Was that a co incidence?

Hi, I understand your mom's fear is irrational but try to fathom the underlying love and care for your well being she has, Try to convince her very lovingly and tenderly or if she is a religious lady arrange for a priest to perform some rituals so as to remove the ill effect this will surely convince her :D, but don't hurt her by doing something against her wishes.

It's co incidence. Having the same surnames affects nothing. It's just a superstition. Even if you believe that it does, where's the logic in that? Now go persuade your mother that it's all just a big co incidence and marry your GF.

Are you saying that there was some kind of genetic reason for these people with like last names shouldn't marry or are you saying that your Mom thinks it's bad luck? ;It doesn't sound like genetics, in fact it just sounds like the normal things that happen to families no matter what their last names are.

I guess,it's all coincidence. In your country,having same last names is not a big deal,becoz,you were using your father's name as your last name(that is what i come to know) Unlike here in my country that,once you had same last name,the possibility of being relatives is very close ,and it is against our law,and also in most religion. (For we are not allowed to marry our relatives up to seventh degree of affinity,scientifically,it can cause some abnormalities with the offspring too) Unlike in your tradition,it is fine to marry your cousin. So,i think,it is all about coincidence. As long as you love each other,then go,let love prevail.

If you have similar surnames because you are related to each other, then your mom has all the reasons to be against your marriage. But if you are not related to each other and just thinking about what happend to some of your relatives who have the same surnames, then those were just coincidence. The situations that you enumarated did not happen only to your relatives with the same surnames. It is just a common scenario for husband and wife to fight and later separate. It is also normal in someone's life that they'll die if they did not take good care of their body when they are still living. So those instances, were not because of having the same surnames. That was their choice, that was their life. It is now up to you if you will live up to that kind of thinking. Sometimes, the more you think that it will happen, then it really will. So I guess, if you truly love your girlfriend, this is your chance to prove to them that it were all concidence and they are wrong about what they are thinking.

Well it is important issue. I she related to you in any manner? if she is they say it's not to healty to marry a cousin or such close relationship. IN may family I have a cousin who married his cousin and they have real healty kids so you know what just go for it if you love her. BUT try to live together for a while before you marry her.

Co incidence can happen quite a lot in life I think. It was a shame that your mom was against your marriage because both of you have the same surname. In some countries the three most common surnames are shown up a great deal in that place. Like in my home country Jones is a very popular name. Lucy Jones might marry Mike Jones. There wouldn't be a problem with that. Events happy or sad can happen in life and they have nothing to do with the people's names I believe.

I think this is just a coincidence, commonly known as timing. Having same family names for a couple maybe a bit awkward to the people because they would think that you're like getting married to another family member. Which should not be the thought of other people, the important thing is that the both of you should research about your family tree and check if you are really related or not coz if not then there's no problem. It's just like a belief that people brought down from traditions. there are some instances here that two people become a couple then later found out that they share the same father. That's the situation where you can call it weird.