Friends for Life

You are welcome. If you're up to it, I'm willing to be a friend or at the very least offer some encouragement.

I would love to be friends. I really need some,even if it is through the internet. Thanks for that. Sent you a friend request. You are so kind.

Thank you for the kind words. But...How come it just seems so hard for me to make friend. I try and would love to have one around my age. Everyone I talk to is way older then me, married and to busy to be a friend. I feel alone at times. When the I am having an off day, I often look at my phone wishing I had a friend to talk to that could be there to lift my spirits, make me smile and laugh or even just ask me to go get a bite to eat with them or hang out. I seem to think a lot of times the reason it is hard for me to make or find a friend is due to my hearing. Thank you for your reply.

I love my friends... My best friend and i are always talking about the things that we dont want anybody else to know. We always hang out with each other, and most importantly we can always trust each other, and yeah, i have some friends for life...

I understand how you must have felt hurtful. I to feel hurtful. It was three months ago when I was hurt by my friend I mentioned. She tried to get to know me as well as she could. We both go to the same church. She has been a caregiver for three years to this lady in my church who past away May of 2009. My friend did not have anyone else to talk to. She was a loner. Lives in a small shed like home behind the house of the lady she was a caregiver to. She is very over weights and smokes. No one really talked to her in church but to say hi and that was that. She noticed how easy it was for me to get people to like me and want to talk to me. I think she was jealous of me for that as well as my being thin. In August of 2009 I offered to the church secretary and Pastor to clean and polish the pews as to get them looking nicer for out 25 year anniversary of the church. I was not doing it for praise nor a pat on the back or an ew-ah, or a wow. I was doing for the Glory of God. My friend decided two weeks later after seeing in the bulletin that my name was mentioned as doing the cleaning of the pews. My friend decided she wanted to help. I was happy doing by myself. She took it upon herself not to ask me, but as the secretary to get me to let her help. I felt trapped and said, "I guess." After she started to help, she told me she was not going to let anyone know she was helping and that I was going to be recognized with the Glory of it all. When we were done, she told the secretary in-front of me that when she announced it in church the following Sunday, jut mention her and not me. Sunday came and her name was mentioned first, then mine after. She stood there after church going up to people she knew where my friends and saying, "Do you see the difference? Look at the pews. I did that and that and that. Look, I even when up to the alter on my own and did that and that and that." I saw people pat her on the back saying, "great job. You did good. Lovely work. Great! Gr3eat! Great!" No one said anything to me except my Ex-Mother-In-Law. It didn't bother me people doing that to here and not me. I did it for God and no one else. What did bother me was, she gave me a snotty look every time she got praised as if to say, "I'm better than you." Every time I volunteered to help out like in my woman's group, my friend would not volunteer unless I did. When it came time to do what we volunteered to do, she would jump in ahead of me to try and get most of all the stuff done first and leave me with barely anything to do. She tries to make herself look better and gets snooty with me. She also started calling my Ex-Mother-In-Law to tell here about my conversations on the phone with her. I have tried to be nice and understand that she lives in a small shed that has a closet and bathroom added on as well as her not having any friends. But she went about it the wrong way using me to get to others and trying to push me away from them. I forgave her as a Christian should. Yet she still gets snooty with me. So, I understand where you are coming from. I totally agree that in our situation with your friend and mine, it is better to stay apart till we can her an apology. In the mean time, you can pray for your friend as I pray for mine that they will someday come to terms to realizing how your friend hurt you as well as mine hurt me and want to come to us and apologize. God bless you and take care.

Thank you for the advice. I am not the partying type but like you had that guy the same way as you way to many times in my life and been hurt by them. It is so hard for me to make friends due to my shyness all my life as well as my hearing disability. I think I just found my true friend last week. One I can really trust. I spent the last week of June up to July 4th and celebrated his birthday with him July 3rd. We talked a lot, laughed and cried a lot. This guy even helped me to learn a lot about myself as far a trying to figure out my life. He is a guy that will remind me to pray and to live life to the fullest one day at a time the way God wants you to. We can talk to each other in a way we can not talk to anyone else. The guy has been through a lot of heart ache and pain in his life. I come to find out the week before the forth of July 2010 that my one and only truest, dearest best friend (who I never even dreamed could be my best friend) is my 16 year old son. He was taken from me when a month old and has been living with his grandparents (my now Ex-In-Laws) since he was 10 months old. He is always there for me. Can't have any better friend than a child being a not just a child to you, but a best friend. My son is the 'Light Of My Life.' So, yes, kaka10, I have found a friend that will be there no matter what the time or situation is and I don't need anyone else right now. God Bless