will you be single all the lifetime if no one really attracts you?
By ferry2046
@ferry2046 (146)
China
July 10, 2010 10:11am CST
hi guys,i got an interesting question: if you never meet the person in your heart, will you be single all the life? or just choose a man not bad to build a family? say your voice please,singe guys.
5 responses
@kristin19 (86)
• United States
4 Sep 10
hello ferry2046,
i would rather be single for my entire life than to marry a man i do not love. once i almost did marry a man i did not love but at the last minute, i just could not go through with it. i realized that i would be leading an empty life in a pretend marriage while everybody else around me were involved in real relationships. the thought of living a lie was too much for me to bear.
@kristin19 (86)
• United States
7 Sep 10
hi crisybomb,
in my case he didn't love me either. he just wanted to start a family and i guess i was the convenient female that he was dating at the time. he bought a five bedroom house and he told me of his future plans for us. it was a tempting offer but we did not love each other and i had to break up with him. i am sure that i made the right decision, even though some people might think i am being too idealistic. i know alot of girls who would have accepted that offer even if they did not love him.
would you rather wait for the right person or just settle for a man that you don't love because it is taking too long for the right person to come along?
@crisybomb (172)
• Philippines
5 Sep 10
yes kristin19, i agree with you. very well said.
it would be happy if the man im marrying love me but would i be happy if i don't love him then spend my life with an empty feelings?
its unfair for both parties. and it would be difficult for the man to accept that his wife was only pretending that she's happy with him. :(
@fannitia (2167)
• Bulgaria
4 Sep 10
Well, I am single a lot of time of my life. I met a man years ago, I fall in love and we married. But, as it happens in life, he passed away. So I live with my daughter now. I haven't met another love and don't make plans for another marriage. I can't join a person I don't love. Could you?
@ferry2046 (146)
• China
5 Sep 10
I can't either. But sometimes love varies as time goes. We may love each other at the beginning, and then the love disappear years later. Maybe just like your story... So, love is really hard question to talk about. Whatever, I wish you and your daughter a happy tomorrow!
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
10 Jul 10
i'd rather stay single all my life that to be with someone i don't really love or desire to be with. seriously. anyway i already have one kid so i'm pretty satisfied with that. or maybe I'll just go to the sperm bank if I'll want more...lol. I think it would be unfair to be with someone who loves me (or who loves me a little) who I cannot love back in return.
@ferry2046 (146)
• China
11 Jul 10
i know your feelings.being single is easy and free.but say honestly,i don't know which way i will choose if some one really loves me but i have no feeling with her.maybe i will have the answer if this thing really occurred.well,thank u for sharing your opinion and wish you happy everyday!
@jkar1234 (147)
• India
10 Jul 10
Its very impossible that i will not meet a single person in my whole life who will attract me.
But unfortunately if it happens then i will be happy alone.
Sometimes what we want just can't be fullfilled and we have to accept this.But i will not be all alone because i am very lucky that i have got some great friends.
@ferry2046 (146)
• China
11 Jul 10
friends really helps when you feel lonely.no matter however great they are,the friends have their own business to do and cannot always be there to be your company .you'll feel bad some day if you have no wife or family.is it right?
@Ashton1 (32)
• Bhutan
23 Jul 10
I believe there is no one called perfect match or not good for me match. It only depends how much you want to understand other person and to what extend you can go to keep the someone happy. All we need to do is find a special thing from a imperfect one. I would give a chance to find something special in someone.
