Love or obsession what is it?
By Sherbeauty29
@Sherbeauty29 (183)
Jamaica
July 9, 2010 7:56pm CST
I have a lot of men who have been telling me how much they love me but is it true love or is it just an obsession? Theirs words flow like that of a poem and so unbelievable. How can one tell which it is love or obsession? I can't imaging falling under their spell of sweet siductive poetic words. Why do we often say we love someone when we just met them don't even know them yet we love them that i think is obsession not love. I don't believe in that crap about love at first sight. I believe that when you've meet someone of interest it gradually fester into love based on a few things like personality and communication and so much more. What is your take on the topic?
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@BLD367 (142)
• United States
10 Jul 10
The proof is in the pudding. Unfortunately, many people confuse the intense emotion that they may feel around someone as love. While it possible could be, it certainly is not a deep kind. People like to resolve their inner confusion in life by tossing around simple emotions like love and hate when they really need to look inside and see why they are feeling this way.
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@kulit74 (25)
• Philippines
10 Jul 10
For me, the difference between an obsession and love is when you don't want to let the other person to grow and you want him/her to be all to yourself all the time, without considering the feeling of the other person, then, that can already be considered as obsession. While, love, for me it will be love when you will let the other person grow to become a better person. With you by his/her side, supporting him/her and not asking anything in return. Then, if that can be done, then you could already consider it as true love.
@Sherbeauty29 (183)
• Jamaica
10 Jul 10
I so agree on that one. I almost always confuse obsession for love. If we often times stop to think about what we are really feeling then alot of these hurt would not have existed in the first place to begin with.
@Sherbeauty29 (183)
• Jamaica
10 Jul 10
Oh ok that is something we here in our country call clingy. They say that person is too clingy and very insecure. They don't trust their partner enough to give them space fearing they might lose him/her. As the song says when you love someone you do anything you just treat them like they are nothing when they are everything.
@shocker154 (16)
• Canada
10 Jul 10
I think that your right, there isn't love at first sight it has to develop over time. But I wouldn't call what they are doing obsession it's them trying to get in your pants most likely. Maybe some of them actually do think they love you only because your giving them your time or they think you want it as badly as they do. You have to sort it out yourself and if you think it's just to get in your pants tell them to bugger off.. Or don't your choice.
@Sherbeauty29 (183)
• Jamaica
10 Jul 10
Well what do you call it when a person tell you all those sweet poetic words like i can't sleep without you they follow around and nog the hell out of you.They do everything that they can to get close to you is that love. Also all they talk about is you you and more you. How you look how dress how do the things you and how you talk. Is that really love or is it just an obsession.
@Sherbeauty29 (183)
• Jamaica
10 Jul 10
How interesting but i wouldn't want someone to tell me about the person i would rather let the truth play out in time and some times their uncomfortable response or reaction somes give you the answer. Sometimes it is best to observe the person so you can come to conclusion. What do you think about that?
@shocker154 (16)
• Canada
10 Jul 10
Sounds more like obsession then love to me but then again everybody loves in there own way right? I guess you could like find out who there old girlfriends are and ask them if they were always like that. But seriously they might just think that is what you want to hear. You could just ask them to relax a little bit.
@minotaur87 (769)
• Singapore
12 Jul 10
I also don't believe in love at first sight. I think it's more of physical attraction most of the time when you are talking about love at first sight. This is not really love. True love must be slowly developed through actions and communications. Many people can make a lot of empty promises while dating. But only your true love will stay by your side through your ups and downs to support you.
@Sherbeauty29 (183)
• Jamaica
14 Jul 10
I so agree that love at first sight is merely a physical attraction that usually fail after a while although some may last. Love takes time to grow and it is far much deeper that you can just imagine.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
12 Jul 10
For me love is something that you accepted the person despite of his/her imperfections or flaws, usually it happens when the person is not attractive. While obsessions usually happens to the person they admire because of physical appearance. There are people who uses poetic words as part of courting the person they like and of course pleasing them to the extent that they will make them hypnotized. I don't actually believe in love of the first sight as well but infatuation because of being attracted to the person.
@Sherbeauty29 (183)
• Jamaica
14 Jul 10
As the song writer says when you love someone you do any thing, you do all the crazy things that you can't explain,you'll shoot the moon and put out the sun when you love someone. Obsession is of the physical being hence it stay on the surface and may never get deeper like love does.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
11 Jul 10
obsession is when you want that person no matter what. even doing bad things as long as you have that person. thats obsession. love is when you do everything for the person but also know when to give up for their happiness. about love at first sight i believe in it bcs i read true stories that they felt love just by looking to the person^^ i dont know maybe a love connection. you know love happens in many ways so i believe in everything^^ but also i agree with one thing you said we also love one person more as much as we know the person^^
@Sherbeauty29 (183)
• Jamaica
11 Jul 10
Ok my dear when some one is obsess with you they worship even the very ground you walk on. They think that everything about you is perfect. Obsession can be very dangerous because they will become jealous of almost every guy or girl you talk to. Love is genuine there is no make up stuff it just happen naturally. The love at first sight don't go for this generation at all. It worked in the past and in the Indian religion but not in the general universe. This is even experimenting at a earlier age than the usual norm a few years ago.
