Child Support (or lack there-of)
By sexysilver
@sexysilver (928)
United States
July 14, 2010 9:49pm CST
My ex & I separated back in '07 (he left Christmas Eve to be exact).
It was only last summer after a long, drawn out, bitter divorce that custody & child support was established. (I got custody & he owes child support).
Since he court ordered him to pay child support, he hasn't paid anything. It hasn't really bothered me too much ... I make sure my children have everything they need (from food to proper clothing to an abundance of toys - they are 3, 3 & 4)
Well, earlier this week the paperwork finally went thru at the child support office (they called & let me know) - he owes OVER $5,500!! Wow. I know the child support collection agency will get that money (garnishing his checks), but....WOW.... I didn't realize it was that much.
I was very surprised, & very happy. I have provided my children with all their basic needs, but that money could help lighten the load & make room for some very pleasant extras. I haven't seen my great-grandma since I was pregnant with my oldest & would love for my kids to see her (she is very elderly & I would love my kids to see their great-great-grandma before it's too late.
I guess there isn't a real big point to all this, but I just wanted to share & say WOW...
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@peachesplay (7)
• United States
15 Jul 10
well im happy to hear that you will be getting your child support soon. it sad thing to have to go through the court to get the dad to help with there own kids. im going through the same thing with my daughter father. he is 16 thousand dollars in the hole with his child support.he is sitting in jail now because of it. he ask me could i drop the child support but i said hell no!!!! because when i gave him a chance to take care of his daughter he wouldn't do it for 2 year i worked 2 jobs to take care of my daughter and he didn't help any. so he can sit in jail or come up with the money. i didn't make her alone and im not going to take care of her alone.
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@sexysilver (928)
• United States
15 Jul 10
wow! 16 thousand?
I know I won't drop the c/s payments for my ex either. He put his 5 minutes of fun into making these babies, he should enjoy the 18+ years of responsibility that comes with it ;)
He hasn't been around really (he sees them MAYBE once a month - his parents take his visitation weekends more often than he does!)
Thankfully I met a wonderful man who has really stepped up & been there for my kids (he had a friend that was my moms co-worker & they both came over for a BBQ last year).
Yes, I was hesitant to start another relationship, but I think it was a great decision & am thankful for the great husband I have to stand by my side now & whom my children adore (they all call him "Daddy" because he is the only dad they have seen for the majority of their young lives).
@peachesplay (7)
• United States
18 Jul 10
well i'm glad you met a great guy and i'm glad he is stepping up to be the father your kids need. just think about it this way your ex is missing out on your kids life and he will regret it. you just do what you have to do to take care of your kids. i wish you the best of luck and just stay strong!!!
