Losing Best Friend

I would say that if this indeed was your best friend then a direct discussion needs to take place with this friend. Perhaps there is something there that has disrupted the friendship and you are just not aware of it. However, I have a really BFF and she and I were inseparable. In fact people use to envy her and I. They use to rumor that we appeared to be attached at the hips. We had the same fashion tastes, we thought alike, we helped each other out. In fact we kept each other secrets it was unbelievable. I have noticed that it has been long time coming but in the last, I would say 3 years a great deal of space has come between us. We don't hang out like we use to, we don't text each other like we use to, we don't even call like we use to. We had this phrase that when one got upset, we gave them space and when that person was ready the other would be right there for the other. However I have been evaluating other friendship and I am afraid we have outgrown our wonderful friendship. Does not mean we will never be friends, just means we will no longer be as close as before. Good luck to you and your friend, speak up and maybe you can find out what is wrong.

Just lost my bestfriends a few months. I know the feeling of longing on hanging with them and damn its really aggravating. It feels like I was being suddenly rejected by my bestfriend, and then I start speculating. :D I simply sent them a message on what I feel. I told them that if they no longer need or want me then they should tell me so that I won't be a fool trying to get close to them. But I just got over it now. I no longer long for them now neither would want to hang with them. :D

been there done that . it was too hard for me actually. first when i lose my friend for good as my friend turned me and never came back. the world just like crumbled down on me. my first reaction was Denial, ANger, and last acceptance, that my friend is totally gone. it has been 16 years. ha ha. i am old now, i lost my friend when i was a teen. it was the hardest thing that happened in my life. and still the hardest, wish you good things in life. and if i were you spare your self some pain, just accept it. and not focus on your sorrow. it doesn't do any good. i wished i didn't focus on my lost or pain.

probably it's only sched conflict. i feel at times that i do not want hang with anybody at all because of stress...sometimes i feel it is better to distance myself from my friends for a while...cause i might end up getting cranky with them. she'll hang out with you sooner or later, i believe.

I used to have that feeling with my first best friend from high school. We used to hang out all the time everyday. Now that we are in college, we rarely see each other and only talk to each other online sometimes. And, I get the feeling that he doesn't want to hang out anymore. I really hate that feeling.

I feel for you because I am having problems with my best friend at the moment too. Maybe if she is real busy, you could offer to help her out and then she would be finished quicker or if she is hanging out with another person, maybe you could go too. I wonder if your friends interests are changing and possibly she doesn't think you would be interested so that is why she is being like this. You should just ask her if you have done anything and see what she has to say.

I have that feeling, although I do know my two best friends really want to hang out with me, it's just schedule conflicts, I have a child one doesn't, the other is having trouble even seeing his little one... then they are dating, so that's even more time away... so yeah it's hard to see my best friends I miss them a lot but I try to keep in touch with them as much as I possibly can... Sometimes it just isn't enough.

Yes, I also feel that way. I have a bestfriend whom I hang out with some couple of months ago but right now because we are too busy with our works and other undertakings we spent less time together and no quality time anymore. I love hanging out with best friends because I can unload my emotional baggage and somehow felt relieve but recently, I am very busy with works so I spent less time with friends.

I also feel the same but on the other way. I think I have been losing my best friends ever since I entered college. We chose different paths. Now I am 8 hours away from them. Last time I went home in my province, my best friends asked me to go out with them, but I declined because... yeah... I am lazy and I am tired. I never have a good sleep since I was gone at home, that's why I chose not to go. And then after days and days, it felt like these best friends of mine are mad at me because I didn't go with them. But I promised that I would go with them next time, and I did. It is not the same as before, though. I wanted to tell so many things about me to them, but yeah... I didn't had the chance because they've been talking about their selves. Now I am doubting if I ever existed in their lives. I just don't know, but yeah I hope the next time we see each other, I could now tell these stories.... I wish...

first, i'm too sorry to hear that.but in fact,I meet the same siuation like urs.the person I really like,but she betrayed me and spoke ill of me,what a fu*kin amazing,i really dont know what i did made her hate me so much ,,,and i really can understand ur feeling,,REALLY TERRIBLE!!!!!!!

i will ask her, what the exactly happen with her. why she always do that to me? i believe she will tell to us, the truth it.then we will and must understand it.

Losing a best friend can be very difficult. Whether our friend moved away or us, and our friend had an argument, it can feel like a very loss in our life. Sometimes we outgrow friendships and we begin to have different likes and dislikes or lifestyle changes. It's perfectly normal to go through the loss of a best friend, but you should know how to handle the situation gracefully. If you dont wan to lose a friend, keep in touch with your best friend if he moved away. If you cannot pick up the phone all the time,then you can communicate through MSN Messenger or websites like Facebook or just write a quick email. Lastly, you can make new friends. Sometimes it is easier if we move on quickly and meet new people. Change social circle or blend two together. Look for friends who share the same hobbies, values and interests as you did.

As far as I know we feel so rejected and hurt when your best friend ignore or don't listen to us.I think you should give her some space because may be you approached her at the wrong time when she had other stuff to do and moreover she has her own life to handle.