Screwed by your own Family?

Most tax firms have insurance in case they make mistakes, is this the case with your family members? If so, ask them to pay the taxes. If not, you'll have to set up a payment plan with the tax people and chalk it up to a hard lesson. I haven't been bilked by my family because my family doesn't do business with each other. We don't borrow or loan unless it's an absolute emergency with no other way out and our businesses-the few of us who have one-are done strictly out of the family. We'll do free things for each other but never a business arrangement. We've all seen what happens when it goes bad and don't want to deal with that strife. If one of us is in dire financial straits another gives then what they need and if it's paid back, that's a bonus. I'm sorry this happened to you! You know it wasn't intentional so don't think of yourself as screwed and don't resent your family. Ask them to help you pay it and if they don't, don't tear the family apart over it--it's only money. Money can be replaced, family can't.

Hi Lelin. You can always go to H & R block and have them do a five year back tax thing and they might can help you straighten things out. No I don't let my family screw me. They did it once about 20 years ago and I told them they can shove thier family love where the sun don't shine. And that day I moved out of state and haven't talked to them since. I don't let anyone screw me over on things. I am sorry that this happened to you but you are right it is always the family that will screw you over when given a chance. They should help you pay this since they are the ones that caused you to get into this situation. Good luck I hope it all works out for the best.

I am so sorry lelin, I know how you feel and learned the hard way, NEVER DO BUSINESS WITH RELATIVES!!! My house was suppose to be fixed by a relative who not only didn't do the work he said he'd do, but he left the house with no siding at all..We were forced to finish it ourselves, with hardly any money or skill..If it wasn't for an elderly neighbor who was willing to help us, we would have had to sell for no profit and maybe even out on the streets..

ohh...i am so sorry to hear that. thank god i never been screwed by any family of mine lately. if i had, it must be hard for me to face it.

Hiya lelin, Here you would not be able to negotiate tax problems at least not yet they have not got around to that kind of thing you either pay or else. It´s like your electric Bill pay now ask questions later that´s all they are interested in. It´s not fair by any means but I would think that in the U.S.A. by now they would have or they do have a Department for that kind of thing. Perhaps it´s a genuine mistake by that Family member too and it can all get sorted out in time. Family I would rather not mention what Family can do or have done in my case but in your case as I don´t them it could be genuine a mistake on their behalf. My tax forms in England were always fine and if you made a mistake they just sent them you back explaining what you had to do to put it right. It must be like a bucket of cold water to find out that you have to pay that now. Maybe they negotiate the payment if you are having money problems which I think is a general thing for everyone. Lucky for those who don´t have problems eh?

Is there any possibility it could have been a genuine mistake? Tak forms are often frighteningly complex, even for experts. Perhaps it's worth sitting down with the family members in question and trying to come to a peaceful resolution.

Have you talked with your family that did your taxes to see what they have to say about this? Since you already paid $2,000 did your check clear or do they show the payment? We have had tax problems too. Once the State of Michigan lost our return, once they held up our refund, the next year we owed, so I sent a letter to have them take it from what they still owed us, they don't do it that way and by the time I got my return from the previous year I had to add $300 to pay the other one!!! We had some tax problem with IRS and had them all paid off, then the next year we got a notice that we owed them $$...seems they charged us interest at the beginning of the year on what we had already paid them. I tried arguing with them, but they kept adding interest and penalties. Our tax accountant told me we were in the right and we didn't owe it but the only way we were going to clear this up with them was to pay it. At least it wasn't very much. All I am trying to say is are you sure this is your families fault? I feel for you. At this time in the economy noone has extra money for these kind of mistakes. I don't know how New York state works, but can you consult with another tax advisor for help, or even appeal to the state? Just some thoughts for you.

I'm so sorry about what you had to go through.. I'd be very angry and sad at the same time if I were you as well. So, there's no way of your brother paying you back, even in installment? I think he should..it's just so sad when family members screw us like that, and it can be in any form and any way. And the most saddest part is how outsiders see us.. they think we are bad for doing this and that to family members because we have our own reasons. And the worst part is they don't know the real story.. and they don't have to know, if the only thing they know is to talk about the bad points of others. Be well, my friend.. I hope in time your brother will pay you.

hi lelin wow thats a lot of back taxes, is there not some way you can get some help from the IRS I think I have read where there are programs where they can get the irs to cut way down on the interest,I dont remember exactly w hat the name was of the company but I think there are probably companies like we have here in Ca in New York too that help cut way back on those back taxes. I am lucky that I have not had any family problems like that. How about your brother, your uncle and your cousin that screwed things up in the first place now each fork out one thousand dollars to help unscrew the mess they made for you?.

mine not lately and husbands not lately due to he finally stopped speaking to the toxic members.. some family members are just no good no matter what and you have to decide you rather have a healthy life away from them because they just bring you pain.. were they working for a company when they did them?? i know like hr block has like a thing where if its done wrong they do something to fix it so maybe if they were working for a company they have some kind of policy.. i would definitely just do it on your own from now on so they dont know your business and you know its done right!! i use the website taxact and i only have to pay if i want it direct deposited

Family will always screw you first...................been going on in my family for 60 years.

I'm sorry to hear that, dear... Unfortunately, I experienced the same thing, too.Good thing it wasn't a payment for something so I didn't have to suffer further damage as a result of such. I was sending allowance money to my mom as allowance for my kids who stay with them. My brother, sadly, has the only one who got a bank account I can access here in the city0 with greater convenience so I deposited the money and told him to give it to our mom. I thought he did but when I visited them they told he did not give them any money from me.I was crushed because my kids need that money for their school... Sometimes, it is better to trust a stranger than to trust your own blood. However, this is not always the case...

That's horrible, they should have told you. Yes I have, all money gone. Is not that we can trust family, but good and good people, there are bad people in family. I know cause I have.

That is quite a bit of money. Well don´t you familie always screw you up in some way? Just keep going and you will one day have all your taxes paid off. M.S.A

Oh Lelin I am so sorry that happened to you it is awful when can not even trust your own Family I hope you spoke to them about this and if they where decent People they would offer to help you pay for it as they are the one's that made the Mistake

I feel sorry to hear what you said. It is a deep hurt to be cheated by relatives. I haven't encountered this before. But I don't think it's a good idea to have economic relations with relatives, unless the relationship between you two is close enough to share everything.