can you tell me something, that has intrigued me recently ...why men wink ...?
@tigerlily1972 (502)
Germany
July 6, 2010 4:55pm CST
...and what is on the man's mind when he chose to wink on a woman?? is it a hello, a joke, or flirting? There is this guy who winks at me everytime we cross paths, even though he knows i am married. He asked me once for a date, i refused and told him, i am already married. So now i want to ask men ...what can a man be thinking when he do this ?? Its starting to bother me, that when i see him, i want to run. LOL
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@basqui (3888)
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
If he would not have asked for a date then I would have said, he could have it as mannerism or just joking around. But the fact that he asked for a date then it's obvious that he's interested in you and maybe wants an affair, lol. Well take care and be faithful.
@tigerlily1972 (502)
• Germany
7 Jul 10
o je...that's what i had been thinking..that he fancies me to be his 2nd fiddle.
Thanks for your answer ...and yup! i will always be faithful. As promised :-)
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
7 Jul 10
tigerlily1972,
I feel it would help if you could be a little more objective here and not be too conclusive that this man is actually after you for some personal gratifications.
You may just appear comical with all that conclusiveness as you go about in your jittery ways. Men like women flirt as well socially and they can mean other things than actually getting into your pants. You may come across as an attractive individual that exudes qualities that makes people want to know you more or talk with.
In the office, you may also be someone who is placed with certain authority and your male subordinates may just want to have a cordial and mutual working relationship where they can gain a smooth working environment like expedite reimbursements, hassle free leave approvals or favorable work scheduling. So, you may also expect your male colleagues flirting with you as well.
So, just be a little open and not be over cautious or judgmental. As you literally push people away, you may be actually turning away some one who may be trying to be a good friend to you, after all.
@tigerlily1972 (502)
• Germany
7 Jul 10
Hallo skysuccess, nice to see ...again. Maybe you are still single thats why you welcome the thought of someone who might turn out to be a good friend. But it is a whole lot different when you are married. Its like..you can scratch your head wondering why someone is still flirting with you..and the feeling is so totally uneasy, specially afraid that a neighbor or a friend will see him winking at me.
and i do not like subordinates who would wink at their female boss(es)!! I find that so improper & unethical... or am i just being conservative? lol
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
7 Jul 10
I think he's teasing and flirting with you at the same time. Though he knows you might not be interested, I must say he's pretty daring to do that, knowing that you are married some-more. Just ignore those winks and don't even make an angry face. Look as though you see nothing and ignore, and after awhile, those winks will go away, I'm sure.
@tigerlily1972 (502)
• Germany
7 Jul 10
There he was again this morning, bringing his daughter to school while i also bring mine. We meet every morning & he winked at me again! Men! its annoying, i hope no other has seen he has winked to me...
Thanks for the "see nothing & ignore"...i'll try that.
@tigerlily1972 (502)
• Germany
7 Jul 10
I have actually told my husband about this man inviting me for a date. He simply asnwered : maybe he is separated or divorced from the wife. Good answer but dont help much.
@mercedlegurpa (955)
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
Well for me it's because they're flirting. There's no other reason. Oh and this guy who winks at you, I think he likes you but unfortunately you're married.
@tigerlily1972 (502)
• Germany
8 Jul 10
yup, unfortunately i am already claimed. And he is not bad looking ( tall, soft spoken & polite)
@damned_dle (3942)
• Philippines
6 Jul 10
YUP. Flirting. And he thinks you like him too. I'd say he is an over-confident guy. Or he is just trying to be cute.
@tigerlily1972 (502)
• Germany
6 Jul 10
and why does he think i like him ??? i did not do anything special for him, except greeted him "morning" like i greet anyone else & others greeting the other too.
@tigerlily1972 (502)
• Germany
6 Jul 10
It sends a very uncomfortable feeling when someone winks at you, right. And double it, kquiming, when you are already married. How to stop him, i do not have any clue... only to avoid seeing him or he seeing me.
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
30 Nov 10
Mostly men do this gesture, and most of the time it is their way of getting your attention or maybe he wants to open a conversation or to make friends with you.There are many possibilities like flirting or he' just playing cute...
@shattered (1728)
• Philippines
17 Nov 10
Two things:
1.) As with the previous post, he likes you and is trying to flirt with you; or
2.) He thinks winking is cool.
Oh make that three...
3.) He can't stop winking because of an eyelid disorder! lol No offense meant to those suffering from this disorder.
