Do you sleep bare and is your toilet cover down?
By bonnie
@bunnybon7 (50973)
Holiday, Florida
July 13, 2010 10:51am CST
not wanting to make way to many discussions and needing to rant some more...sorry
i figured to make this about both things that annoyed me this morning...yes, there is more! with you all here maybe i will make it through this dilemma. when i was finding out where coconut disappeared to this morn, i was trying to be quiet but she came running out of the room (sons girfriend) totally bare!
now ive only slept like that when on a honeymoon with no one else in the place. NEVER when my kids were little in the house. maybe im a prude but i just dont think its right with kids and other people in the house. do you sleep bare when others are in the house? then, ive been debating whether to mention id like my (bathroom i use) toilet cover left up. whats the thing with younger folks these days? i never seen anyone put the whole toilet cover down when i was growing up. and what if you get up in middle of the night and sit down on it to urinate and its to late, you didnt see the cover down? whats with that? my daughter did the same thing and she said it was because it had a smell. and i said, then freakin clean it now and then!!lol.4 people like this
10 responses
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
13 Jul 10
Sweetie, make sure you plug the hosepipe in next time BEFORE you go to bed.
You will know what to do with it, when you see that girl running around naked in your house again.
As for that toilet cover. Take it off, then no one can play with it.
TATA.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
13 Jul 10
yes you dont know how much pleasure all of that would do me
very good idea. i wonder if theres a way to take off the lid without breaking it.1 person likes this
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
14 Jul 10
well guess what? when i spoke to son about the cover, he went and taped it open and told all that it was to remind not to close it. so problem solved there.
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
15 Jul 10
Younger people now do not respect their bodies, don't mind not having privacy. To them, it's a source of pleasure that they show off and flaunt so they can get a partner. Then again, some people just don't understand that others might be embarrassed to see the body of someone they don't know well. She's not family and even if she was she would know to cover up if she respected you at all.
I sleep in a tshirt and panties in the summer, PJs in the winter. I would love to sleep bare since I live alone but what if the house catches fire or someone breaks in or there is another emergency where I have to run outside?! I would be mortified for everyone to see me bare--and there would be a lot of upchucked dinner in the street! 
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
15 Jul 10
my feelings exactly right now. and when i was young, i had modesty. 
@cream97 (29085)
• United States
25 Jul 10
Hi, bunnybon7. I never sleep naked when other people are in the house. Especially if I have to get up and use the bathroom in the middle of the early morning. If I am naked, it is because I have the door locked shut and the curtains are drawn. Then that is very different. But to walk around naked when others are in the house, is risky. I know that you were very surprised to see your son's girlfriend naked. I hope that it does not happen again!
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
26 Jul 10
i spoke to my son about it and now at least she puts something on. and to top it he taped up the cover to the commode. 
@mentalward (14690)
• United States
13 Jul 10
That gal has absolutely no respect for you at all. And, as much as I don't want to say this, it's obvious that your son cares much more about his girlfriend than he does his own mother.
How did you handle the girlfriend's running out of the bedroom naked? How did you handle the toilet seat issue? If you don't say anything at all, it won't change.
As much as I'm sure you don't want a confrontation, it's obvious that there needs to be one or you WILL lose your mind. If I were you, I'd sit down with my son, alone, and tell him how these things are bothering me and ask him if it would be too much to ask of him to please tell his girlfriend to change these little habits of hers to keep the peace. If he does nothing about it, that would show me exactly how much he cares about me. It may hurt but it's better to know the truth than to hide your feelings and suffer alone.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
13 Jul 10
i think its obvious that he cares more for her and his own feelings then mine. i just talked with him a while ago and it ended up a big argument. she told him she was washing things on a week day because the dog (her dog) vomited on the bed and it was bed clothes...he told me this, but i said gee, im glad the dog didnt get on my bed, but then it had already vomited on both hers and the kids, so maybe my bed would've been safe he had no answer for that. im not sure what i'll do. iam hurt but cant figure a way into another place. oh forgot if its this discussion or the other one that i mentioned we wash on weekends but she went right ahead. i told him, im not paying half the eletric next month.@mentalward (14690)
• United States
13 Jul 10
You shouldn't pay half of anything while that girl is there. The most you should pay is a third because you didn't invite her there, your son did. It's up to him to handle the extra expenses for the two months she's there if she's not paying anything and, from what I've heard about her, I doubt she's paying a penny.
Have you asked at churches about house-sharing with another person or persons in the same situation as you? They might just know of someone and, remember, they'd only be strangers for a short time and you might end up being happier than you thought you could. Believe me, if I were in that kind of situation, I'd rather live with strangers than be taken advantage of by my own son!
I know how much it hurts when your son doesn't care about you. My youngest son is so much like his father it's spooky and has attempted to use me for my money, rides, whatever he needed at the moment. I had to finally tell him to grow up and not to contact me until he was ready to treat me with respect. It worked! Of course, the situation wasn't the same as yours because my son didn't live with me but the attitude was there.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
13 Jul 10
thats a good idea and funny you should say that as i was just outside thinking about that. getting a roommate to move into a place with.
@thumperdoll (45)
• United States
13 Jul 10
lol- i am 41, always sleep naked, my mother is 65-always sleeps naked, my grandmother on my dad's side sleeps naked (she says its a time of cleansing the body) and she is 87. so to me nothing new. but if i was in someone else's home, when i get up,i would throw a robe or some shorts on out of respect. as for the toilet seat-yes i prefer mine up. but my partner has 2 cats that play in water-im not a cat person but have compromised for my love. to put the seat down so they don't play and her mother does the same for her cats? maybe g'f has cats? or maybe she was raised to close the lid? i don't think that is so terrible. but to see your sons'g/f naked?? a bit traumatizing if your not as open minded and that isn't a bad thing either. everyone is raised different. good-luck!
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
13 Jul 10
and she has no cats. all we both have is one small dog each. that cant reach up to the comode. now i do know if you have a large dog then its a good idea or a cat that can reach it.
@Hatley (163773)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Jul 10
hi bunnybon7 hi oh wow stark raving naked? I would never do that in a house with little children and anyway I do not like to sleep naked.
And I hate it when someone leaves the lid down my hubby
did that one time and I go up in the middle of the night sat down and urinated all over the lid the floor and myself as I just could not wait. What a mess. Why is it that when it comes to cleaning the toilet nobody wants the job so mother gets it by default.
did that one time and I go up in the middle of the night sat down and urinated all over the lid the floor and myself as I just could not wait. What a mess. Why is it that when it comes to cleaning the toilet nobody wants the job so mother gets it by default.@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
14 Jul 10
see you are like me and believe in modesty and a certain amount of courtesy for others. yes, i got mad cause that happened to me at my daughters once, i ran so fast, slammed the door, which is hard enough to make it in the middle of the night for some of us older ladies and pulling everything down, without having to check the cover
thats why i asked my daughter about the cover on thing. so in my bathroom i need it left up. funny thing..son taped it up last night so everyone would remember and just a few minutes ago she asked about it so i explained it. didnt know he hadnt said anything...geesh
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
14 Jul 10
I think if u are going to sleep bare u at least ought to have a robe handy if u are going to get out of the bed.I think she is disrespecting u to start with sleeping w/your son in your home. I know it's his home to so think they both are not showing u the respect they should. Wonder what her little son thinks about the situation?
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
14 Jul 10
thats what i dont understand. she is so picky about what if anything he sees on tv. what people say in front of him,what OTHER people do in front of him and yet she is openly sleeping bare, etc. in front of him with a man and from what ive heard hes not the first one in front of the child!
who knows. i keep telling my son, this woman is bonkers but i guess hes going to wait to decide. who knows...uuuggg.
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
14 Jul 10
Hello
first question answer, i don't sleep naked since it's gonna upset my tummy or stomach, i slept how ever with my shirt and short on, it works better that way. as for the toilet, it's either i put perfume there or just make sure i flush it twice to be sure that it's clean. well, sometimes i put the cover down too@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
14 Jul 10
yes but do you live with an old lady? probably not. also, sounds like you are modest. which is a good thing. 
@good2go2001 (915)
• United States
13 Jul 10
Personally i cant seem to sleep with clothing on, i just feel much more comfortable and relaxed not fighting with clothing all night when i turn lol. But thats just me. On the other hand i would never walk out infront of anyone in my home or someone elses home totally naked getting out of bed. If one prefers to sleep like this then you take steps to make sure you have a robe handy next to the bed for situations that you have to get up fast. Hmmm that girl must not be very modest lol. I think if you ask your son to tell his gf to sleep with something handy like a robe close to the bed and to not run around naked then that is not to much to ask. As for the toilet lid, if you like it one way in your house then i think your son should explain it to his gf and she should respect your wishes on that, its simple to fix so she should not compain.
