Single is lonely...

You know what...? Out of everyone's comments, yours is my favorite because it actually wasn't just a reiteration of things I've already heard. It actually sounded sincere. Whoever you are, if you were within arms reach, I would've given you a big hug... I thank you for that so much. You're right... I do reflect back to times when my husband and I were happy... then it leads to a bad thought of when we were arguing and I quickly disperse the thought completely from my mind. I don't need him to define me, you're right, but somewhere along the lines in the past few years, he became a part of me. We became one, so without him I feel like I don't have half of myself.. because I looked at him like my better half. I hope that I can be as strong as your cousin one day... and move on with my life grudge-free and stress-free. I know one day he will realize that he lost a good woman who loved him with everything she possessed... and when he realizes that woman was me... I will feel a lot better. Thanks so much for your comment... you really brightened my day!!

I really hope that I reach that point one day that you're speaking of. Acceptance. I am just so weary now from having been depressed for so long and trying to make things work. I even tried biting my tongue and tolerating things I wouldn't normally tolerate to try and keep the peace.. nothing works. I am really just beginning to feel that things aren't meant to be between me and him. But thanks again so much for your words of comfort. They mean way more than you know!

I understand your sentiments, mrscallands22. Just like you, I also believe that I deserve someone's love, someone who also deserves so much love which I can give in return. Yet I'd rather not dwell on what is lacking in my life and I simply enjoy the unconditional love that my family has for me but that doesn't mean that I've already given up hope. :-) Anyway, I hope things between you and your husband go well soon. Good luck!

You're right. I do appreciate the love from my family to fill that empty void that I have been feeling. I try to embrace those type of things in my life but somehow I feel distracted. Thanks and I hope so too!!

It takes a strong person to accept what's around them for what it is and just be content. I, on the other hand, can't do that because I'm not content with being single or what I have. I know that I deserve someone's love and that someone is just as deserving of the love that I have to offer because I have so much to give. Maybe my husband will come to his senses and we can work things out... if not... I will take some time to get over him and move on.... Thanks for your comment!!

True, but I'm glad that I'm not single anymore... because for me it does suck. I was happy about the other aspects in my life that were good... but I feel like if you have no one to share them with... what's the point at the end of the day?? Me and hubby are back together!!!! YAY!!!

if u had make the decision to stay single, go on. i know u can cope it and i believe those smile in your face will rise again

Thanks and I hope so, too!!

I do still want to be with him and I know that inwardly he wants to be with me as well... but so much time has passed where we argued and didn't get along.. we don't really know each other anymore. Relationships or marriages don't always end as a result of cheating, sometimes the people just simply grow apart. We've been married since 2007 and separated for most of our marriage. Things seemed simpler when we were just dating. I think I will remain single for now and wait for what God has in store for me. Thanks for your comment!!

I really don't want to leave him, Jen. But I can't wait around my whole life either. I am 22 years old and still young in my life. I don't want to waste my life and wait around only to find out that it still doesn't work. But, I will put it in God's hands and leave it where it be's. Thanks for your comment!!

Thanks for your words of comfort. I hope that we both can reach a point of happiness one day.. whether that's alone or with someone else. Either way, we deserve happiness and bliss. Thanks for your comment and I wish you the best as well!!

Thank you, dear. And amen to that! ^^

I will definitely have to try some of those activities. Because sitting around dwelling isn't helping me any.. Thanks for your comment and good luck to you too!

I really hope that works out for you. It sucks to be in love with someone and not be with that person, regardless of what the situation may be. All we can hope is that they realize that we love them unconditionally and realize our worth. I hope that is someday soon for the both of us... Thanks for your comment!!

I will definitely try that.. because I love chocolate and candy lol. That instantly heightens my spirits. Thanks for your comment!!

I have always been scared of loneliness.... that's why I think it is having such a negative effect on me. I really wish there was another way... but I am going to perservere and keep on going. Thanks for your comment!!

I'm not working right now.. so I have a lot of free time on my hands to just THINK... which is the worst thing for me to do. I don't have many friends, but the ones I do.. are very good ones and they help me all that they can. I do need to pray more... I can say that that is something that would help me a lot. But, a lot of times, it just slips my mind. I will definitely have to try harder though if I want to overcome this as a sane person. Thanks for your comment!!

You're right.. I do love myself but do to what has happened.. I find myself needing to redo my preferences or rearrange my priorities again. I do love my husband with all that I possess... but I am getting to wit's end. I have waited so long that I doubt that I can wait for another 2 or 3 years. So it's coming to a point where I'm giving him an ultimatum which is now or never, I just hope we both make the right choice that's for us.. Thanks for your comment!!

I agree because right now I am really starting to feel bitter. I just wonder why I picked him versus the other billions of people in the world. I look at some of my friends, happy and prosperous in their marriage then I sit back and look at mine, misery, loneliness and depression and I scoff at it. I do one thing... I will never get married again under no circumstances. I don't wish heartbreak or anything remotely close on my WORST ENEMY.... Hopefully, with God's help, I can get over this. Thanks for your comment!!

I am currently trying to get my life together, headed in the direction where I want to go. My life isn't where I want it to be at this point, but I really am trying. I just can't keep attempting it alone. Thanks for your comment!!

I really don't have many female friends... as they are not trustworthy and always cause problems for me. I only tend to chill with my girl cousins and my best friend lives in a different city now, so it definitely has been hard coping. Also, my daughter looks just like my husband, so regardless of whether he's around or not, I see him everyday in her. I go out from time to time, only to come back and be accused of being with someone else, but I have long since stopped caring what he thinks I may be doing, especially when I know the truth. Yes, it is heart-wrenching to go through this, but I feel like I should be used to it by now being that this has been going on for over 2 years. I just want arms around me at night and to have a healthy relationship with a man who loves me for who I am, no more, no less. I guess after this marriage is over.. I will have to keep searching for that... in order to fill the void that I have since he's been gone. Thanks for your comment!!