friends can be lovers but lovers can't be friends?

@yunako (74)
Philippines
July 12, 2010 2:57am CST
DO you believe in that saying? i have a bestfriend for 5 years till now. i just found out my feelings for him grows deeper and stronger.but he has a gf now.do i need to break the friendship by telling him i love him?or just let my feelings alone within me?its killing me to see them together.but he has no idea of what im suffering.im afraid also that he might find out and lose him forever..
5 responses
• India
12 Jul 10
Well your in a tight spot now. You should have realized at first that you loved him a lot. But since he has a girlfriend now i would suggest you to bear with him because the idea of proposing your love in front of his girlfriend might mean you have guts. But it also shows your selfishness also. You should have told him when you had a chance. Now all you can do is just wait out and see how far he would go with her. Make your presence feel comfortable to him even when he is with his girlfriend. Then he might notice you.
@yunako (74)
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
i guess i have to be contented on being happy for him.who knows they are not meant for each other and time will come he will realize it's me he'd been loving all awhile too..
@dfhonline (130)
• Philippines
12 Jul 10
Everything should be in right timing. Right now is not a good one, because he already have a gf. You could either wait for the perfect time or if you dont want the friendship to end just let it go. For all you know you have already miss your chance.
@yunako (74)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
guess you're right.i have to wait for the perfect time.who knows at the end we are meant for each other.
• United States
12 Jul 10
heres's a saying for you.."you snooze, you lose" you have been friends this long and never felt anything? he has a g/f let it go. don't torture yourself or him if you told him you would make him doubt his feelings for his g/f. if they don't last and you still have feelings thats different, but make sure its the step you want to take before you say anything to him. is your friendship worth the loss if he doesn't feel the same? just make sure you don't hurt no one-karma can be a bad thing.
• Pakistan
12 Jul 10
i think you should tell him that you are in love, friendship is based on trust, i think you should just go and tell him, he won't mind it, may be he is also waiting for this time,
@yunako (74)
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
what if the feeling is not mutual and it becomes the stain to friendship?what if the guy only want friendship and breaking it means losing him forever..
• Bangladesh
12 Jul 10
yes ..you are right. A friend can be made between two boys or two girls.if One boy and girl is friend ..i can tell you that they love themselves. Because Friendship Between two boy and girl is not acceptable to everyone.
@yunako (74)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
i beg to disagree that friendship between boy and girl is not acceptable to everyone.friendship doesnt choose anybody as long as the two person are compatible with each other.