what should you do if your boy's mom doesn't like you

It is important to have a good relationship with the parents of the one you love, but it should not be required for the success of the relationship. When all is said and done, you two will only have eachother to please. So be happy and be free. Parents are not allowed.

Do you know the reason what his mom dislike you? And you try your best look for chance to meet his mom,maybe she will accept you with time. I hope you can deal with relationship what his mom and you.

I've heard this before and watched some movies that has the same scenario. well if your boyfriend really loves you he will do everything so that you will cross that bridge and maybe he can settle this with her mother but if your boyfriend follows his mom... sorry for you, he can't stand in his own feet.

if you 2 love each other nothing can stop you guys not even her mom. I used to listen to my mom a lot. But when it came to chosing love...i choose the love of my life. I had lots of problems in the begining...and them my mom accepted her and ever since there has not been any problems. Its all in the mind. I feel his mom will not like any girl as she feels her love will be divided, which has to happen in the future and nothing can stop it.

i think you should get a job you and him so you both cab get your place but good luck with that becuase its hard getting ajob right some you and him should make up your mind on how you going get approve by his mother what does she like find out maty you can suprrise with gift are some thing to get from her

Why would you care what his mum thinks when you are madly inlove? Besides, there must be some logically reasoning behind why he dislikes you. Can you think back to any time where you may have done something she may have disproved of? etc.

Hi, lixiaoyan. If we really loved each other. I would just tell him that he will have to move out of his mother's house. We both could work and get an decent apartment to live in. That is what I would do. I would not let how his mom feel about me stop me from being married to him. Your boyfriend needs to stand up for himself and for what is right in his life, which is you. Don't let his mom come between the two of you. What matters is how her son feels about you, not how she feels about you. You are marrying her son and not her! Let her son pick and choose on whom he feels is good enough for him, not his bitter mother!

hi lixiaoyan, I understand that your situation is complicated when it comes to the mother of your partner and soon to be mother-in-law. However, there are many things we have to reconsider when we are about to go in the next level of life which is marriage. Though your relationship has one future goal in life, I have no doubt about it. But, in this case, your future mother-in law may have been into many reasons she opted not to choose you, not because you are suitable for her son, but because she have many negative thoughts entertaining in her mind. Some thoughts are, First, she thinks that she will loose the attentions she wants when you enter in their lives and her son, Second, she has a fear that your influence to her son is greater than her being a mother and queen in the family. Third, she decided for that matter that her son is immature to enter that kind of serious relationship and may possibly block the plans for her son especially if your boyfriend is dependent on them still, and Lastly, she really do not want any woman to be engaged to her son at all because she may feel total rejection of attention and authoritative power when her son soon had a family of his own. REmember that this time, is a test of your relationship. You are right with your plans, then go for your plans now, this will unblock all those inhibitors in your relationship. Once, you can manage your own lives, then it would be easy for you to decide at that moment. Let time prove to his mom that you are worthy for him and realize that she made a wrong judgment with you. HAppy mylotting

i should talk to him and be nice so we can be friends or he could be my father

Did you ask him why his mom thinks you aren't suitable for her son? When you get the answer make an attempt to make her happy. Don't give up so easily. And if your boyfriend can't stand up for you then he is simply not man enough to love a woman.

There are not much ways around this. Either you have to change the mindset of his mother or leave him. Both ways are hard. To change the mindset of someone who is authoritative is hard and to leave someone you are deeply in love with is also hard. But whatever the case, you have to make a choice between the two. All the best.

My question is, is your boyfriend an only son? Maybe she is just saying that she does not like you to be his girlfriend because she is just being jealous. Is his mom a perfectionist? Oh yeah! she may wants someone that is like her or looking somebody that is flawless but then unfortunately no one is perfect as hers. Well if I am in your case then we will fight our love and no one can dictate our feelings. I don't want to please others. If we want to be together then we will go for it.

he must talk with his mother. he must face her. you must go with him too so he feels secure if you are near him. he must say to his mom that you are important to him and that he really loves you and wants to marry you and that you are the only girl he wants to be with and that she has to understand that bcs he will marry you. he has to say to his mother how he really feels. he cant let her mother separate you from him. if he really loves you he will face his mother and fight for you. even if is not easy he must do that for you^^

it's to your boyfriend on whon his gonna choose. should he choose to follow his mom, then give him up... there are still many fishes in the sea, maybe you're not meant to be. if he choose to fight for you, then fight with him. show his mother how deserving you are for his son.

You just can't elope in this situation coz its never a solution to run away from any problem. First, is that you must be courageous in approaching her mom and talk about things. I know its easy said than done but there's nothing wrong with trying. This might even give her the impression of you taht you find ways in dealing problems, giving her the hint that you are a good wife in the future for her son. Just play cool and talk things out coz in the end she might be your only option to approach when marriage life becomes tough. Good luck to you lixiaoyan!

That is one dilemna that you should resolve before thinking of getting married. There are a lot of broken marriages because of a disagreement with the in laws. If you truly love each other I am sure you will be able to think of solutions to overcome this. You have to make an effort to befriend his mom, otherwise, it's already doom before it can start. Good luck.