choose
By ghieganda
@ghieganda (14)
Philippines
July 7, 2010 1:36am CST
what will you choose friendship or commitment?
i a member of an organization (a choir) lately there are some dispute within our group. initially i am not involve in the issue because the one involved are my friends who are also part of our organization. since i am a friend i lent a shoulder for them to cry on and be a listener to them and provide some opinion on the matter at hand.. this make them think that i was on the side of my friends..eventually now they don't consider as part of the group anymore..the matter become worse when friendships are being broken..some of them sacrifice friendship for the organization..and some sacrifice the organization for the sake of friendship..if you will choose what will you choose?
2 responses
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
I think your choir mates are being immature. They're supposed to treat you right because their problem is not with you, it is with your friend. And if they're smart enough, they should understand that the person they are opposing to is you friend, so it's only normal and natural for you to be talking to her and listening to her side of the story. If you're really not involved, then they should treat you as how they've normally treated you before the issue started.
@jenmau (28)
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
yah you're right ! but that is only normal if ghieganda really feel inside of being just a friend .. nothing more and nothing else .. because usually acting like that is just keeping a feelings that he/she can't admit because he/sme might think of losing this person.. i can just advice that if you have feelings to someone, don't just act like that, say it straight .. if you got hurt that's ok, atleast you show your feelings.
@ghieganda (14)
• Philippines
8 Jul 10
actually the issue got bigger and bigger because of course since i console my friend i gave her advice and opinion on the matter..somebody from the group heard our conversation and relayed that to the other but the worse there was that he distorted some truth in it..to make the story short they believe him on what he said that i said something bad about them and i was part of the group who oppose our leaders..they don't give us time to explain..so i decided that we don't have to explain to people who would not listen..let time alone heal all wounds..am i right?
@dian21 (606)
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
No matter what, a friend is a friend. You just did your part as a friend. The organization or the choir should not take it personally because you just tried to help a friend. If I were in your shoes, I will also do the same as what you did. Anyways, organization can be found easily, but true friends cannot be found in just a snap of a finger. If they chose to exclude you in the group so be it. You can just join another organization maybe, where people are more friendly and reasonable.
