Thoughts on forgiveness.

Words are the easy way to treat this. If not available send a note or flowers. I'm so sorry I hurt you is one of the most powerful thing you will ever say and if from the heart will heal many things. Blessings

i agree but only forgiving yourself is mostly not enough. If you do something that hurts lots of people and you are hated for the rest of your live. Will forgiving yourself be enough? I think you should always forgive people when they are truly sorry but do not tolerate further mistakes on the same subject. as they say. Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me.

I agree with you because if we forgive ourselves we can move forward since sometimes we are harder on us than anyone else.

hello Pose, It is not easy to forgive,esp if the person who had done mistake is someone we love the most and trusted so much. But,it is also not easy to live with angry and hatred in our hearts. Accepting reality is one of the best way to render forgiveness and to say we are sorry if we done mistakes too. But,most of all,we always pray forgiveness for all our sins and wrongdoings,but we ourselves cannot forgive those who offended us. If GOD is righteous enough to forgive us,then,how can we cannot forgive those who did something wrong to us? Have a good day always

Pose 123 that is a very interesting subject! I have had many arguments with people over the years in some I was right, in some not but ,in most neither me neither those I've argued with were. Each and every time after that I apologize without thinking about whether I'm right or not. The important thing is to show that you are above such things and as you said "we should speak sincerely and from the heart". That is what it means to act with honor and show that you are a good, forgiving person, and do what is right, whether the consequences are good or bad. When you apologize it means you care for the person, after that it's up to him/her to decide if he/she cares for you.

stay out of bad area and that is the truth you know you never know what going to happen in this world

Pose- I feel that this particular question has two very different answers. I feel it depends upon the circumstances involved in the transgression. In terms of the general transgressions of life, those that are unintentional or even those that are intentional but minor I feel that yes we should forgive, and yes we should love those who we transgressed against. For example, if one calls another a name or speaks ill of someone I feel that person should ask for forgiveness, and be forgiven if they are genuine in their apology. And even if they are never forgiven I do agree that love is necessary and should be given freely regardless. On the other hand, I do feel if the transgression is violent that perhaps forgiveness is something the transgressor will never know. And nor am I sure if they should know it. If someone kills, rapes, etc, I am unsure how I feel about simply "forgiving" them. I do feel we need to move on with our lives, and try to heal but in my own path currently I do not feel forgiveness is necessary to do so. I feel if someone has done such a thing, they can only simply live with the knowledge of what they have done, as well they should. I do not feel they should allow themselves to simply say "Well, if I say I'm sorry it's all better". A good example would be with pedophiles. They should never be allowed to think everything is ok because they simply said "I'm sorry". Namaste-Anora