My Kids Are Being Broadcast Through Facebook... I Am Livid!!!
By Rosie
@rosie230 (1703)
July 7, 2010 3:36am CST
It came to my attention last night that some woman, who is my boyfriends ex, has been stirring up trouble yet again. Not only did I have nasty text messages from here, but now she has taken things to a new level. We are livid with what has been done, as our child is being broadcast through facebook.
Basically I was informed that this woman has written a status on her facebook account telling people my name, telling them to check my profile picture out of my little boy, who in her eyes (and who she is telling everyone) is the mistaken love child... He is not a love child, and he certainly not a mistake. His Dad and I are trying to sort this out, but it just feels like world war 3 has erupted, because even his older kids have had a go at her about speaking about their brother like this, and getting all this information through the internet. Nobody should do this, it is illegal in any count, and using young innocent children, just because you don't like something is disgusting and very low.
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@oldchem1 (8132)
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7 Jul 10
The downside of Facebook!!
I have lost count of the amount of troubles and rows that I know of through Facebook!
This though is the lowest of the low, if I was you I would go to the police and report her, you must also report her to Facebook.
I actually left Facebook for a year because of problems it was causing in my family, when I rejoined I was very picky as to who I allowed as a friend!!
I do hope that you get this sorted very soon, you are not having a good time lately are you!!
I have lost count of the amount of troubles and rows that I know of through Facebook!
This though is the lowest of the low, if I was you I would go to the police and report her, you must also report her to Facebook.
I actually left Facebook for a year because of problems it was causing in my family, when I rejoined I was very picky as to who I allowed as a friend!!
I do hope that you get this sorted very soon, you are not having a good time lately are you!!1 person likes this
@rosie230 (1703)
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7 Jul 10
No I am not... I have been having problems especially with her for a couple of months now. I actually was stupid to think that a woman who was in her 40's would have been a little less immature about this but I was wrong. My kids are being treated as victims, and I am being given a reputation that is just a lie. Everything has kicked off and we are sorting it believe me... I know that we are all vulnerable to things when we join with social networking sites like this, but I never dreamed that something as low as this could ever have effected me or the kids, I am disgusted.
... I have been having problems especially with her for a couple of months now. I actually was stupid to think that a woman who was in her 40's would have been a little less immature about this but I was wrong. My kids are being treated as victims, and I am being given a reputation that is just a lie. Everything has kicked off and we are sorting it believe me... I know that we are all vulnerable to things when we join with social networking sites like this, but I never dreamed that something as low as this could ever have effected me or the kids, I am disgusted.1 person likes this
@ellie333 (21016)
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7 Jul 10
Hi OldChem, I said to Rosie to report to Facebook and the police to as this is just so wrong, deframmation of character, libel even and also harrassment for a start and to post pics of a child is also taken as a no no eh! People really P*** me off at times. I also have deactivated my account in the past as I didn't want certain people knowing what my family were up too as there are always people with malice out there and wanting to cause trouble. I feel sorry for them in a way as they have no lives just live it through messing with others so they must be so unhappy eh!
@chookie1971 (2271)
• Australia
7 Jul 10
That is so wrong. I have seen some people use children in an disagreements on facebook. I have even seen one woman who used her child's profile to abuse one other person. That is so wrong.
My attitude is that if there is a problem, the problem only exist between two people. I have had problems with other people and my children come to me and ask, does that mean that I can't be friends with my friends? I tell them no. You can be friends with them. Just be aware that the problem only exist between myself and your friend's mother.
If it gets to much, report it to facebook. They will be able to look into every thing and from there they will make a decision.
As to your photos, you can change to privacy settings. The good thing is if you have family that you want to share your photos with, then only select those people. As to any one else looking at the photos, they can't once you have set the privacy settings.
@chookie1971 (2271)
• Australia
7 Jul 10
I, myself have changed face book. Restricted my settings to minimum. For strangers, all they see is my name and profile pic. That is it. That is because some one was causing me trouble. Hopefully with what my loyal friends and I did, we have got rid of him off facebook. So hopefully my troubles are over. I hope yours come to an end soon.
@rosie230 (1703)
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7 Jul 10
Yes it is very wrong, I am disgusted in this person stooping so low as to use my children. This woman does not even know me or my kids, she just knows about me. My privacy settings have always been set for only my friends to see all apart from searching for me. Well I have changed this now, as well as changing my profile picture, so only my friends can see. What she has done is sick and wrong.
@ellie333 (21016)
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7 Jul 10
Rosie, I think you can report this as some sort of abuse on Facebook, also change your security settings so that only friends and not friends of friends can see your profile and any pictures. This is so wrong. I realiseyour situation with this guy is a bit complex but this woman really needs to be stopped in hertracks on this. I would contact the police too and let them know what is happening as this is deframation of character too. Hope you get itresolved but block her too and change settingswould be first move I would make that way she cannot get to you. huggles. Ellie :D
@rosie230 (1703)
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7 Jul 10
My profile is all private so friends were the only people who could look at my stuff... the only thing that was available was the searching for me in which only a profile pic would have been shown... I have changed this now, since it was the same one as I have here of Justin. She is not on my friends list. It's been a mess from start to finish, but now she has crossed the line.
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@mynestegg (519)
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
Wow. I think you can actually sue her for this. Don't ask me what because I really don't know but if you think she's gotten far enough, you might actually want to look into this. I mean, if she is capable of doing this to you and your children now, just think what else could she be capable of? I say sue her and make her shut up.
@ziyadahinc212 (552)
• United States
9 Jul 10
I say, U should go over to your ex's house and ask her,"What did the five fingers say to the face...SLAP!" And then tell her in front of him (your ex)never use your child image online ever again. Or you'll be back with the police and a arrest warrant w/her name on it!
@tammys85 (30066)
• Baltimore, Maryland
9 Jul 10
Wow, really? Using children in the middle of a fight? I can see why you are livid, and I would be too! This IS wrong. I would definitely report her to Facebook if you have not already. Maybe a disabled account will teach her not to bring children into any problems.
Atleast if your privacy settings are set to friends only, people cannot see him, but that is still wrong of her to do! I'm sorry that has happened. :-/
@anne25penn (3305)
• Philippines
8 Jul 10
I have deactivated my facebook account because it has given me more trouble over the past few months. And rather than getting hurt by seeing bogus profiles of my ex and his new gf who is married, I opted to stay as far away from facebook. Facebook is being used for all the wrong reasons and they have had more trouble reports. This is why when you contact their admin, it will take them quite some time before they can respond back. My only recourse so that I can stay away from Facebook troubles is to deactivate and delete my account.
@maylaine (441)
• Philippines
8 Jul 10
that is bad..she should not involved anyone especially kid with regards to adult matters..i think you should also post a comment telling that she is not telling the truth..and try to set your account for your friends and family only so no one can see and post just like that to your account..i hope you can fix this matter coz your little boy will be affected.
@gitfiddleplayer (10362)
• United States
9 Jul 10
Delete your account! It might take a few months to get rid of all the ammo this other person is using but it can be done. I would delete your account right now and correspond with your friends through e-mail. You cannot sue or take this to court since you agreed to have your personal information available for all to see. Its in the fine print.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
8 Jul 10
Hi rosie, this is exactly the reason that I have stayed away
from Facebook! I have always felt that it would be more trouble
than it is worth! I believe, as others have already said here
that this is against the rules of Facebook and this person should
be reported for Abuse! No matter what you issue is with another
adult you NEVER bring a child into it! This is where this person
has crossed the line! I would definitely look into reporting
her as I do believe it is illegal to use a child in this manner!
@Canellita (12029)
• United States
8 Jul 10
First of all, do you have access to her fb or does she have privacy settings? If you can access her posts you need to print them all out and then call a lawyer.
What she has done is not necessarily illegal. She is basically gossiping about you on the internet. It may be possible though for you to get some kind of restraining order against her.
@rosepedal64 (4188)
• United States
7 Jul 10
Hi Rosie
I agree with you and I do think that something legally needs to be done. It is almost to the point of being harrassament. You might want to check into that. Like some of the others have said I think that you might have to go to Facebook and report her as abuse.
I wish you luck and hope that it comes to a halt before someone really gets hurt.
@clouds0327 (1389)
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
That is so childish. I think they are way beyond the line. Well, I understand why she is hateful, of course she had a broken family. But to include your son into the picture is not a responsible act to do... She should have thought that whatever is happen between the two of you she still does not have the right to include an innocent child. You believe in karma.. Karma will come to her in the future for sure.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
7 Jul 10
report her butt to facebook and they will or should delete her account. there is a new law against cyber bully
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
7 Jul 10
I'm so sorry this has happened. This is why I no longer use Facebook. I find it quite sinister in some respects even though I have no children of my own...I worry for the ones that are on there. I realise that what you are going through is something entirely different to what I describe (as it is you that is the subject of the abuse in a way), but I would still cancel my account with them...right now...if it was me.
This is why I no longer use Facebook. I find it quite sinister in some respects even though I have no children of my own...I worry for the ones that are on there. I realise that what you are going through is something entirely different to what I describe (as it is you that is the subject of the abuse in a way), but I would still cancel my account with them...right now...if it was me.
@juicekodai (1121)
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
that's just so sick of her.. i pity her for not being able to move on.. and it has given hir psychological problem... hahaha
she has no right to do that... what's between you is between you.. she shouldnt include the innocent kid with her own issue...
report her profile to facebook and block her.. and maybe you can report her to the police..
@dfhonline (130)
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
You should take screenshots of her post and use it as evidence. Talk to a layer, you could probably sue her. She is way out of line.
