Need tips for a big problem :/.
By Caaiioo
@Caaiioo (32)
Brazil
July 9, 2010 1:17pm CST
I have a problem with my GF, we are together sice 2009 and 3 days ago.. my friend took some pictures.. she was in the shooping kissing another guy, I'm VERY ungry she didn't know that I know.. before I do something wrong, I want to collect some tips and infos.. I'm really confuse, may I talk with her? may I talk with the guy whom she was kissing? may I do something counter her ? may I don't do anything ? Please guys, I really need some orientations before I take some stupid actions :/.. Thanks guys, have a good looting.. I really apreciate your answer. Cya.
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11 responses
@bubulizzz (508)
• Latvia
9 Jul 10
The first of all what you need to decide for yourself is - do you really love her and how much you are capable accept. If you really don't want to lose her and will forgive this mistake, then you need be calm and talk to her. But if not, then maybe it only was the sign that these relationships have ended...
Talking with guy will not help, just acting can plunge your friend yet more in his hands.
When you will talk with her you will know more - was this only friendly kiss, mistake or ... she don't loves you anymore. But if you love and respect her you need to accept any answer what she will give even if it will be the worst. It will show your love and that you aren't weak, because if you will react with anger or cry then it will level down you in her eyes, and I don't think that girls like weak mans!
I wish you to be strong and patient. Real love can heal all wounds!
God bless you!
@bubulizzz (508)
• Latvia
9 Jul 10
Best response is only material thing and it doesn't change people life. More cheerful makes me that my answer was useful to you!
@rhodzptc (1317)
• Philippines
9 Jul 10
I just thinking if that guy was your GF number two then why would they go out in public knowing that they might someone who knew her and know you also. And why would he kissed the guy knowing that she had a boyfriend and they are in public? There might be some possibilities that it was her cousin or a close friend or she just kissed him to thank him for something. But if I were in your shoes I might feel the same to and can't control my emotions but it can be settled in a nice way. First you just act normal don't mentioned her about the guy and what you saw, conduct verification about the guys identity and how he knows your GF then when your conclusion is all been proven then you can now ask her nicely and politely but don not ask direct questions instead you guide her first so that you will know wether if she would lie or admit it. How would you know if she's lying as I said you must know the guys first and how do they know each other. If she lie then you have to let her go. Revenge is sweet but it takes a clear mind to make it really sweet.
@woodman321123 (356)
• China
10 Jul 10
If I were you ,I will give the pictures to her ,and ask her why she do that silly thing . If she has no good reasons for me . I will dump her . And do not keep a touch with her any more . Because if she can betray you once ,then she also can betray you again . That is my opinion . Good luck
@Anlufet (27)
• Philippines
10 Jul 10
Cheating = dump
You mentioned about talking with the guy. You know him? If you do, talk to him. Be civil and don't stir up a fight since it ain't worth it. If he admits, go find yourself another woman. It only means you are supposed to look for someone else.
@RedAwsomeness (118)
• United States
10 Jul 10
well it could be a family member or something, it matters by how the kiss was. It could be a whole misunderstanding like what happens on a lot of comedy television shows. (this is a story that happens a lot, I have noticed this on a lot of shows)
@jugsjugs (12967)
•
9 Jul 10
I think that there is a reason to why they were kissing,as i would never kiss a man not unless it was on the cheek and they would have to be a relation or if they have done something nice to help me and also by saying good bye.If i was you i would talk to her or confront her and if she then denies it i would then show her the pictures.
@funorb12 (456)
• United States
9 Jul 10
Hello Caaiioo. Well, I am going to give you a question. Do you have what it takes to forgive her? If you forgive her, confront her, and tell her your feelings about her rouge actions. Don't think that this is unmanly. A man is respectful to one another. Anyway, tell her your feelings about this. If she truly loves you, she won't do this again. If you are too upset, well, I guess you can just ruin her life somehow. Ignore her, delete her as friends on social sites like Facebook. If you catch her again, record her, and publish it. Its your decision man. Forgive and forget, or revenge and sabotage.
@akhileshnigam (494)
• India
9 Jul 10
be friendly with her ,ask very clearly about your doubts ,may be your problems are solved ,if not solved then dump her
@gelica05 (40)
• United States
10 Jul 10
why dont you just ask her if the story is true. let her know you wont get mad if she is being truthful. if she does lie show her the picture. but if she does happen to lie maybe you should just let her go because she isnt such a truthful gf. though if she tells you the truth, trust may be hard for you to gain from her but at least she tells you the facts and you have found the solution to the problem
@leonardog1 (186)
• Spain
9 Jul 10
first when your with her when she goes some were and she asks you to hold her purse take her phone and see if shes sending flirts cause it could be like a cousin a they were kissing hello but dude u know if shes cheating dump her