If you answer back your parents, does that mean you're a bad daughter/son?
By ladyrhyme
@ladyrhyme (5)
Philippines
July 14, 2010 7:13pm CST
Before, I just keep quiet every time my parents scold at me or say something when they don't like the things i did. Now, I am at the right age and know what is right and wrong. I do sometimes answer back my parents when I think I am right. And it made my mom angry. As as daughter/son, we have the right to say how we feel right?
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8 responses
@jerikjames (1041)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
That's true. We the right to say what we feel. Just don't go overboard. I mean, it's OK to retort and answer your parents back, but just not to the point that you're disrespecting them. Even if they're barking or shouting at you, you just have to remain calm and explain. If they don't listen, then stop speaking for a while. When they calmed down, then explain your side. It's never wrong to say how you feel. I also answer back to my parents but just to explain my side. I don't want them concluding anything without hearing my part. But of course, just because we have the right to answer them back, doesn't mean we should abuse it right?
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@ladyrhyme (5)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
Well, i didn't abuse our freewill to answer back our parents though. It's just that to make them realize their mistakes and that not all the time they are at the right track. Thank you for your response :)
@candycane15161 (46)
• United States
15 Jul 10
I think you do. Parents just don't like it. I do it all the time. It sounds horrible, but if they can do it to us, then why can't we do it back. That is how I look at it. Well my mom always starts screaming at me for things that I don't even do. It would be something my siblings would do. So who knows. I don't know your situation, but I think you can do whatever you want.
@jackall77 (41)
• United States
15 Jul 10
Im sorry but I dont quite agree with you. If you place yourself in the parents position, a job has been placed on them the moment they brought you to life. Thier responsibility is to raise you into good citizens of the world that will respect all other human beings. If they are doing a bad job as parents because they are mentally or physically abusing you that is another story and you should take it up with the authorities. But if they are disciplining you then you need to obey and respect them so that you can learn and understand what it is that your doing wrong. Talking back is just showing them that you are immature and need more discipline, its just going to backfire on you and hurt them.
@candycane15161 (46)
• United States
15 Jul 10
Honestly I don't care about my parents. I only have my mother in my life cus my dad left a long time ago. And I ain't the type of person and sit there and be screamed at when I just walked in the house and she is pissed off because of my sister. I am good.
@bkrm_gupt (219)
• India
23 Jul 10
Yes every parents have right to scold their children when we are in wrong path.so we should not go beyond our parents words any more.
@jose431 (164)
• India
26 Jul 10
Yes i too believe that everybody got a right to speak on behalf of our self. Even in the court also we get our opportunity to speak on behalf of our self. But in front of our parents, we can keep our words in front of them but there is a way how we should express the things correctly and without harming the feelings of our parents. However sometimes parents are also one common human beings like everybody, that they don't remember all the times. They can also do mistakes and sometimes their thoughts can be wrong. In the end i just only want to say is speak the your own words without harming anyone and not only the parents....
@carline612 (142)
• India
29 Jul 10
I think that we should never go against our parents,if we does then it is believed that one day when you become parents, your children will do the same like what you have done before to your parents.Parents have the right to scold us when they know that we are following the wrong path.Always be obedient and speak in respectful manner.If in case you have done nothing wrong and when they scold you just listen to them never go against their words.They will never think bad about us since they knows our feeling better than other people.
@dfhonline (130)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
I always believe that you can answer back as long as you do it in a respectful tone or manner. It will probably gonna make your parents angry, but eventually when everything is calm and they too are thinking clearly they will see that you are actually conversing with them as an adult. And maybe in time they will realize that scolding you is not the best way to do it.
My mom stop scolding me after I graduated. She just talk to me and give her advices. When they see that you are capable of making your own decision and that decision is a responsible one, they wont be as commanding as they are. Remember that they are also learning in this whole process.
@Skade24 (750)
• Romania
15 Jul 10
I think that we have the right to answer back to our parents when we are right about something, as long as we keep the voice down, and keep the respect for them, because, they are still our parents that raised us, and we need to have respect for them. That doesn`t mean you are a bad daughter/son, it means that you sustain your point of view, and you are at that age when you decide for your life.
