Just can't get believe this!!!

India
July 10, 2010 11:48am CST
Well I have this good friend of mine who I've known for a close to 3years. Just yesterday he told me he is gay. I just can't believe this. Not that I had feelings for him or whatever but I just can't get over the fact that he's not straight. Never in the 3years that I've known him has he ever shown signs of swinging the other way!! He took this long to tell me this cause I'm homophobic, I just can't stand guys who are gay especially if they act girlish or dress and behave that way. I've been very vocal about that and he was afraid to tell me as he feared he would lose a friend in the bargain. He seems pretty normal and I never in my wildest dreams would have guessed he's gay!!! So I'm just finding this hard to come to terms with and its kinda disturbing to me. I've heard of gay people and stuff but I've never been friends with one and close friends at that. He is an awesome human being so off course my attitude towards him wouldn't change but I just find all this too hard to digest. I thought maybe its a phase he's going through but another very good mutual friend of ours ( she's very perceptive of these sorta things) kinda figured it out sometime back and she says its not a phase he's going through but what he really is!!! I still haven't spoken to him about all this. He told me all this through text messages cause he wasn't comfy on the phone. How do I cope???
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eagle271
@eagle271 (179)
• Canada
11 Jul 10
Hi, You have to accept your friend, that's who he is. Life is full of differences, surprises and people should accept everyone's differences. Gay people are just different in one way versus straight. Let me ask this question for those who are homophobic, too bad, these people are so caught in their fear of being gay. Anyway, do straight people choose at 10,12,15 or 20 to be straight? Or is is just a feeling, an attraction that grows during puberty? To develop such attraction, it comes from early childhood and it becomes the identity of the individual. This has nothing to do with God, well who knows. It is too bad that there are so many people that are afraid and closed about this. About your friend, you should take a few moments to digest, it is normal. Then, stay close to him and support him as a friend. You will see that he is the same person has before, he will never change. Good luck with that. I do have gay friends and I know what are you going through.