Your Family's approval

i am a bit scared to answer this one...when i married i never took my parents permission...they never accepted the girl...but i married the girl. Now i know it was important to take their approval. But its all history now.

My advice is simple - listen to your heart. If you love him, that's enough. It is bad that your family does not like him but after all this is your decision and if this person attracts you and you love spending time with him - get over your parents.Maybe is a good way to try to convice them they are wrong, but after I've red the whole topic I think this is a tough decision :). We don't live in the 16-17th century when your parents choose your husband/wife. Speaking about the diapers and so on - you are right, most of the men do not do this. According to me you should not pay so much attention to your family's approval!

I experienced a similar scenario years ago when I was dating my childhood sweetheart. Although we live in Australia my parents are Italian and they decided they didn’t like him because he was not Italian which to me was a very pathetic reason to dislike somebody. We stuck it out although it was hurtful and difficult; my mother didn’t even smile when I announced to her that we were engaged! At our wedding she made a point of telling me she still didn’t approve of him! We were married for four years before we separated and the reasons for our split was simply because we had been too young when we got together and probably were not ready for marriage and it had nothing at all to do with the fact that he wasn’t Italian! I remarried several years later and they did not approve of my current husband either although he is a good man and a good father; we have been together for fourteen years and this time I can honestly say my parents were wrong. We resolved a lot of issues by explaining to them that he is the one I chose and this is how it is and if they don’t accept him they will be the ones missing out on me and my daughter. It didn’t take long for them to relent and act more civilised. I hope things get easier for you, I feel for your situation because I’ve been there. Make a stand and let them know that your husband is who you have chosen and they will have to accept that if they want a relationship with you. Good luck….

To tell you the truth I know my family do not like my husband very much, even though we have been married for almost ten years. Some bad things have happened in the relationship for which he is to blame, but they just tolerate him because of me and my children. Things can get awkward sometimes but your family should respect you and your choices enough to stand by you.

Hi There, I have read your post and i can say that the main reasons for your family to get angry is because you hubby is moving places and that he doesn't keeps a job although you haven't told us why he doesn't keep a job or the reason behind him changing jobs every now and then. maybe he gets fired, Why? or may be he just quite his job every now and then, why? I am not judging you or him but all am trying to do is to let you know that maybe your family doesn't really see him as being a responsible person or as just as you have said that they are also angry at him because he did not help cHange dippers or feed the baby[personally i wont do that too!] but question is how did they get to know all these? did you take care of your little girl when she was born in your fathers home or you live some of your siblings in your own house? I know that life is never a sweet sail roller coaster but we can sure make others see that even though we dont have the best, we are working towards the best. it was your decision to get married to him and yor family should help you two to grow as a couple and not to fight him. try to let mom interveen between you guys and let them know that you are really trying. Asimple thing to make them see that you are trying is to settle at one place; even me i wont be happy having to change places every now and then moving here and there especially at a time that you gus have this cute little angel. Let them know why he keeps on changing his jobs; is it for better pay or it is unfortunate he lost his job or his contract ended. that way they will learn to appreciate him knowing that the man who has their girl is workin hard to provide for his family. Wish You All The Best..!

I think if you love each other , do not care about your family's attitude . Although they donot like your husband , it is enough just you love him . Because you will stay with him all your life , not them . Good luck to you .