they are just not happy with the healthy SEVEN children they already have when a lot of people like myself struggle to have a baby.
(no offence to anyone in this position)
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4 responses
@maezee (41988)
• United States
6 Jul 10
I think if they have 7 children, and want another, and can physically, mentally, and financially support that many children, then - more power to 'em. I don't necessarily agree on making sure you have a CERTAIN baby - such as girl or boy. I think I would be happy enough to have a child, regardless of what gender it is. Why is having a girl so necessary to them, anyhow? Shouldn't they be happy with the hand that they've been dealt? Also, what if it turns out to be a boy again? Will they try until they have a girl, and if so, when is "enough", enough? How many children can one set of parents really, honestly take care of? (Two seem like enough to me!!)
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
23 Jul 10
Well, for me, I always knew that I wanted at least one boy and one girl. I had my daughter first and my husband and I discussed when I was pregnant what we were going to do if my son had been another girl. We were going to wait a couple of years and try one more time for a boy, but if it would have been a third girl, that would have been it for us because three children is the most that we would have been able to handle. However, my second was a little boy and when he was six weeks old I had my tubes tied because I didn't feel we really had a need for another baby.
@mrscallands22 (2851)
• United States
11 Aug 10
Thanks for sharing my ideals and your ideals together first and foremost. I appreciate that.
Secondly, I guess it would depend on the couple and their mutual agreement to try for another specific gender of child. If they can financially support all of their children and are great parents, I don't see why not.
However, if they are both not in mutual agreement, they are horrible parents and they are on welfare?? Then, no. They should adapt to some form of birth control method very quickly or else try for one and give it up for adoption. lol.
Wow, 7?? I don't think I could do it. And I just have one... I'm thinking I may be pregnant now... but hopefully not!!
