Will you marry a man you barely knew? A man you met on a Friday the 13th?
@Bluebelleangel (428)
Philippines
July 10, 2010 2:43pm CST
I met my husband on a Friday the 13th back in March of 1987. I'm sure you know how superstitious people reacted at the time, they always said it won't last. I bet you would too. We married in civil rights June of the same year and got our church blessing in October, still of the same year.
We had our share of ups and downs, misunderstanding and quarrels along the way and surely it wasn't a marriage made in heaven but we went along just fine.
October this year will be our 23rd year anniversary and I would like to say that it's quite an achievement, a milestone, knowing we married too soon and met on a day most people would consider freaky, a day to be wary of. All these years I continually prayed and am still praying for God's grace to keep us in His loving grace so that we last a lifetime.
What do you think of it? Was it a fateful day? Are there any of you who married too soon and kept your relationship to last a lifetime? I sure would be happy to hear your story.
Happy Mylotting!
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12 responses
@laniekins (4579)
• Philippines
11 Jul 10
Wow! that was inspiring. I don't care if you married too son or too late as long as you love each other unconditionally, love will always prevail. There is really no thing such as perfect love. And with that I would like to dedicate to you the song "Your still the one" by shania twain. The message of the song, I believe is very appropriate for you. Congrats. cheers!
@Bluebelleangel (428)
• Philippines
11 Jul 10
Hi Laniekins,
Thanks for the greetings even the song dedication. I wish everyone find their Mr. or Mrs. Right, the first time and on time and have relationships that last a lifetime.
Good day!
@mdude53 (29)
• Romania
11 Jul 10
I'm not a supersitious person so Friday 13th doesn't mean that much to me, but I see that it brought luck to you. Congratulations for your 23rd anniversary. My parents also married soon. They met on the 2nd of December and married on February the 16th (only because they couldn't find a restaurant for the party earlier). My dad proposed on 31 December, so only after one month. I'm proud to tell you that they are still together, still loving each other and have been a model to me. :)
@Bluebelleangel (428)
• Philippines
11 Jul 10
Hi Mdude53,
Thanks for the response and the greeting. I am happy to know that your parents just like us are successful and happy in their marriage. I wish every couple will likewise succeed and keep their marriage for life.
@ellie333 (21016)
•
11 Jul 10
Hi Bluebellangel, I think that any marriage that lasts and is happy is admirable as so many give up too soon these days. My mother met my stepfather on October Friday the 13th lol and 30 plus years later they are still together and very happy. Huggles. Ellie :D
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
11 Jul 10
For me if you want it then go it is better that you married first before doing everything in married if you do that Jehovah God will be happy for you.
@digidogo (444)
• Philippines
11 Jul 10
Wow, congratulations on the enduring marriage you had with your husband whom you met on Friday the 13th. I was expecting that it would not have lasted so long, provided that both of you met, had civil marriage and church blessing on the same year! It is pretty true that most people are superstitious with Friday the 13th and I am one of them. It was a surprise to know you and your husband lasted 23 years. That is one evidence that the day you met or the days you both had together before you married did not matter. Congratulations once again on the 23rd Anniversary!
@Bluebelleangel (428)
• Philippines
11 Jul 10
Hi Digidogo,
Thanks for the greeting but I would hardly call it enduring because when we say enduring, it's actually ability to bear hardships and I barely had experienced any hardship in our relationship. It wasn't smooth sailing though but in everything we had each other to support and in times of difficulties, we are beside each other. My husband is a good man and that's the same reason why I am still with him besides loving him. I wouldn't know if I can endure extreme pain and sufferings but if it does happen, I hope and pray that I would be strong enough to handle that and that God would be beside me. I thank God that He blessed our union and blessed me with a wonderful husband.
I am not superstitious or anything of that sort but maybe I could say that I am indeed lucky.
Good day to you!
@rosebinas (180)
• Philippines
11 Jul 10
I hate anything related to no. 13 and I am not kidding. If I meet someone on the 13th of whatever month and a Friday at that, I wouldn't even give him my telephone no. to start with. No. No. No.
However, my dear bluebelleangel, I am sincerely happy for you and your husband . Stay in love. God bless!
@Bluebelleangel (428)
• Philippines
11 Jul 10
Hi Rosebinas,
Thanks for the greeting and nice remarks. I may not be superstitious but I respect your opinion regarding that number. Have a nice day!
@daliaj (5674)
• India
10 Jul 10
I took a quick decision regarding my marriage. I decided to get married my husband after three or four dates. My husband also decided very fast. I never felt that my decision was wrong. I got enough time to know about him and check his background in the few days. I don't know if it matters if the first day is a Friday 13. I don't believe in Friday 13.
@Bluebelleangel (428)
• Philippines
11 Jul 10
Hi Daliaj,
When my husband and I met, he did not actually registered to me as someone whom I am going to marry in the distant future. To make the long story short, it was definitely not a love at first sight so marrying him even sooner is quite an impossibility. But he proved not just to me but to all my family and my friends how much I mean to him. In a very short span of time, he pursued me no end, everyday he was there supporting me in everything I do. It wasn't hard to fall for him and I was convinced he is the answer to my prayers and indeed he is.
I don't think marrying too soon is a mistake or a wrong decision for as long as you are sure that you are marrying for the right reason. Have a nice day!
@princesslawyer0515 (270)
• Philippines
18 Jul 10
I fell in love with my boyfriend on the 3rd time we met, which is 4 days after our first meeting. Many people thought it was just an infatuation, or that he was just a rebound because I was just recovering from a painful breakup. But now we're proving to them, and to ourselves, that what we have is true love. I've never felt anything as intense as this before. The date, place and circumstances really don't matter. If you are destined to meet the person you'll spend forever with, it will happen no matter how things may be on that day.
@edwardjoy2000 (2387)
• United Arab Emirates
10 Jul 10
i dont understand what part does Friday the 13th play in this????? I have been married to a person and she knows that i was born on Fridat the 13th. I dont think this will ever make a differnce when you are truely in love with a person. I know what may come...i will not leave her...i dont know what she sthinks about this. But i know that i love her lots and i will never leave her alon till iam alive. I love my wife more than anything in this wrold.
I am happt that you have completed 23 years and still going strong. i wish you good luck.
@Bluebelleangel (428)
• Philippines
11 Jul 10
Hi Edward and Giftsandbagscom,
For me personally, Friday the 13th was never an issue but I got a lot of not so good comments from very superstitious personalities who were there at the time and they were all against my marrying my husband. For me, I believe that that fateful day is a particularly a blessed day because I met the man who loves me no end, a man who remained loving, sweet and caring, a good husband and father and always a great provider to this time.
I don't believe in such beliefs or any of what they call astrological signs but if that is what they want to call it, then I'd say I thank my lucky stars. But in all these things, I believe it was the grace of God that made things happen and it is God whom I really thank because He sent me the man He believes is best for me.
To both of you thanks for your nice remarks. I wish you too Edward a lifetime of happiness with the woman of your life- your wife. I believe she is blessed to have you.
Good day to you both.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
11 Jul 10
i dont have a story like that yet^^ but im treally happy to read a story like yours^^ a 13th friday? sure people take that as a bad luck sign but you and your bf didnt care and still married and are so happy now ^^ wish you have more anniversaries coming and sure the complications you had are normal in a marriage or your love wouldnt be so strong bcs thats the problems and troubles that make a relation stronger^^ im happy for you ^^
@Bluebelleangel (428)
• Philippines
11 Jul 10
Hi Sweetloveforever,
I am sure you'll have your turn in no time at all. I pray that you find the right person at the right time and have a lasting relationship with your chosen one.
Have a nice day! Thanks for your nice comment and greeting.
@dfhonline (130)
• Philippines
10 Jul 10
Wow! thats very inspiring. My husband and I only knew each other for 6 months when we got married. I hope someday I can say the same thing as your post here.
By the way, Advance Happy Anniversary!
@Bluebelleangel (428)
• Philippines
11 Jul 10
Hi Dfhonline,
I pray by that time, I'm still around so I can greet you a happy 25th anniversary too. Thanks for the greeting! Have a nice day!
@doveyml (33)
• United States
10 Jul 10
First, what a great story, I am so happy for you two. I think it is awesome that you meet on Friday the 13th. That would make remembering the dare a lot easier :)
I met my husband on the internet, matchmaker to be exact. We emailed each other for three days before meeting. We met in a small park in my town. He lived about two hours away, we dated for about three weeks and decided to live together. Three months after that we were married. That has been eight years ago now. We were both on the rebound and it has taken some work to really get through some of our issues but in the end. I am in love... I am thankful for the heartbreak before because it has brought me to him. We have grown to love and understand each other. I truly believe the only reason we survived is because we both try. We both our working on ourselves, therefore working on making the other one happy. As you said, it not a marriage made in Heaven, but still, I do not think I have ever seen one.
So yes, we got married way to soon. We were still getting to know each other while redefining who we were and learning our new roles as husband and wife.
@Bluebelleangel (428)
• Philippines
11 Jul 10
Hi Doveyml,
I am happy to know that we both found loving husbands who stand by us no matter what. In our 23 years of marriage, I realize that there is no special formula for a lasting relationship as there is no such thing as a perfect marriage. What is actually important is that we keep the number one element in marriage and that is our respect for each other, even in times of misunderstandings I allow him to speak up and I keep quiet and when I speak up he keeps his silence, that way we avoid making a small issue become a big deal, one that will be hard to patch up. I guess when a couple have enough love for each other, there is nothing that could destroy that, no matter what.
Good luck to a lifetime partnership with your husband. Good to know that there are more of us who are happily married despite marrying too soon. Have a nice day.