Do you think I'm unfair?

There is nothing unfair in what you have chosen to do with your life. You are surviving. It may have been an unfair accident of birth that you were born to your circumstances, but you have made the best of what is available to you. If you are asking whether you are being selfish by remaining single, and not bearing additional responsibility, I would say that you are not. I hope that you bear no guilt for being sensible and practical in your life choices. Good luck.

hi adel, In your situation based on your shared experiences, I can define that you are not unfair, but you are PRACTICAL. The way of Life now cannot be compared from our ancestors. LIFE now means more struggle not as before when life are simple, just farm and you have food to eat, but now, very different. You need to work, have a stable job in order to feed your family and provide the very basic necessities in life. I empathy with you, I understand that you went through many pains since your younger days till you strive harder for yourself to finish school. The harder part of it, is that your family must have provided them all, but always fail. I believe, that those experiences you have encountered had served as your inspiration to have a good goal in life, this had motivated you to realize many things and never wanted to experience anymore those sufferings as before. Saving a money for yourself and sharing with what you can offer to your family even they have abandoned you before, is not an Unfair act of yours. If you are unfair or remained bitter for them, then the will not enjoy any bit of what you have right now after your hard work. Hence, this is the only reward remained for yourself after all those crucial times in your life. It is not unfair if you wanted to correct those past mistakes they have done, nor not unfair if you wished something to save for yourself, your security because when your young the,never of them had secured any for you.. That is the reality, they have to accept your pains, and reasons. Thus, they have showed gratefulness instead of their irresponsible acts, you manage to give them the graces you got now, but do not expect more to what you cannot offer. It will be unfair either way. SOmetimes, there are families who find hard to accept their mistakes and set their pride off. But, though they have many things to say, a good words or not for you, always think that, it is part of life. BEING practical is not unfair. IT is the direct solution for unwanted mistakes or bitterness in life to happen again. IT resolves the non-stop problem and make you a more discipline person. I guess even they have abandoned you before, in their hearts, they are very proud of you. But, they cannot directly admit by telling to you. Your choice to be single is because your have advance maturity since childhood days.YOu do not want your new family experience those problems unless you have a security at all. Indeed, a wise decision to make. HAppy mylotting...

Hi, There are only two classes in the world - the haves and the have nots. Those who have lots to spare and still more, are least concerned of the ones who are struggling for two square meals. They tend to do everything with the capacity of money and buy things really needed or not needed. they waste food and the left overs are thrown into the garbage. But on the other side some are there who are striving for a good meal and the basic amenities. Since you are facing lots of hardship this is not at all unfair to short out the things as to whichever is important and necessary to pick up first and refrain from indulging in buying things that are not so necessary. What we need in our life first and foremost is food, cloths and shelter and only when they are there you can think about other things. Hence there hardly arises any question of your being unfair. Have a nice time.

I don't think depriving yourself of luxuries is not unfair. It is your hard earned money and therefore you have the right on choosing where and how you spend it. It's great that you managed to break out of poverty. I think what would be unfair is that if you'll forget about your family, I think you should help them out. If you think being single suits you then by all means continue what you're doing. There's nothing wrong wit being single a

I don't think you are being unfair. Life's experiences teach us what we need to know but what we take away from those lessons is how we survive. It's all well and good for those with money to say you are being unfair because maybe they don't know any better but you stick to what makes you comfortable and you will always be making the right decisions for yourself.

Dont say that it's unfair for you, because GOD arranged everything from the beginning. What you can do is, work hard and get your life better. But, for me, i think the environment in which people live in can have one of the greatest, lasting effects on a person for the rest of their life. Adults and children alike are affected by the living conditions in which they are living, though possibly in different ways. Adults are often affected by the stress of their financial situation and not being able to provide for their families, why the children are sometimes affected by their poor living conditions in how they develop mentally. Poor living conditions affect everyone living int hem, old and young. Children however, are going to be affected in a different way than the parents are, though the way the parents handle the situation can have a large affect on how the children will react and learn from it.

It is said that necessity is the mother of invention. People who have passed through adverse phases in their lives and have been able surmount their miserable conditions are found resilient to all hard situations.You have firmly and boldly faced the adverse conditions of life and have succeeded in improving your livelihood status. I greatly appreciate your persistent effort for betterment of your living standard. Thanks.

I can't seem to understand why you are thinking that your unfair. You came from a poor family. You experienced hardships because of this condition. I do not see anything wrong if you decide to be thrifty and cautious when it comes to spending your money. I understand that you do not want to experience the same hardships again, so saving money seems to be a good idea for me. However,just always keep in mind that even though money is necessary to live a good life, happiness can still be found in the most simple things in life, things that do not have price tags attached on them.

No, you are not unfair. It is just that you learned early in your life how difficult it is to find money or get the basic needs in life. With that experience, you put more value to what you've work for and you learned to be thrifty maybe for reasons that you are saving for emergency cases. It is a good trait though to learn how to live simply. The problem with others is that they spend beyond their means. It's a good thing that you live to what actually you can afford and live a frugal life. You are lucky.

hi ....my dad was same as like you.....his father was a farmer....he used to walk 15 kilometer to go to school and return again....he was also not able to have a food 2 times but my papa worked hard....now he is 45 now...we have everything what a normal man needs ....we are not so rich not so poor.....there are a lot of things in everyone's life to cry for......but we have to move on....take every problem as a challenge and see what will happen......i have read that if u master your mind then u master your life and if you master your life your will master your destination....so just work hard because nothing is easy in this world...... all the best

whenever we see a rich man, we only see the money he got in his hand, but we don't see the hard work behind this rich status, i think every one get return back of his hard work, earlier or later,

I fully understand u man,u are on the right track just don't get it to much on you;re,find somehow to relase the presher or u gonna explode.I understand is hard for the soul to be strong when the body is too weak,but u can focus on somethink to read to keep spirit strong and growing.If u can ofc if u have some money,if u don't have u can make by you're self a boksing bag it's a great think to relase the presher on it.I'm a litle bit older than u and i'm single too,i can't make a kids and family if i'm not sure how i can provide they live with food and clothes at least.So... it's not a big deal man focus on what is important to u and stick to it. And keep ya head up :D.

Life is unfair... remember this game we called life, and no one's said it's fair. But struggling in life is a processing to change our view about fair and unfair. If you are still single I think it's not a big problem, may be you can't find the one who will take care about you yet. Don't feel guilty.

Dont say that it's unfair for you, because GOD arranged everything from the beginning. What you can do is, work hard and get your life better. But, for me, i think the environment in which people live in can have one of the greatest, lasting effects on a person for the rest of their life. Adults and children alike are affected by the living conditions in which they are living, though possibly in different ways. Adults are often affected by the stress of their financial situation and not being able to provide for their families, why the children are sometimes affected by their poor living conditions in how they develop mentally. Poor living conditions affect everyone living int hem, old and young. Children however, are going to be affected in a different way than the parents are, though the way the parents handle the situation can have a large affect on how the children will react and learn from it.

Dont say that it's unfair for you, because GOD arranged everything from the beginning. What you can do is, work hard and get your life better. But, for me, i think the environment in which people live in can have one of the greatest, lasting effects on a person for the rest of their life. Adults and children alike are affected by the living conditions in which they are living, though possibly in different ways. Adults are often affected by the stress of their financial situation and not being able to provide for their families, why the children are sometimes affected by their poor living conditions in how they develop mentally. Poor living conditions affect everyone living int hem, old and young. Children however, are going to be affected in a different way than the parents are, though the way the parents handle the situation can have a large affect on how the children will react and learn from it.