I need some advice
@MaryTheIceCube (72)
United States
July 9, 2010 2:08pm CST
I have a six year old son. His real father has no part in his life anymore. Almost two years ago I met a great man, we dated, moved in together and he has taken on the role of stepfather. He also works from home now, taking care of "our" son during the day while I work full time outside the home. Our son has taken to not listening to his stepfather, does what he feels like and is mean to his kitten. We try to make sure he has plenty to do to keep him occupied while his stepfather works, but he demands attention whenever he wants it, will do destructive things/things he knows he's not supposed to do, on purpose. Does anybody have any suggestions or advice for us? My boyfriend loves our son just as much as if he were his own, but this is breaking he and I both down. We're at a loss and don't know what to do to remedy the situation.
6 responses
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
14 Jul 10
Your son needs to stop doing destructive things in his life. He must be kind to your kitten. It will take time and lots of understanding to make your son behave any better to his step father. Maybe a professional person should speak to your son and find out why he is behaving this way. It might be that your son is unhappy for some reason but you don't know about this yet. I suggest then you have a set of house rules and your son has a behavior chart. He could have marbles and for every five he gets a reward for positive behavior. For negative behavior he could get a warning. If he continues this bad behavior she should go to the naughty mat. He would sit on it for six minutes. If he is good at all in a week he could win a day out with his step father to do something really special and enjoyable. Your son needs times out to look forward to. Your son might remember his biological father but now he is not around his step father will be able to hopefully fill that gap. Good luck.
@nzinky (822)
• United States
11 Jul 10
There is something despertly wrong with your son and he needs help.....But so do you and your husband......If your son is hurting small animals sonething has happened to him for he to do that.....So if you don't want a serial kill on your hands......Don't walk to the doctor.....RUN.........
@ongtina (1232)
• Singapore
10 Jul 10
I think it's not helping the situation if the daily caring is left to your boyfriend. You know that when we take care for children and real caring have to scold and even punish sometimes but to the child, they'll dislike, and if we don't scold, the child also know it's no care, so either way, it's not helping. It'll be better and easier if your boy and boyfriend spend just quality time together to start the acceptance instead of day in and day out.
