how do you feel when you wait for a friend who would never come?

Depends on exactly the reason, how often, and if they are trustworthy. I have a friend of many years. Once I decided to go to a party with her. So I arranged to meet her nearby. I waited and waited. By the time I gave up, it was very late, so I didn't go to the party either. I was very angry and hurt. But then she told me how she had a huge fight with her sister, whose house she was staying at. Her sister told her to get out. So she was busy grabbing all her stuff, and moving into motel near by. She was so upset and busy trying to move all her stuff, she forgot to meet me. Then I felt really bad because I knew she had problems with her sister before. So is the person trustworthy? Can you believe what they say? Do they do it all the time? Is this something that happens constantly? Do you believe whatever reason they had? All of us make mistakes now and then. But if they are lying to you, or if they seem to always ditch you, or if their excuse seems made up or unbelievable.... Maybe you need to find a better friend. Sometimes people really do not understand how hurtful what they did was. Trying being direct "I wish you wouldn't do that to me. You could have at least called, because I was looking forward to hanging out. Friends shouldn't do that to each other." If she doesn't respond, then at least you know what kind of person she is, and you can find a real friend somewhere else. If she does, then you have gained your friend :)

Certainly, I would feel awful and would seriously reconsider that friendship. Anyway, I think you did it right when you dropped off the phone because that lack of answer was in line with your friend's failure to go and meet you in the mall that evening. Hopefully this strong reaction of yours made him understand what he had caused to you.

it would depend on the reason An emergency or medical reason would be one thing, but "I forgot" or that kind would be entirely different. Did you have a phone? did the other person?

I hope I'd have enough courtesy to listen to my friend's explanation.

hi there,i also experienced the same thing.same story.but my friend just didn't know that we are going to meet.he just forgot about the meeting place and time.so bad! i waited for such long time then he was just going anywhere. i hate that! but sometimes we should also try to listen to their explanations for it might be an accident or emergency that really needs to attend to. it's just that they can't find the time to contact and try to apologize for not being there.

Hi, I think you had waited too long for your friend. It is a normal reaction to be upset, but if your friend appologised I think you must go on and forgive her. It happens for people to forget. You better tell her thats no problem but also let her know that you dont like to wait for

I would probably be dismayed. You actually need an explanation with what happened, but that is not enough to justify the wasted time waiting for that person. You will be hurt of course because you were nor advised earlier that he/she is not coming. I hate this kind of people who are too insensitive enough not even thinking of what will you feel. I have been in the same situation and these people are too abusive of your patience. Perhaps, you need to refresh your mind with what happened. Let them know you felt bad.

I will be very mad....It's so rude for them not to text you while you are waiting for them in the mall and waited another day before they call you... Anyway, they might have a valid reason....It happens to me and since they are my friends, we forgive and forget!

Friends don't leave friends waiting without an explanation. This person is selfish and can hardly be called 'friend'. No one who really cares about your feelings will let you stay for hours on end and not call to tell you she's not coming, so you should go about your day. On the other hand, after an hour tops, I would be calling her and asking what's the delay. The telephones actually work in both directions. So, yes, your friend was wrong in not telling you she wasn't coming, but you were also a huge part of your wasted day. I do not have the patience or will to lose a whole day of my life because someone else has no manners and I haven't figured out how to call them to find out the problem. The time on earth is short, too short to waste in one spot in a mall waiting for hours for someone who doesn't show.

I did went through this misadventure....my friend also promised to meet me but she never came. Unfortunately there was no telephone at that time so she could not contact me to tell me she would not come. I kept on waiting till the shops were closed. When I met her the next day I scolded her although she apologised with me.

I will feel very bad with that kind of situations ....... Actually i don't like to wait for anyone ...... according to me waiting for someone means we are giving them some unnecessary importance to them...... so i like to make others to wait for me........

I also hate this action to me , because I have the same situation before . Me and my good friends had a appointment for having a dinner together . We made 5 o'clock . But one of my friends did not arrive until 7 o'clock . He late over 2 hours . Though he said many reasons and apology for us , most of my other friends become angry for his late ,include me . Therefore I know your feeling .

If i were you,i think i would be more mad than you when he apologize.if he do had something surround her at that time,at least he can notify you and say sorry...If this situation occurs several times,then i don't think this guy is a one you deserve to trust.

Well obviously, being stood up is a terrible thing for someone to do to you. Even if the friend had a perfectly reasonable excuse for not making it to the mall, unless it includes why he/she didn't call/text me about it, I'd be pissed as hell.

cac2010 Of course I will be mad to the max also, but we have to give them also the chance to explain themselves on why did they not showed up or the least, have texted you at least. Listen to their explaination and size it up if it's a valid reason. If it's valid, then be fair, you have to forgive your friend but if it's not, then you have all the reason to ignore her completely as your friend. But if your friend is also trying hard to win you again, then, it's up to you if you'll accept him back wwith open arms. After all, a friend is still a friend no matter what.

If the reason why she stood you up was something of an emergency in nature, maybe I'd understand but if she was just having a bad hair day, then I'd consider that as very rude. That was also a sign of disrespect and taking your friendship for granted. Now, that got you upset but maybe tomorrow there is a possibility of you forgiving her. However, make sure you draw the line very clearly, and tell her once and for all that what she did was rude and if she continues to do that not only to you but to others as well, there a possibility that one day- she would end up friendless. Tell her you are not happy about her very disturbing attitude, and worse, she'll get used to doing that and it is not good! If she does it again, erase her from your friend's directory and start looking for someone with good manners.

i would feel bad of course. your friend should have told you if he/she couldn't make it. how was his/her excuse for not coming? reasonable enough? just remember to consider her explanation objectively. you're friends after all.

I think many people have similar experiences, I have too. (especially when my husband was my boyfriend long time ago.. ), but Did you call the friend when you were waiting ??? you were waiting in the 3-4 hours that day, weren't you??? didn't you call her/him from the mall? you could have left the mall and go home after you waited for a 30 minutes after 5:30pm. from your story, I think the friend completely forgot about the appointment with you that day, or decided to do some other plan priority without asking you if okey to calcel the appointment for that. If I were your situation, I would at least releaved bit 'cause #1. I might have worried if she/he got some accident or involved with trouble such as crime, so he/she might have not showed up the mall... and the call can tell he/she was alright. #2. it proves that he/she remembered the appointment, and said sorry for not showing up. it means he/she knew what he/she did to you. I don't know about over explanation, but nice at least called you for explanation and to say sorry. if she/he offers another day to meet you to make up, make sure call him/her 20-30 minutes before the appointment time, to ask if he/she is coming.

That's too bad. If I were in you case, I feel the same way too. If they can't come, they better give you a call or maybe a txt message that they will not come. That's unfair for your part. You've wasted your time by just by waiting at the mall. That's unreasonable. But you said your friend gave you a call the next day. Why should be next day? Why not now to say sorry? Sorry for this, but i hate people do things like that. My feelings got burst out when I read your testimony. But maybe you can forgive your friend after you got cool down and ready to accept his or her apology. The best way is to talk to your friend and talk about why he or she didn't come.

Whenever my friend do like this then next time I also do the same with him so he realize that waiting is how much painful.You should know the value of time as said that time is money and if you are wasting time then its mean you are wasting time.