How strong are you?????

i would be very sad with his attitude. bcs we always shared everything we loved each other so much when he had relation with someone else? if i didnt care for him, if i wasnt sweet if i didnt share nothing if he cheated was my fault but if i was sweet to him what reason did he have to do so? i would break all i guess bcs i would feel all was a lie bcs he didnt have a reason to do so

That could be very painful. I doubt if I can forgive him. but time heals all wounds so I may or I may not. We may not be separated because I'd be thinking of the kids but I'll never look at him anymore. How can I bear to see the face who betrays me? Plus, I can no longer allow him to touch me. But, i'm not really sure. IF this is the first time, I'd be very afraid to give him another chance. But if i love him that much, maybe, I will take the rest of getting hurt by him again...

I wonder if you are asking for advice or just curious about other people. I think that all situations are different and it would have to depend on the circumstances. People always say "I would do this..." but when something actually occurs they are often too surprised to react the way they thought they would or maybe htey have matured and now have a different perspective. Personally, I think that depending on the circumstances (no kids or disease involved) the couple may be able to get over the incident but trust will always be an underlying issue.

If that actually happens then it would definitely be the end of everything between me and my man. I'd rather that he keeps silent about it. What we don't know won't hurt us....

Peoples decision changes as time goes by. When I was still single I would have answered, I'd give him another chance. But when I got married, I made sure he understands that he cheat once and we are done. Now that we have a kid, I really dont know what I will do. I still want my husband to believe he only get 1 chance in this relationship, but I know that I might forgive him for the sake of keeping my family together.

Maybe I would forgive, but not forget. The relationship would never be the same, so I'd break up with him.

That's a tough question you got there. Tougher situation even. Its not that easy to accept or make decisions right then and there if your husband/wife confesses his/her recent infidelity or past ones. I guess I'd definitely feel betrayed, be hurt and whatsoever.. But I'll take my time to decide. Being mad is common in that situation but quickly deciding a breakup is not something that I would do. In time, I'll forgive my husband .. but at the moment, I just need time off.. to feel all the hurt, to listen to all explanations and to think about it over and over again.. In the end, he cheated on me once.. so there will always be that possibility that he'll cheat on me again.. I'll give one more chance though and that would be the last. If he blows it again, its over.

There is hurt that you will feel, that is given, and your reaction doesn't count to how strong are you, but on how you will do about it. How will you accept it and how you will forgive that person, makes you a strong person. If despite of being unfaithful, you still decided to accept her or him again, then that was being strong. You accepted his or her mistake and you are willing to give him or her a chance. While on the other hand, if you can't accept him or her, then you are in deep pain and you requires to give yourself a time to think about it. The decision is yours.

I think I could handle that and move on. I would rather deal with that than with my husband stealing from me and going behind my back and taking out a title loan on my car that I had just got done paying off.(that's what happened to me) I even told him that I would have never left him if he did cheat on me, we would just work through it. But for me, he broke my trust by stealing from me and using a title loan against my car for drinking ($300). I snapped and took all of his things and donated it to a Goodwill. Being honest about an affair is different than doing something behind your partner's back.

For me it's a matter of trust. Once that is gone I am no longer interested in the realtionship. I went through this once before when my children were very young and I chose to stick with the relationship but it was never the same. That unconditional love was lost to me when the trust disapeared.

Why do you ask it ? Do not you encounter this situation recently ? I hope not .

if this would happen to me,,first, i will ask him for the reason why he did these and also ask him if i did something wrong for him to do so..and then if all his reasons are acceptable then maybe i can forgive him...but i will also tell him that the trust will be no longer like before..yes there might be forgiveness but since he did that act, there will always be doubt when it comes to his loyalty.

in my opinion, it depends. Cheating is a very bad thing. It is all about love and it is very indivual. It is very imporant if the two persons have deep relationship...after all everyone makes mistakes. It is a bad thing if cheating happens for second time, then you should not forgive. If this happend only once and you are sure she or he is not hiding something else, if you really love this person you have to forgive him! Before deciding what to do think very carefully, do you really love him/her so much and can you forgive.