Do you add strangers as friends in your Facebook account?
By Theresaaiza
@Theresaaiza (10487)
Australia
July 14, 2010 6:29am CST
I notice some people popping out in my email notifications who wanted to be my friends at FB and yet, I do not know them. And when I go check, we barely have one mutual friend.
And so I wonder how some people just add somebody they do not know? (assuming that he or she doesn't know me)
Do you?
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49 responses
@kaka10 (178)
• South Africa
14 Jul 10
I have seen people popping up so recently I just decided to delete some of them and I de-activated my account with about 700 friends on it I find it kinda useless to me I never see some of the people and I don't consider them really good friends anyway. It really is very unpersonal on facebook these days.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
17 Jul 10
I also owe it to FB how I found the friends whom I haven't kept in touch with for a very long time. There are ways now to change your privacy settings.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
18 Jul 10
Exactly. But you'll be surprised at the number of people who do.
@jennbart (1330)
• Philippines
18 Jul 10
Well, with all those jerks and pranksters and bad people everywhere who knows who you might add? All the people I add in my Facebook are REAL people. Real as in I have seen and met them and really had spoke to them face to face and formed friendship with them. All the rest are ignored. :)
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
17 Mar 11
Hi. Theresaaiza. No, I hardly add anyone that I don't know onto Facebook. The only reason that I will add them is if they are a mutual friend of someone that I am friends with too. That is my only reason for adding them. If they decide to aggravate or bother me in a cruel way, I will just delete and block them from my friends list. End of the story.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
18 Mar 11
Hi cream, I use FB the same as you. Basing on the responses of some, I realized that we have different purposes for social sites especially FB.
Sometimes it's difficult to think that anyone should use FB to communicate with strangers and they're fine with it because I simply don't. But then, we can't run other people's lives, can we?
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
14 Jul 10
I do not add anyone without a purpose. Most of the people on my friends list I do know somehow, but I've added a few I don't know because they help me with a specific game that I play on there (it's better to add strangers than to keep annoying my friends to play this game they don't have an interest in). Aside from game purposes, I will not add someone I don't know.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
17 Jul 10
Restaurant City. It's the only one I play anymore. I got bored of the rest that I used to play.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
18 Jul 10
I tried Cafe world! But the characters looked like Zombies instead of Chefs so I stopped! Just like that!
Besides, the food also always made me hungry. Not good for the diet.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
17 Jul 10
I think in the game it's common for us to bump into other players as well. And you are right about adding strangers rather annoying your friends.
Which game are you hooked into?
@ET28LV (1890)
• Latvia
14 Jul 10
I do not use Facebook, but I use a similar site with name frype.com Yes I had added couple of strange people to my friends. It is the thing what we do here we too add unknown people, but there is opportunity to familiar them. I am always happy to make new friend not only here, but in real life too and It is not so hard to do. I remember before one month I and my classmates was traveling to one place and in one day we make more than 100 friends. It was something amazing when we familiar with one people group after some minutes we familiar with other people group and this groups familiar us to they friends etc. Take care, Have a nice day!
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
18 Jul 10
Camaraderie is a very good thing. But you cannot consider all of them friends. Only the truest ones will really be with you through thick and thin. In real life, most of, that is.
Well I don't like my FB to be flooded with people I don't know. You'll never know what they are really up to. Or what they can say against you and tell it to others.
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@ET28LV (1890)
• Latvia
18 Jul 10
I do not flood my frype friend list with strangers I only add, accept some. I do not had bad felling about this. I do not think that people with photo and ton photos in gallery can be cruelly. But, Yes I need to be careful, because in this world we can await all. Thanks for share, Take care, Have a nice day!
@Guit08 (597)
• United States
14 Jul 10
I don't add people on Facebook as friends unless I know them personally. Adding complete strangers whom you've never met can really invade your privacy. I think that some people on Facebook add strangers as friends because they don't want to look like they are being rude by ignoring them. They may also want to look "popular" because they have so many Facebook friends.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
17 Jul 10
Yes, I do feel rude ignoring requests. But it just doesn't feel right having them around, knowing about my whereabouts. Or probably already talking to someone else about me because of what I wrote on my wall, or photos that I upload which can really be very wacky. Some may even be embarrassing if seen by people who don't know me.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
17 Jul 10
Yes, I do feel rude ignoring requests. But it just doesn't feel right having them around, knowing about my whereabouts. Or probably already talking to someone else about me because of what I wrote on my wall, or photos that I upload which can really be very wacky. Some may even be embarrassing if seen by people who don't know me.
@venshida (4836)
• United States
18 Jul 10
I have add strangers to my Facebook page. However, I have my setting set that they only see public information. Things like pictures, they cannot see those. I am planning to stop adding strangers to my personal page because I am hoping to start a group for my business. I will accept them their because I want to build my business.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
24 Jul 10
That's a great idea. I've seen a lot of business-oriented accounts lately.
@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
25 Jul 10
I seldom add peopl to be one of my friends on my list. I check their profies first and if it oks so suspicious lik, there is nothing written on the profile, i usually decline. The best think is not to add people who you do not know and there are some instances that it automatically adds to your list. so, simply delete the name.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
7 Mar 11
My FB is already flooded with friends. Some of them inactive and some are total strangers but I confirmed anyway to be polite. SO long as they don't bother me, it shouldn't be of any problem.
Lately though, I no longer just confirm somebody's request if I don't recognize him or her.
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
17 Mar 11
Hi theresaaiza,
Facebook is a social networking site where you can meet people from around the world and if you donot add them how you would know about different cultures. Had I answered this discussion when you put it up then i would have said some yes but not all. But since then i have made another account to play farmville and i have added everyone who has sent me a add request. So i have about 2700 friends there. I hardly know anyone but i made a few friends there and yes Farm ville with so many friends going great.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
18 Mar 11
Hi to you too agrim.
Well the purpose for which we use some social sites is totally up to us. For me, to be able to mingle with people of different cultures and from different places is through myLot. There is that sense of reaching out to people but with a safe amount of animosity.
My FB however, is something that I only share with people I know or at least am connected in some way. Some mylotters are also FB friends too but I don't necessarily add everyone. I needed to protect my privacy as well.
@crysontherocks77 (1273)
• United States
20 Jul 10
most of the people i put on there are people I go to school with. I do sometimes but music singers and actresses on there. to keep up with who I am interested in. Just putting a stranger I usually. I have myspace as well, and I have more artists and stuff on there than friends.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
6 Aug 10
Yes I am quite familiar with fan pages for celebrities and artists. Just be careful.
@babymc23 (153)
• Philippines
18 Jul 10
Hi!
I admit when I started out in facebook, I sort of added friends so that I can have more visits in pet society. I was so addicted to it and only a few friends play that game. In the long run, I stopped doing that and filtered my friends list. Right now, if I receive any requests from strangers I automatically decline it. Sometimes, even if we have mutual friends but I do not know the person that well, then I decline as well. Better safe than sorry!.
@krnavtr (285)
• India
30 Jul 10
Yea i add strangers as friends in my Facebook account.I sent friend request to whom i know but when the other person sent me friend request,i accept them blindly though i don't know them.I have more than 500 friends in my account. I know few of the personally and few while chating and rest blindly accepted their request.I never ignore friends request rather i accept them.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
7 Mar 11
But it is not safe to just confirm anybody especially of late. There are hundreds of spammers, and hackers too. Some are real life thugs who choose their victims thru facebook. That is how they know the whereabouts of people and plan their attack or modus.
Just be careful.
@Mr_SlaYer (32)
• Bulgaria
22 Jul 10
I don't add anyone I don't know. I don't see a point of adding people you haven't heard about in your life.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
8 Aug 10
Some people are members of fan pages, or game applications where people don't have to know each other personally. yes there's a point in that, but still extra precautions are necessary.
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
8 Mar 11
No i don't you have your profile and some sort of about you that should have you friends and family should only knew. don't entertain people who you really don't know, they might as well know your thoughts and plans that you'll might post in your wall.
@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
16 Jul 10
Nope Theresaaiza, I don't simply add any stranger to my Facebook account. It's true that there are always suggested friends in list waiting for the approval. I regret I had added a few earlier without knowing their background at all. It's still lucky that they are inactive members there. Since the adds they never turn up anymore
I'm not an active member of fb site. Other than the few mentioned above I have around forty friends in my profile account. All of them are relatives and friends whom I know them well. I won't approve any new friend requests anymore unless they are people whom I'm familiar with.
Happy posting and have a nice day
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
19 Jul 10
Yes that is right. It pays to be careful. we don't want strangers nosing around our private lives.
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@gitfiddleplayer (10362)
• United States
16 Jul 10
No, all of my friends on Facebook are my friends. I could tell you something about each one of them. When people request me and I don't know them I always tell them that this social forum is called Facebook not Acquaintancebook. If I don't know them they probably don't know me.
@Bellapop (1279)
•
16 Jul 10
I've never understood why peope would add someone that they don't know to their facebook, it's like having a stranger pry through all your personal stuff. I absolutely never do this, adding someone I don't know or someone I've only spoken to a few times...
@sriroshan (2585)
• India
18 Jul 10
No never I never accept the stranger as my friend I have only 10 persons as my friends in facebook that too from my college and relatives
@cimmarie (11)
• United States
16 Jul 10
I do add people on facebook I may not know but only for games and only the games I actually play. If someone sends me a friend request and I don't know them off the internet then they need to put how they know me or what game. I have met alot of nice, wonderful people doing this.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
19 Jul 10
Yes I have also invited people before for games but even then, they were already my friends. Just be careful.