How to resolve a conflict in family?
By bubulizzz
@bubulizzz (508)
Latvia
July 8, 2010 1:25pm CST
Almost a week I live in crossfire between my mother and spouse. They had very big strife and now they don't even talk to each other. And I'm between them.
In this disagreement guilty was both parts - my mother every time belittle my spouse knowledges and viewpoints. And in one moment he can't to cope with pressure and said everything what he thinks of her (it was in very rude manner using very rough words). Now she can't to sleep at nights, cry sometime and drink.
He don't want to apologize because he event don't want to talk with her anymore. Also he thinks that it isn't worth to apologize if she all the time do and say one and the same.
And so I am between them in this conflict - it's not nice situation! Me and my daughter struggle from that most of all!
What I should do?
3 responses
@leonardog1 (186)
• Spain
8 Jul 10
wow thats harsh u know u have got to say it right or else you will lose one of the 2
@bubulizzz (508)
• Latvia
8 Jul 10
This is really great problem, because if I choose one side or another I will be a loser.
@Albert1989 (372)
• Malaysia
10 Jul 10
Well, conflict always happened in every family. Sometimes we make the small conflict which can be solved within a matter of minutes into big troubles. Anyway, no matter how complicated is the conflict, there are healthy and productive ways to work toward the resolution of family conflicts.
We only have to do some steps to solve any conflict that we met.
1-IDENTIFY THE PROBLEM
2-DISCUESS THE PROBLEM TOGETHER WITH FAMILY MEMBERS
3-LISTEN EVERY THOUGH THAT COME OUT FROM EVERY FAMILY MEMBERS
4-CHOOSE A BEST SOLUTION TO SOLVE IT
It's only 4 simple steps that can help us to solve the problem. So, why dont you guys try it out??^^
@bubulizzz (508)
• Latvia
10 Jul 10
Into my case I can't to put to speak them - my spouse don't want to talk with my mother and I can't to apologizes in his place, because she don't need my apologize but his.
I know that problem is that my spouse don't like her because she don't hold respect to him and deny everything he does or say...before this conflict they have talked about this, but she still do as she want.
@bubulizzz (508)
• Latvia
8 Jul 10
I tried to say them that, but they don't want to hear me:
mother said that she would not stop to drink as far as he will not apologize;
but he as I have mentioned before, will not apologize because of his manly pride.
