So, I think she is a lesbian!
By wongchoiyee
@wongchoiyee (7413)
Malaysia
July 12, 2010 2:16pm CST
I am being called as lesbian at my high school in the past. All my friends stay away from me.
After 10 years I made some friends at work and internet. I found happiness again.I contacted an old friend three years ago. I didn't notice recently until last year that when we go outing, she would hold my hands and lean her body against me in the cinema. She even whisper in my ear.
I felt like a dummy and I want to clarify the things that I am not a lesbian even though the secondary friends claim that I am one.
She would called me anytime in the day saying she want to talk to me.I felt boring as she always complaining about her boss and work pressure. I know I must understand that in order to be a true friend but I just can't predict the game.
I am scared that she will betray me like last time she did. ANd make me depressed. I already given her the second chance by inviting her out but her attitude is different now, so selfish and never think of people's situation like she ask me to drive to her home to take her out and be at her house until past 12am.
I don't like her anymore. Even my colleagues and college friends are better than her. But my parents don't understand the whole situation. THey said she is my only friend and need to tolerate.
My question is how to get rid of this friend invitation and avoid each time she asked my mother to sew clothes, hairdo cut, and eyebrows shaping and many more request from her?
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8 responses
@jaiper (7)
• Portugal
13 Jul 10
Wongchoiyee, it's difficult to make parallels as we live in different cultures, but everything you say tells me you should run from that relationship as fast as you can.
I was surprised to see you were 28 years of age, you seem so passive and insecure. No wonder people are unsure about your sexuallity, which is none of their business anyway. Maybe those differences again. You have to learn to say no! otherwise you will never reach happiness in your life.
@hanah87 (1835)
• Malaysia
13 Jul 10
Hi friend.You can tell her that you not like what she think.It is the better way than keep it in yourself.Let she know the truth and also tell her that you dont like her attitude.If i in your position,maybe i would ignore what my parent say and just ignore her. I hope you can discuss and let she know the truth.
@sharad7 (85)
• India
13 Jul 10
I don't know by all the activities this will prove that she is a same kind because the person who are same kind they never show easily that they are same kind or others or they are doing that kind of activities because in my country these kind of people is known as a bagger because in this world god made us for filling the need of others not for same one.
@maiaman (97)
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
Oh my gosh, she may really be a lesbian. Hold on, you say she betrayed you before? If you think she has a tendency to do it to you again then why bother spend time with her. Just shut it. Ignore her or don't talk to her if you don't want to. She couldn't possibly be your only friend. If she's making you feel awkward then she better understands that.
@magichands (64)
• United States
13 Jul 10
i think you should not get mad because some old freinds think you are a lesbian
if you are not dont worry about what any one thinks about you all you need to know is that god loves you know matter what if you dont let it get to you and stay happy your friend comes to you for avice she probly ain even thinkg about the past you seem to have a lot hisory with her you know
so give time i sure you can find a way to work it out with out think what some body thinks of you just stay truth to your self know ,matter if evr body at the school thinks you are a lesbian
just leran to love your self more whne peole think you are lesbian you would be able to laugh at it
@pusay24jebong (1)
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13 Jul 10
Best way, confront her.. All things can fixed in good talk.. just talk to her in a calm manner.. good approach.. If you are really friends, im sure you'll understand each other..
@Andyvil (793)
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
hello wongchoiyee, my only suggestion to you is to stop hanging out with someone you don't like. The reason why we spend time with someone or our friends is because we enjoy their company. If we don't enjoy their company then we are just wasting our time hanging out with them.
@edwardjoy2000 (2387)
• United Arab Emirates
12 Jul 10
i dont think you need to prove anyone waht you are. The less you hear the people say the more you succeed. Just leave them alone. If you want to prove the world that you are not a lesbian find a guy with whom you can spend more of your time. Try to mix with guys who are genuine and let the world see that they are wrong.
