I Hate Liars

dorannmwin, Like you, I do not like liars too. I will usually let it pass if the lie does not unjustly implicate or discredit or affect any one in reputation or put them into dire consequences with people or with the law. As for your friend, I do meet these people at work as well and if it does not affect the company or too many people I will not expose them. I will try and find out the reasons for their lies and see if there are any reasons for their inability to come clean with me.

From what you've posted here I have come to the conclusion that it's possible that she's just busy and possibly scatter brained so she actually did forget to reply.. though I'm sure you have other reasons to believe she's lying. I can't understand why she'd lie or refuse to respond.. but as I said, you must have your reasons to believe she's done so. I don't like being lied to either, and in the future I would avoid getting close with a person who's lied to me.

Well if I don't have to, I don't deal with them. Once, OK, maybe they did forget, but many times? I don't think so....

Hi, dorannmwin. I will eventually leave them alone. They know that I know that they are lying too. And they still continue to lie anyway. When they get like this, I will not bother with them. I don't like being around people that can't tell the truth if it means saving their own life! This girl knew darn well that she was not responding back to your emails. Don't let her fool you for one second. Play her for the fool and leave her completely alone.

She was giving you a very lame alibi to cover up her shortcomings... It is possible to encounter a liar in our lives. However dealing with them varies upon the degree of a lie. If the lie has been committed to protect me from getting hurt at the moment then, I can forgive. And will not take that against the person who lied to me.If the lie was committed to cover up something that is wrong and more painful then I don't think if I can handle it. for me, I deserve the truth. I can handle it no matter how painful it is But, lies, I doubt if there will ever be an easy way to deal with it...

How do I deal with a person I believe that have been lying to me? First of all I would ask all of the person's closest people about him as a person, is he honest, is he truthful. I would ask them about the thing I believe the person is lying about, it sounds like a big work but it isn't; all you you do is ask, get answer and that's all. If that doesn't satisfy me, I'll ask the person straight ahead and get it out of him/her, and tell him/her that if I find out s/he's been lying I will be angry with him/her. Other than that, I don't see any other ways to deal with a person you believe is lying, since the truth is in his own hands and not yours or anybody else's.

hi dorannmwin I hate that too when I feel sure someone has lied to me and is covering it up. I lost three sweaters here where I stay at this retirement center.I knew where I left the sweater'adn went back and someone had taken it I guess. I asked at the front desk as they have a lost and found, no it was not there so my question was' who took it as if they wear it I will recognize it. the girl at the front desk squirmed and would not look up at me. She did not respond so I got to thinking someone said she gathers old clothes to give to the poor and I wou ld bet my three sweaters went into her charity bags.not fair at all. not fair. if she had just left it on the chair where I left it I would have found it again. so now I am a lot more careful.When someone will not talk to you directly and cannot face you I am pretty sure they are fibbing to me.

i usually let it go and just never believe anything else they ever say to me. which is the point im at with sons girlfriend visiting right now. yesterday, she started wash on a tuesday, during the day when i had told her we do it on weekends when its cheaper on electric bill. well, son had always told me doing it on weekends is best and it was NEVER my idea in the first place. she did some this weekend so why im thinking and even asked her and she just said oh,i forgot about that. so, when son came home and i mentioned it was her and not i doing laundry, he said hed mention it to her.Well, dont you know, she came up with that the dog had vomited on the bed and she had to wash...which son threw up to me... so, realising this was her excuse instead of just saying shed forgot, like she told me. i decided shes one of those that makes up a lie given more time. so, i told son, well shes washing both their bed things and her sons bed things, im just glad the dog didnt make it to my bed imagine the look i got...lol.

I have no time to waste on liars. If I find you are lying to me and I find out, I will just write you off. I am forgiving if you make a mistake or just plain forget to do something as long as you are honest with me. The Lord only knows these days how often I forget something. But if I do I will tell you, not lie to cover it up.

Dora- It's definately a difficult position to be in. On one hand you want to give your playgroup the benefit of the doubt, but on the other hand it is a great inconveinance and let down. I would see if you could arrange a time via the phone to actually sit down and share your thoughts face to face. I realize that getting together is part of the problem, but solving them via email seems impersonal, and it seems as if it is not working. Simply give her a ring and let her know you want to have coffee with her, just her, and discuss your playdates. You may even want to bring your planner with you and schedule out playdates, if the discussion goes positively. If when you meet you find that you're just not getting a committed vibe from her, I would politely tell her that you just do not feel it is working out. I understand that it is very possible she lied, but to point this out by simply yelling at her and calling her a liar will do nothing more then burn bridges. However, going at from a practical point of view-schedules, it may allow her to see her own reluctance and have her evaluate her own behavior. It also may be very possible that she thought she replied, especially if she has more than one playgroup. I would just do my best to handle it calmly, not burn my bridges, and start looking for other playgroup opportunities. I hope this all works out for you. Namaste-Anora

I guess it depends on who the liar is - and what they're lying about. For instance we have one longtime friend who makes the lamest excuses why we can't get together on a particular day (you know he's lying when he makes a whole long speech out of it) . . . we know he's lying because we'll catch him in a lie by another one of his stories later on. Or he'll tell us he only has 20 bucks for the week - but turns around to buy a $200 star wars gadget. But - his lies only make himself look bad - so whatever - we forgive him - hee hee. I don't like liars in which it affects me personally . . . I will get mad (though maybe not to their face), I won't forget, and I will most likely not believe them about anything anymore. I get irked when it comes to playgroup/playdate moms, particularly when it comes to scheduling things. I remain civil and diplomatic, but inside, I WILL remember who the liars are!!

That is a hard one. I can't stand to be lied to. I do know that if you think about doing something hard enough. You can think you really did it. That happens to me sometimes. If it does happen often then ya I agree with you. She is lieing. I had that happen to me earlier today. I sent someone a message but didn't see that it was sent. Good luck with that.

I hate someone tie to me too , expecially my good friends . I had a good friend who cheated me of my money before , So I never keep in touch with he again after that time . And I will be sad , when I recall this thing . Do you have the same situation before , my friends ?

I hate when someone lies to me, it could end a friendship.

It depends on what kind of lie. I could deal with lies that are told because of their own safety and well being. I do not appreciate lies that are told to cover up a lazy act and just, and gets me flabbergasted (not sure if it is a word.) If your going to slack off, admit instead of trying to go a long way and hid the truth. People these days!

Its bad when someone lies to you...and its even more sad when your loved ones lie to you. I dont like liars, but i know there will be some reason for it.