scared yet excited
By homeshoppers
@homeshoppers (6166)
Philippines
July 14, 2010 9:02pm CST
im on my 38 weeks of pregnancy and im a first time mother, my doctor said i can give birth anytime from now since the baby is already full term though my due date is first week of august. i always have contraction and its very painful, i tried to walk and walk then at night i really feel the pain but just gone in a few minutes though they said its just normal and sign of falls labor.
im excited to see my baby inspite of all problems and trouble im into with during pregnancy. though i cant help sometimes but cry and pity for me and my baby coz the father of my baby is not around. i always complaint to my mother that its not really easy to get pregnant though she said its because i dont have a husband and she said if i have a husband i will not feel bad about it coz i know i have someone to lean and share for every feelings while im pregnant.
Im just glad i able to buy all stuff for my baby and was able to support my prenatal needs with the help of internet, i really cant forget this.
Im scared to think of the pain during labor and giving birth as i dont want any epidural to experience the reality of being a motherhood. i wish i will give birth easily with a normal and healthy child. I just want to share my excited feelings
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15 responses
@ada8may21 (2405)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
I remember when I delivered my first son. Its a mixed emotions at that time because I am a single mother and its only my parents who supported me. The father runs away so seems that I am the only one taking all the pain. No one is there to support me in different way. My family supported me but its different. I am so happy to see his first smile and seems that my worries gone for and makes me feel better.
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
yes your right, aside from the physical pain i also endure emotional pain thinking the guy left me though i already accepted that fact but i still cant help think about it and thats the worst part. though im lucky to have my mother with me but its still different if you have a husband. i hope that when i see her smile every pain i have will gone i already want to see her.
i already want to see her.@ada8may21 (2405)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
I've been in that situation, all I could say. Just remember the happy thoughts and happy moments you have with him so that your child will not have any problem emotionally. Take care and I forgot to congratulate you and wish you good luck. Stay safe.
@_Honey_ (780)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
Hello Homeshoppers, I've been coming across your posts for quite some time and I didn't even realize that all along, you're pregnant! It's so good to hear that and I am really congratulating you.
I can imagine how painful it would be getting pregnant. I remember my best friend who happened to be single mother. I brought her myself when we was about to give birth. LOL. I know it's going to be worth everything after giving birth and you will surely be happy when that wonderful time comes.
Keep us updated once you give birth and got back okay? :)
Good luck and God bless!
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
17 Jul 10
actually its a girl i already saw her in ultra sound. i already talk to my doctor about epidural as my family want it for me maybe because they dont want me to suffer a lot physically since i already endure a lot of traumatic emotional pain during pregnancy and they are scared that my mind might going to give up totally i just pray that everything will work out well and that after that day everything will back to normal.
i just pray that everything will work out well and that after that day everything will back to normal.
@oo0kulasa0oo (260)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
Hello homeshoppers,
Congratulations in advance to you and your baby! It's pretty inspiring how you share to us how the internet has been good to you during your pregnancy -- it is helping you buy all your baby stuffs and support your prenatal needs. That's wonderful! Are you, in any way, thinking of continuing your internet job and personally take care of your baby? Hopefully, it can also help you support yourself and your baby should you opt to be a work-at-home mom.
Good luck and God bless you both.
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
17 Jul 10
thanks, actually my internet income is just temporary since i cant hold of how long those site will stay for online income and i dont want to always think where to go and get the money every month for my baby specially if shes here already. and i dont want to roam around the net just to look for the site that will give me money yet im not even sure if the money will be enough to support me and my baby.
perhaps im just lucky right now to have thos site and its still not enough specially if i already need to rent my own as right now i live in my sister and i didnt pay any rent nor bills but just my needs and my baby needs. perhaps i will continue with internet income but just an added income only means i can work with it at home during rest day but i will still prefer to look for job as i know its a regular monthly income so no need for me to think where to get money as sometimes internet site become scam so theres really no permanency with it.
@ip5217 (1655)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
Hi homeshoppers, I'm 5 1/2 months pregnant and I too can't stop thinking of that day when I have to welcome my baby into this world. I am so excited, I wish I can make the days run to my delivery date. I haven't really focused my thoughts on the pain that I will be feeling that day. I don't want to be scared. One thing's for sure I can take all that pain. I have high tolerance for pain anyway. What is important is my baby is healthy.
The rest is correct. Just think of happy thoughts. Think of the good things you shared with that guy so you won't pass the negative energy over to your baby, avoiding emotional harm to him/her.
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
17 Jul 10
congrats with your pregnancy, if you have husband nor hubby with you then im sure it will not be hard for you during pregnancy coz you have someone whom you can share what you feel inside and who will pamper you with love and care, unlike me, during my entire pregnancy i dont have someone to talk with with what i feel, i do my own and talk to my own, whatever i felt is just inside my thought. i cant cry with my family whenever i feel pain coz im sure they will only blame me that its my fault so i rather absorb everything. its not really easy to get pregnant being alone, the emotional pain and physical pain is not that easy aside from having financial problem.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
I know it is really exciting to be a first time mom.
I can still remember how brave i am to give birth with my first baby.
I gone 3 days of labor pains with blood coming out instead of water.
Then after 3 days of pain labor and more than 10 hours of contractions,i delivered my first child thru ceasarian operation.
Just be brave and keep control of your mind.
I know it would be painful,and i also want to experience how it is really to be a mother and a woman.
I never experience giving birth with normal process,all my 3 kids were of c/s operation due to pelvis problem.
Don't worry dear,i know you can make it,just relax and enjoy your being a mother very soon.
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
17 Jul 10
wow 3 days of labor is really bad as right now i already feel pain down under but doctor said my cervix still closed so i need to wait in 2 weeks now. we talk about epidural as im really scared of the pain though they said only labor is painful but delivery is not. whatever best for us will do what matter is we both safe during that day.
@rainbowink (296)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
Hi homeshoppers. Reading and feeling the things you wrote made me become excited for you too. I'm just happy you're happy with having the baby. Good luck and although I have not experienced being pregnant yet and as a person who is very scared of pain, I'm just as proud as your mother lol. Don't think about the thought of "not having hubby around". Instead, think positive and say, "I have my baby inside of me and I have my loving mother who's always there for me. It's enough for me to be a HAPPY PREGGY" =)
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
17 Jul 10
yes thats what im thinking also so right now i dont think about that guy but i think of the baby and our safety during delivery. i hope everything will turn out well.
@rajaiv0810 (1012)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
Hey you're giving birth already? Oh my time really flies. I can still remember your posts before when you knew that you were pregnant and now you are already giving birth. Well yes it is painful but the moment your child would come out the pain will be gone too. I also wish that you'll have an easy and problem free delivery. Goodluck homeshoppers!
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
16 Jul 10
Congratulations, my friend. I'm sure you are looking forward to welcome your newborn soon.. and the feelings of being scared for the future and etc will ebb away once you see his or her lovely face. Have you knows the gender of your baby yet? All the best to you, I'm sure you will be a very wonderful, loving and caring mom.
@nangisha (3496)
• Indonesia
26 Jul 10
Hi Homeshoppers!.
I know its really hard moment to you right now to have a baby without husband. Here prejudice really hard to accept if you pregnant without husband, people will seen you cynically and thats why I think you are brave and responsible because you dare to keep your baby no matter what you will face in the future.
I am really glad that internet really help you. Keep strong my friend and I will pray for you and the baby.
@dian21 (606)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
hi. I totally understand that feeling that you are both scared and excited. When I was about to give birth, there was this feeling or thoughts that what if my body couln't bear the pain, or what if I die? Those were just some of fears. But thank God, He did not let that to happen, and I was able to give birth naturally without any epidural, but of course you have to anticipate the very terrible and unexplainable pain. Your mom may be right, if you have someone to lean on, it seems that you can share the pain to him. But since it is there already, just make your baby as your source of strength. Once you see your baby, whatever is lacking, you will really feel complete happiness. Just always be careful and prepare your things and yourself already. Good luck to you!
@edwardjoy2000 (2387)
• United Arab Emirates
15 Jul 10
I know you are excited. i am happy for you and your husband. Dont worry things will go fine. i shall pary for you.
@Handayani (27)
•
16 Jul 10
I'm 29 years old and i have two children, a son and a daughter. They are both lovely children. To be a mother is really wonderful and there's no important thing in your life except your children. It's very happy to see your children growth healthy, but before during pregnance, we will pass hard days. I'm really agree to your mother that an husband in our side is really important, he makes our feeling relax to wait baby's born and he help us to solve every problems that we get, especially when we will be a first time mother. But I'm proud to you because you can pass your hard days alone without your husband, and believe me your child will be a strong person. When you see your baby for the first time, you will feel that you love him very much, and sometimes you feel more love your child than your husband.
@waterproofpaper (139)
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
Why? where is the father?? It's fine, don't be afraid, you can pass all of that pain esp when you see your baby smiling at you, just be thankful coz you are one of the lucky people to have a gift of life, it may be hard but you will do all you can right, just anyone did when they are in that situations, you still have your mom with you and a lot of myloters praying for you. Good luck, when and where are you going to give birth?? maybe we can drop by...
@annwishes (54)
• Malaysia
15 Jul 10
First and foremost, let me congratulate you. I'm sure you are going to be a great mommy despite not having a husband to be around in raising the baby. But one thing for sure, the baby's father is missing all the wonderful experience of having and raising a child. I'm sure, he is going to regret this some day.
It's normal to feel nervous in giving birth for the 1st time. You'll do fine, don't worry as your family is around to give their full support. I was nervous too the first time. But once you get to see the baby's face, all the pain just disappear into thin air. Baby is very cute..and how i'm missing that precious moment. I want to have another one, i have three growing up kids at the moment, but some how my husband doesn't want any more kids.
Well homeshoppers...congratulations once again. I bet the baby will look just like the mommy...though I've not seen you (LOL), i guess you must be pretty inside out.
Best wishes.
