Cheating
By jerikjames
@jerikjames (1041)
Philippines
July 8, 2010 3:06am CST
This is not a gender discriminating topic. That said, I just want to ask how you guys feel about cheating in relationships. For me, we grew up in a belief created by norms that it is men's nature to cheat, and women are being ostracized when they cheat since they are the ones who are loyal and could carry big emotional loads. Does gender really affect cheating? Whatever happened and whoever did it, cheating is still cheating right?
What about you guys? What can you say about cheating?
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7 responses
@smartjack (520)
• India
8 Jul 10
there is cheating when there is no love. If you are in love you will never cheat. When a boy and girl fall in love, they are ready to do anything for each other. They have lot of feelings for each other. They just don't care about anything else. But when there is no love there is lust. Lust does play a big role in some relationships breaking. because of lust people tend to cheat in relationship. A boy may find others wife more beautiful than his own, so he may cheat on her. A girl may not be very satisfied with her husband, so she might look for some other Guy who gives her more satisfaction. So it is wrong to judge from one point of view that only boys cheat.
@jerikjames (1041)
• Philippines
8 Jul 10
I agree. People often mistake love with lust. I also think that the reason someone cheats is that he or she is not satisfied with the other, and love does not dwell on satisfaction alone.
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
8 Jul 10
hmmmm i know a lot of case where a woman cheated on his husband and yeah like what you said they are being ostracized... I do believe that man and woman must have the same rights...
but we cannot blame everybody if they ostracized women when they did it... becuase I dont really know how to find a word...but EACH OF US HAS SOMEBODYS EXPECTIONS...and sometimes that expectation can be affected by gender becuase there are still something that a woman can do that a man cant do and vice versa...
but yeah we can just dont mind all that expectations,,,but its natural in humans nature
@vampwitch02 (14)
•
8 Jul 10
It's what they always say, BOYS WILL BE BOYS. All man is just the same ( sorry if I offend someone) It is in their nature to cheat, but if you really love your woman, why do you have to cheat if you don't want to hurt her feelings right?
@cheongyc (5072)
• Malaysia
8 Jul 10
Cheating is wrong, regardless of which gender. I think that the biasing norm is possibly a result of polygamy tradition since ancient time. In the past, men are allowed to have multiple spouses and women are having limited freedom in marriage. In today modern societies, this no longer applicable, but it's strange that some societies is still having higher tolerance towards the male who cheat.
@deriellevc73 (982)
• Philippines
9 Jul 10
I agree with you cheongyc. Cheating is still cheating, no matter who does it. I do disagree with you about men being allowed multiple spouses in the past but is no longer applicable now statement.
I do believe that the men are still tolerated to have multiple wives today, especially the muslims and other nationalities whose culture tolerates this practice. Up to this time, society still look down on women who cheats on their husbands or bf's but tolerated the men who do the same deed.
Our society today is practicing a double standard when it comes to cheating. It is a sad reality, but nevertheless, it is the reality.
@dian21 (606)
• Philippines
8 Jul 10
I am not a guy. But I think it is unfair to know that women are being ostracized when they cheat and it is accepted by society if men will cheat. I believe in the equality of men and women. What a man can do, a woman can as well. Both men and women have the same emotions. You are right, cheating in whatever way or whoever did it, is still a cheating and no one is excempted. Sometimes the culture is unfair about this issue.
@jerikjames (1041)
• Philippines
8 Jul 10
True. Women can do what we guys could. I really really don't agree with not bringing the gender issue in cheating.
@shocker154 (16)
• Canada
9 Jul 10
Well cheating can mean a lot of things in a relationship. It really depends what you and your significant other define as cheating. It could be something as small as fantasizing about another woman/man to something like sleeping with there best friend/sibling. The problem with relationships is that most of them don't last very long, I think some people cheat because they want something new but they're still attached to there significant other.
I personally believe an open relationship is a happy relationship.
@springhana (12)
• China
8 Jul 10
Firstly I should accept that men like cheating.. But as a boy i also tell you that sometimes it is a need to cheat, although it's not good. And sometimes gitls also do this, to me, i have ever cheated by my girlfriends many times. I think we should not say many guys are bad.
