Would you accept money from a stranger?
By Porcospino
@Porcospino (31366)
Denmark
July 6, 2010 4:29pm CST
Some time ago I was at a busstop and a stranger came up to me and and tried to give me 100 kr (about $15) I told him that I didn't want the money. It is possible that he was just trying to do a good deed, but the situation made me feel uncomfortable and I couldn't help wondering what he wanted in return. He wouldn't take no for an answer and he tried over and over to give me the money.
Have you ever been in a situation like that? How would you react if it happened to you? Would you take the money?
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30 responses
@pdiffy (17)
• United States
7 Jul 10
I would say that I have never been in an exact situation as you have been, but I have been in similar situations. I work at Walgreens and I get some of the most interesting customers who walk in. I tend to work the register usually and some people are rather kind and warm hearted, while others seem to remind me of Satan himself. People at my store always carry "Link Cards with them: Low income Government cards" with them so if I make a mistake with their cash, they go off on me. Some people try to leave their money as a tip to me, sadly I am unable to accept and others demand their money. It can get hectic there.
@webzap (884)
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
I won't do that too, if I come across with that kind of situation. Stranger is stranger, and we don't know anything about him. Who knows what he's up to. Or maybe he is trying to befriend you but with a motive behind being a friend. Yes you did the right decision of not accepting the money.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
8 Jul 10
Hi sirnose! Thanks for responding. So you would have taken the money. I found it too risky to do that, but if you really need money it can be tempting to take it...
Hi sagar21! I had the same kinds of thoughts, because I didn't know the man and his intentions, and I didn't know what he expected from me.
@ip5217 (1655)
• Philippines
8 Jul 10
That is strange, receiving money from a stranger. I would really be hesitant to accept the money because no ones gives money with nothing in exchange, not unless you are someone who is needy or like a beggar on a street.
Otherwise, I would be afraid and think that if this person doesn't have an outright request in exchange for his money, he might be involved in a syndicate that will sooner or later harm me. I don't know; maybe I'm just to paranoid.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
22 Jul 10
The situation would have been different if I had asked him for money, but that wasn't the case at all. He just came up to me and offered me money out of the blue. I couldn't help thinking: "What does he expect in exchange for his money?", because like you say people don't usually give you money for nothing, so I wondered what his motives were.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
7 Jul 10
I couldn't see myself accepting money from a stranger. First of all, I would wonder why someone i did not know what offering to give me money for nothing. Secondly, it would not be known where the money came from. Was there a reason someone needed to dispose of some money quickly? Perhaps it was something illegaal. That could just be opening a whole new can of worms!
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
7 Jul 10
I had the same kind of thoughts: Why did a stranger want to give me money for nothing and where did he get the money? Maybe he wasn't doing anything illegal and just wanted to do a good deed, but I didn't know him or his motives, and I didn't find it safe to accept the money.
@sagar21 (1579)
• India
7 Jul 10
of course not esp without knowing his/her intention...
may the one who offered you the bucks is crazy...or he did it for some purpose...
mostly he intended something bad.....
so I will just say "No,thanks...keep it to yourselves,you may need it sometime or other" and leave them...
In our locality..the TV channels do try to do pranks on the public by their tricks...and will broadcast.(I mean there are specially prep teams for those channels who are even ready to get a hit in their nose)
so can't tell If someone offered me that amount...whether they are the media people...or a crazy guy....
any way thanks for the topic..........
have a great day/night..........
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
7 Jul 10
Some time ago there was a similar tv show in my country. It was pretty entertaining sometimes. They didn't exactly walk around offering people money, but they might as well have done that, because they did a lot of other pranks in order to test people's reaction.
@fake_you (391)
• Philippines
6 Jul 10
Fortunately, I haven't been in the same situation. I think it's really suspicious and a bit scary for a stranger to offer me money. I think I will not accept it unless he me a very reasonable answer. I'll accept it, then use it to be able to help someone else.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
7 Jul 10
That would be a good way of spending the money. I would probably have done something like that if I had accepted the money that he offered me.
@rockydam83 (846)
• Italy
7 Jul 10
I have never been in a situation. but if i ever got into such scene i will accept that money with detail information that why he wants to give me. Why only me and if he refuses to share the details i would not receive that money. You did a wise thing because once we have accepted money then we are bind to fulfill his demands also although no one can force us but this can lead us to some trouble kind of situation. I like your thoughts
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
7 Jul 10
Yes, I was wondering what he expected from me if I accepted the money. I thought that he might ask me to do him a favour, ask me to come with him or something like that. I didn't feel that it was safe to accept the money as I didn't know him or his motives.
@veejay19 (3589)
• India
7 Jul 10
No, i would never accept money from a stranger because he may be trying to pass on fake currency. Nowadays there are many people trying to pass on fake currency and if you take such currency from them and use that money you could land in trouble with the police, be arrested and be put behind bars, in prison.The fake currency racket is run by gangsters and terrorists to ruin a country`s economy and all people should be aware and alert .If someone approaches you then threaten him and say that you will call the police.If he is genuine then he will not be afraid and accompany you to the police station. If he is a crook then he will run away. So be careful of such persons.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
7 Jul 10
That is a good point. In my country we have also problems with fake currency. You are right we could get into trouble if we don't notice anything and just accept the fake currency. We recently got some new bills in my country and as far as I know they changed them in order to make it harder for the criminals to create fake bills, but we still have to be careful.
@crazydaisy (3896)
• Canada
7 Jul 10
Yes I was in a store when a stranger paid for the rest of my food plus a taxi home I thought that was really nice.he said if somebody else needs help be sure that I help them if I can.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
7 Jul 10
That was very nice of him to help you that way. In a situation like that I would probably have accepted the money, because I would have thought that he was just trying to help a person who needed it. In my situation the man offered me money "out of the blue", I didn't understand why he wanted to give me the money and that made me feel uncomfortable. If the same thing had happened in a situation where I was short of cash I would have looked at the situation from a different perspective I think.
@bubulizzz (508)
• Latvia
7 Jul 10
The money is something what people love to keep and that's way it seems strange if someone came and wants to give money for noting. Human is tended to take money for his work or some service, and so we feel some kind of shame if it has given by nothing. Human is rising being, who set up some goals and strive to reach them and then if someone disturb or goal with his good will by giving that what we wanted to reach without our efforts then we feel the shame.
From the time I have money problems and sometimes haven't event money for food for my daughter I am willing to take money even from stranger and I am very thankful for that. So the shame for money that hasn't our own profit is only our ego made shame.
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@imoecat (15)
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7 Jul 10
It's strange indeed.. are you a young woman and worried about that he might have thought you'd go out with him for money? or he might have thought you looked like a homeless person??? (sorry, but if he thought so, his action to you made sense)
Similar thing has happened to my daughter when she was 2-3 years old. when we were in the grocery store for shopping, a strange man handed my daughter a $1 bill, I said No thanks first, but he didn't stop trying to give my daughter the money, and since he did it in front of me(baby's mother) and was in store with many people around, (if necessary, I could've even asked for the security guard in store, or police in the situation/surroundings), I told my daughter to keep it and I told the man "Thank you". (if he did when he sees a little child alone in public, that may be a different story). Did you ask him "why?" not only keep telling him "No"?
Some rich people do play with money.. I've heard that the news a music producer Phil Spector who murdered a woman few years ago, that the day he killed woman, he was in the restaurant with the woman, and left $5,000 for tip to a waitless of the restaurant. (not sure details, but something like that). if the man who wanted to give you money was a rich man, he might have just played with his money like that.
But generally,, better not to accept such money if you're not comfortable.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
7 Jul 10
Thanks for your response and welcome to MyLot!
Yes, I am a woman and when he offered me money I couldn't help wondering what he wanted in return, I thought he might want to go out with me, invite me to his place etc. I asked why he wanted to me give me the money, but I didn't really get an answer, he just kept saying that he wanted to give it to me...
@Albert1989 (372)
• Malaysia
22 Jul 10
No, i wont take the money from a stranger because i don't know what is the purpose of that person giving me the money.
As well as if a stranger want get money from me, i will not give them. We have in place several outreach programmes and help groups for people in need. We might encourage the wrong value by giving money to these people.
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@sender621 (14893)
• United States
7 Jul 10
I could not see myself accepting money from a strnager. Why should someone I know want to offer me money. Where did the money come from? These are questions that would haunt me. I would just have to keep on walking.
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@wickedspies (965)
• United States
7 Jul 10
it depends on the situation... where were you what were you wearing because he might have thought you worked somewhere and was just trying to give you someone elses tip. However it could have also turned into a really bad thing if you were in the wrong neighborhood. i dunno depends on how shady the person handing me the money looks.
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@Crazy_Poster (751)
• India
7 Jul 10
No! I would not like to accept money from strangers, in fact I have enough money to live my life and to enjoy my life..I am a hardworking person and I like to earn money from my own efforts and handwork...
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@catesjets (34)
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
I won't accept it, think first would he really give you money just because he wants to do it? He'll probably ask a favor from you that's why he's giving you some money :)