I am so in love with my only son that it's scaring me to have another child.

Hi, I am also a mother of one little boy and my son is 3.5 years old now. He is my sunshine and my everything. I always want the best for him. I have told myself that I will only have one kid with me,because it is not easy to takecare of a kid. I also worry about sibling rivalry and to avoid it, I better stick to one kid for my family. I did told my husband about it and he did not comment much on it. At this moment, our situation only allow us to have one kid. Everything is talking about money and it definitely need lot of money to raise for another kid. I always want my son to be independent.I don't like those "mama's boy". I want him to be an useful person in future and do proud to me and my husband.

I also have a 3 year old son and sometimes i also think those things (scare to have another child). I am thinking of a girl for my next child. My son always looking for playmates to play with. He always wanted his cousins to be with him so that he has playmates. Every time we went out for a mall, I always would bring my nephews so that my son would have someone to play with in the playground. Playmate, that's one thing that comes to my mind that's why I am looking forward for another child.

I am in this situation. You see i didn't want to plan for a second child till my son was at least in elementary. I felt it would open up more opportunity so i wouldn't feel pulled between them sort of speak. Right now my second one is due in december. A month before my son turns four. Im scared of my son feeling the same things. But i already know what to expect from looking at others who have went through this. Also I am prepared and know how to handle. As for you being concerned about the second baby feeling unloved. Well once he or she is born you will learn that you can love two just as much as one. I already love baby #2 even though he hasn't been born yet. I also make sure i take time out of the day to show my love to my first born. I even let him kiss my belly and talk to baby #2. It helps him bond before hand. So don't be afraid to expand your family but if your not ready then tell your hubby. You will be happier in the end if you go with what you want.

I am so glad you posted this because I feel the same way, and until now, I thought there was something wrong with me for feeling like that. I feel like I was born to be my son's mom. We thought we were having a girl. I just felt like we were. We didn't find out until I was 7 months pregnant that we were in fact having a boy. The exact moment when they said it I started to cry. I had never pictured myself as a mommy of a boy but knowing in that instant that I would be took away all of my fears and reasons to believe that I couldn't. He was my baby boy and I knew that our bond would be like no other. From the moment I first laid eyes on him, I knew. I knew that I could never love someone as much as I loved him. And to this day, as frustrated as I may get sometimes with the duties of being a full time stay at home mommy, I look into his eyes and think to myself, how will I ever share the love I have for him, with another child? But I guess it is normal to feel that way sometimes. Not to say I don't want another child because I do. Both my husband and I want to try for a girl but I could seriously see myself being the queen of the house so either doesn't matter to me. I think we'll try once our son reaches about 2 years old or a little after. I don't want the gap to be too big because I plan to homeschool. =)

My husband and I are pretty sure we are going to stop at one just due to health reason. My daughter was 11 weeks early. But I know what you are feeling we talk about it from time to time. And I love my time with her so much that I don't want to share it with another child. I am happy to have just one. I have a home daycare so she gets pleanty of time with other children, but that make me value my time with just her so much more and I don't want to have to split that between two children. I just don't want her to feel left out because she never had a sister or brother. It is a hard choice. I wish I could be more help. But I understand where you are coming from. My daughter is 3 too and my whole world. Try talking to him and see how he feels about it to. If you have friends with a baby see how he does there. I know it is diffrent. But it you prepare him he should be just fine. Hopefully.

It depends upon the mother weather she has to love or hate among one another, but at my point of view you should not to do like that,they will feel bad.we should treat them equally to bring their life in the happiest way.We love because it's the only true adventure.