How to deal with sensitive person
By aileen2008
@aileen2008 (838)
Philippines
July 13, 2010 7:49pm CST
How do you deal with a sensitive person. This office mate of mine, is so paranoid that she feels that she is the one that we are talking about.
Jokes that are meant to be really just joke means a lot to her. We talked yesterday and the line of the talk was all about "me" "me". Her dialogue went on like "For 7 years its always me who should understand people here in the office" "It's always me who should always give way to others" Its me who's showing patience" etc etc.
I did not contradict her yesterday because she was very emotional and whatever it is I will say she will just deny it.
I want to tell her that it is not fair to think that it is always and only her who adjusts to people. She should also think that maybe on the other people's end, they are also adjusting for her, being a sensitive person.
I just don't know when to say this but I want to say it. Do you think I should say this to her? When is the proper timing? I want to talk again to her later, part 2.
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6 responses
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
15 Jul 10
you should talk with her next time you see her but in a sweet way so she wont think even more things. anyway maybe she was teased in school or people used to be mean to her that now she has the sensation that the jokes are about her but she has to understand that people are not all the same and that a joke sometimes is not teasing with noone is just a joke^^ and not meant for her. talk in a sweet way and maybe she changes^^ and start to not be so sensitive^^
@jerikjames (1041)
• Philippines
14 Jul 10
Are you friends with her? If not, well I suggest you try befriending her. You should include her in your discussions with your friends. This is to avoid making her feel left out. I think it's the reason why she thinks she's what you and your officemates talk about. Anyway, befriend her first then spend some time with her. When she became comfortable with you, then subtly open up the topic of her oversensitivity. =)
@aileen2008 (838)
• Philippines
14 Jul 10
Yes I'm friends with her. Her being sensitive has always been a problem even with other people. She actually acknowledges that she is a sensitive person. But to think that we are laughing at her is too much of a paranoia already.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
14 Jul 10
You should give her the assurance that you are not talking about her. You can also include her in the conversation so that she wont feel left out. There must be a reason why she's feeling this way and maybe it has something to do with her past. Just try to understand her.
@aileen2008 (838)
• Philippines
14 Jul 10
I am understanding her. We tried to include her but she refused. I am ready to give understanding and patience to her, the question is how ready is she to receive it.
@prasunsam (356)
• India
14 Jul 10
To deal with a sensitive person,We need a lot of patience.We can't be aggressive with them.
@babyEj (1522)
• Philippines
14 Jul 10
It will be very hard to be in the company of too sensitive people. It'll be a long lone and unending patience until she learned "confidence". I was thinking that people who are too sensitive doesn't have confidence to face the nature or humanity with a lot of imperfection and good things. Since you are maybe closer to her then let her understand the REAL THINGS in LIFE but you need to be soft spoken , caressing her will be a help.
@aileen2008 (838)
• Philippines
14 Jul 10
Well that's my problem. I'm not the soft-spoken type. I tend to be brutal when it comes to telling the truth. Its difficult to be with her because, its like walking on a wire. Now I don't know when I should laugh at jokes because it might offend her again thinking that it is her that were laughing at.
