Parents waiting for CHILDREN'S PAYCHECK...

I feel that if a child is old enough to earn a paycheck while living at home, there should be some standard madse by the parent. If there is no othewr income in the home, than that child should understand the need to have income put towards household obligations. If the parents work, they should make an agreement with the employed child, so that he or she can save up for their future.

Hello my friend manya_pearl Ji, Seeing you after long gap. It is very true, what you have brought out for everyone here, may be retired or un-retired. Though my hubby retired in 1993 as a Ex defence person, he gets much more than our requirement for our daily needs and even occasionally, we always help our children and grand-children, in time of their need. This is the result of great planning during service career. But how many % retired people live like that. Still, we may not look for cheques, but we need thier physical help As a parent and grand parents, we alwys wish to have following from our children :- PARENT’S WISH 1. On the day when you see us old, weak and weary…… Have patience and do try to understand us……. 2. If we get dirty when eating…and.. If we cannot dress on our own… Please bear with us and remember the times we spent feeding you and dressing you up. 3. If, when we speak to you, we repeat the same things over and over again… do not interrupt us… listen to us. When you were small, we had to read to you the same story a thousand and one times until you went to sleep. 4. When we do not want to have a shower, neither shame us ,nor scold us….. Remember when we had to chase you with your thousand, excuses to get you to the shower? 5. When you see ignorance of new technologies, help us navigate our way through these world wide webs. “ We taught you how to do so many things –to eat the right foods, to dress appropriately, to fight for your rights.” 6. When at some moments , we loose memory or thread of our conversation, let us have the necessary time to remember and if we can not , do not become nervous. “ As the most important thing is not the our conversation, but simply to be with you and to have you listening to us.” 7. If ever we do not feel like eating , do not force us. We know well, when we need to and when not to eat. “When our tired legs give way and do not allow us to walk without a cane, lend us your helping hand the same way we did when you tired your first faltering steps.” 8. And when some day we say to you, we do not want to live anymore that we want to die … “ Do not get angry for one day you will understand . Try to understand us that our age is not just to live , but survive. 9. Some das you will realize that despite our mistakes , we always wanted to do best for you prepare wing for you. “ You must not feel sad , angry , not ashamed for having us near you. Instead try to understand us and help us like we did , when you were young”. 10. Help us to walk, help us to live rest of our life with love and dignity. “ We will pay you with smile and by the immense love, we have always had for ou in our hearts” “ WE LOVE YOU CHILD” Please do consider all retired people.

If the parent raised the child or at minimum provided for them in their youth then it should be no problem for the child to assist the parent with finances that's what family is all about-helping out in times of need.

I think that it is the parent's responsibility to prepare for their retirement. We have to understand that the kids also have their own lives and when they have children of their own to take care of, things can get really financially tight for everyone. My parents are retired too and they live comfortably because they prepared for their retirement. I think that we all should prepare for old age and try not to be a burden to our children.

Hi Manya, for me children should support their parents financially especially if their parents are old and they could not work to earn a living. There should be sharing among the children so that no particular child is burdened with this responsibility. It might not be equal contribution but at least each has to give his share.

I think that if your old enough to live by yourself and have a job but still live at home with your parents and have a job I think you should pay a little at home, otherwise you could move to your own place. My older sister pays rent because she still lives at home and I think that is just right. But I wouldn't pay for my parents other stuff, just for food and the rent since I eat from their food and they pay all the bills.

I usually see the situation you describe around me and i can say that i hate it. I believe that we have to care about our parents and take them near us when they cant help themselves. And last we cant forget something, whatever we do to our parents, exactly the same is going to happen to us from our children.

It sounds like what went on in Europe years ago and was still the custom among some Europeans, especially Germans who moved to the New World. The parents would send their daughters out to either be housemaids or servants of the richer people and the daughters had to hand them their whole paycheck. I suppose they did give a little back for the girls to buy a new dress or something, but it never happened to the boys. They got to keep most of theirs. On and both boys and girls had to pay for their room and board, but if the boy was going to college, he could keep his money. As for the girls, well since many of them did not have a lot of money, college was out of the question unless they were exceptionally brilliant. Why did not the parents save money when they were working?

It's the cycle of life. When I was young, I was completely dependent on them. So when they become old and society considers them unemployable, it will be my turn to earn a living for them. Of course the ideal situation is for them to save up for their retirement, but sometimes it does not work that way.

Hi There, The bible says that our parents who raise us, we should grow to look after them. i love our African Culture that educates their children to respect their parents and when they are old[parents] we should do anything within our power to make sure that they are close to us and that we are taking care of them at ANY COST provided that the reasons are genuine[of cos i wont pay for my parents to go get drunk and dance at a night club!!] It depends with you lifestyle; most people in the developed world do abandon their parents to Homes where their parents are taken care of like small kids and they don't look back to how their parents leave. but our culture says that we should look after our parents the same way they looked after us when we were growing up. Am pretty sure that most families have a few kids and when we grow up and get jobs its our duty to look after our parents the best way we can. i have an uncle who hires a plane for his mother[our grandmother] just to go get the best medical attention in the country. Its never irresponsible to help our parents, in fact its a must that we help them even before they ask for it. and i have a dream in my heart to get my dad a nice car and the fuel will be on me. my other siblings have their dreams too. our big brother does pay for phone bills for our parents apart from the little he gives them yet they don't necessarily need it. So my friend i plead with you to look at your parents the way they looked after you when you were growing up. Cheers!

Parents are the living gods whom we can follow. When parents become old they are wholly dependent on their children for their daily needs. Its very natural. But many of us nowadays don't realize this fact and want to live independently. I have seen many friends who have done this to their own parents. But they don't think that one day they will also become old.