am i doing right?????
By abj163
@abj163 (1037)
India
July 10, 2010 10:01am CST
friends this my story....first time i am gonna share it with anyone....i am an engineering student ...when i got admission in first year...my regular routine was started ..lectures practicals etc.....i got introduced to a pretty girl of my class by a common female friend.....she was so pretty that i started to like her..and tried to have some conversations....and i am also not so bad so she responded me very well..then gradually we got close ...we were nice friends after sometime....she used to help me in my assignments and notes and studies...i used to help her when other guys flirts her or troubles her.....i got nice marks in my first semister..i was in distinction ....and we got more closer.....but the thing is she was already having a boyfriend and then also we were close to each other..both of us never mentioned about her relation.....her bf was more powerful than me in everything ......i never thought to propose her and never thought to be her boyfriend.....because i just wanted to be her friend.....but the thing is i got failed in 2nd semester.....and as my result was declared she texed me on the next day is she is on tour with family for 2 months and she is not having her cellphone with her so dont call or text her for 2 months......i knew she was lying so i replied that dont call me too because i am also going out and i am changing my number........then she said that i misunderstood then i said ok.....but she was lying to me and i confirmed it later by calling her with another number......since then i never tried to contact her.......and sh also never tried because i was not in college.......i knew she did that because i am not rich like her boyfriend i am just a middle class boy ....but i have a power of unity ....so i think she was using my power to avoid flirting from other guys.....i think she wanted to stop talking with me because i was not of her use......do u think so????
since then i have decided that i will be rich than her and her boyfriend ....if her boyfriend has a car then i will have a royal car like BMW ......i have taken it as a revenge and i am working on it......i am doing my best and working hard everywhere ....so am i doing this right ....will i be successful.....will she regret for leaving me????i am in search of these answers please help me by answering....
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9 responses
@juicekodai (1121)
• Philippines
10 Jul 10
hi abj163
im sorry to hear that.. but i guess you just have to move on.. besides, she is not your girlfriend.. she is just a friend...
i dont know the girl, so i dont really know what to say..
how can you be so sure that, that was her reason? that she is just using you?
you said, you became close to each other..
it could be that, she is already starting to fall for you and doesnt want to ruin the relationship with her boyfriend, or maybe she has a feeling that you are starting to fall for her, and she wants to keep a distance since she has a boyfriend...
it could really hurt that she has to lie.. maybe you can just talk about it..
you know, my mom always say to never let revenge rule your life.. to just be humble because God exalts those who are humble..
its good that you have your goal, but dont let revenge be the reason for that goal.. be successful because you want to be sucessful and have a happy life...
my boyfriend broke my heart too much, like my life has shattered and broken to the tiniest pieces... but never did it came to my mind to get back on him.. i let go... what i did i just prayed for myself to move on and for him to change his ways... 
@abj163 (1037)
• India
10 Jul 10
thank you very much for your support.......but actually i dont believe in god so i cant pray to god....this is against my own rules....i am sorry for that....now i am reading a inspirational book to fix my aims......this way is working for me......
happy myloting
@juicekodai (1121)
• Philippines
10 Jul 10
hehe.. im sorry...
well, the point here is just that you just have to let go.. there is more to life than her...
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@baban88 (103)
• Philippines
11 Jul 10
ok basically revenge is not good but instead of revenge make it as a motivation for you to achieve your goals, its good at-least you have ambition but if ever you've got your wings and learn to fly don't forget to touch the ground where you came from, stay simple my friend for the lord has plans for you and forget about her she doesn't deserve your time. . in addition there is a saying that "the measure that you used will be measured back to you".. ..=]
@hexeduser22 (7418)
• Philippines
11 Jul 10
decide to get rich for your parents, yourself and your future family. Revenge will not take you anywhere. If you get rich what then? Your life will be empty even though you can have what you want.
Instead of thinking of revenge think of her as a stepping stone or somehow an inspiration. Think like this "If I were to become rich I will raise my children and teach them not to do something like what she did so no matter what happens no one will ever be hurt again as you were before"
Instead of hating her be indebted or thankful to her because unconsciously she had given you the chance to learn something valuable in life.
@abj163 (1037)
• India
11 Jul 10
ya you are right that revenge will not lead anywhere.....
and i have already thanked her IN MY MIND to give me the way ....to give me an aim......and one more thing is i decided at that time that i will never get married i will just remain single.......to prove that my love was true and she never realized that......so there is no question about children.....and i can't change my decision because its my one of the rule........i just wanna be happy with firends and family.....
happy mylotting........
happy mylotting........
@laniekins (4579)
• Philippines
11 Jul 10
Your goal is good but rather than make even with her , I think you should start looking for someone who will love you & accept you for who you are. You will not be happy if you keep that hate in your heart. Forget about that girl and make the bad things as an inspiration. Don't feel bitter at all, as a girl too I think she did that because her bf restricted her to continue her friendship with you. Just leave thr past and go on with your life. Your still young, there's good things ahead of you.
@jkar1234 (147)
• India
10 Jul 10
Friend i feel very sorry for you but you sound like a determined boy and that is very good.
That girl was not good enough for you. When she will find a boy richer then his boyfriend she will dump him too.
Its good for your future that she left you otherwise you have wasted your time and energy for her. Now you can utilise your determination and energy for your studies and become successful in life.
Once you are successful girls will be roaming around you.
I just want to give you one more advice that dont talk to that girl again and make her feel that she is not important to you.
I wish you best of luck for your future.
@ynowiziki (79)
• China
11 Jul 10
I am sorry to hear that.
Life is very tough for us sometimes.lots fo thime may the results is not what we want,but I just want to say we need to get used to that.From your comment,it suggests me that you are a determined man and I think you can have a bright future if you try to do your best every time,actually that's what you do now...
I wish you to be strong and good luck
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Jul 10
abj this is hurt talking right now and a bit of envy perhaps and anger. revenge on someone will only come around to bit you in the butt, what goes around comes around. do good it comes back to your, do evil mean things
that comes back to hurt you.First off you cannot buy anyone's love, look you fell for her but did not want to admit it even to yourself, and you did not treat her like you should have if you reallywanted a girl friend so if she had had any feelings like that, she was probably really confused by this only friend business. so she found love with someone else.You had first chance and you did not act on it so now you cannot change things.You should have been honest with yourself and admitted you loved her and told her., when she got a boyfriend that was too too late. I do not think that she was looking for a rich person just that she did not realize you did more than like her so she felt free to choose a boyfriend who loved her.She is not yours to woo now, so break it off cleanly and forget her. and do not go to revenge. You want to be successful fine but not for revenge. she did not do this to you,you did it to yourself my friend.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
11 Jul 10
Hi abj, You first have to realize that you need to get your life
together and do good things and make money for YOU! You need to
do it for yourself, not to impress some girl! There will be many
girls in your life, but first you need to concentrate on your
school work so you can do the things you need and want to do.
Believe me, if this girl is really your friend maybe you will
hear from her, but don't waste one second giving it another
thought! Do what you need to do and maybe someday she will be
sorry!
@kaduna500 (53)
• Nigeria
10 Jul 10
My guy just let go and face life squarely, there is more to life than that, concentrate on your studies, dont be depressed, believe she was just an ordinary friend to you and if u think she offended you, forgive her from your heart and move-on.
